Restraining order?

Question

I just ended a 3 year relationship and the other person is not taking it well. It has about 3 weeks now. The 1st week was fine, but after the 2nd things started to get out of hand, and she ended up having to spend week 3 in jail. I thought things would get better and that we could both move on. I also thought the week in jail would be just what she needed to cool down. I was wrong. Now that my ex is out of jail, and living a building away from me, things are getting tense again. A friend convinced me that things were fine and that and that my ex was moving on, but I could tell that was not the case. 3 friends of mine have told me that all the time they spend with her she is talking about me and that yesterday she told them that she is still planning a way for her to mess me up. They think I should get a restraining order. I thought about getting one when she was in jail, but I was hoping that she would come out of jail with this new out look, and didn’t want to seem like I was still mad by having a RO waiting for her. I don’t fear her doing physical harm to me and I think if she tried to hurt me physically I could handle. What I do fear is her hurting herself or her property and blaming me for it. Just a week and a half ago, I awoke to her in my room with a knife, and told me that she wanted me to kill her, and if I didn’t she was about to end her life in the next 48 hours. She ran out and by the time I got dressed and went to look for her she was gone. After looking for her for a 1 ½ days, the police, came by looking for me because she filed a report of me stalking her because I left 3 phone calls asking her not to kill herself. She is not a very truthful person so I can’t really put it past her to try to do something to get at me. Is it worth getting a restraining order? And if so should I?

Answer 1

Document everything! Yes, please get a restraining order ( another form of documentation)! Call the police when she is acting nuts ( more documentation). I made the mistake of not documenting or calling the police when my spouse was abusing me. When I fled from the crazy nut and filed restraining order, then filed for divorce, he then turned around and filed one against me. These types of people are unpredictable and they try to manipulate the system to make everyone else think that you are nuts. I did not have enough official documentation except for the restraining order which was not enough to prove my case. My divorce became final but he should of ended up in jail instead of living free to abuse someone else!

Answer 2

Um, yeah. It's worth it. Get the restraining order. From what you've said, she seems very unstable (and suicidal). Being in your bedroom with a knife? What if you hadn't woken up when you did. She may have been planning something else and had to make up an excuse when you caught her. A friend of mine had a similar experience (with an ex that lived very close) and she ended up having to get a RO. That really helped. It sent a message that she was not kidding around and to leave her alone. It might be just what you need. I definitely think it's worth it. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

If she has filed the order she should not be in problem if she chooses to interrupt it--yet she's making a large mistake if she does. The restraining order replaced into positioned into result to guard her from this guy. The court docket gadget gained't take her heavily if she deliberately places herself in position to be close to him.

Answer 4

A restraining order is a good thing to do for keeping a record of her behaviors with the police. But it will not completely keep you safe. Unless she changes her behavior soon, you are not in a good situation. Be prepared to relocate, change names, or whatever you need to do to be rid of the behavior this person is exhibiting. Do not acknowledge her in any circumstances. Be ready for drastic behaviors coming from her to get your attention, including trying to kill herself or someone else close to you. Be sure to document everything that she does to you. Believe me, it can, and will get worse. I know, I have just gone through the whole situation.

Answer 5

Nex time she does anything call the cops. And call her parents and let them know how she's acting. When the cops show up tell them you want to file a report so you can get a restraining order. She sounds like a real whack job that's wanting nothing but attention.

Answer 6

well i dont think a restraining order will be a hell of alot because if she comes at you again your just going to toss a peice of paper at her and that will not scare her, but follow your instincts and if u feel u need the restraining order to protect your self then get it!
but u need to know if u do anything after she trys to kill u then its not your fault even though shes a girl if she trys to kill you dont just stand there and do nothing

Answer 7

One word. YES. If she is planning to cause physical harm to herself or someone else that can be a problem. I think that you gave her enough chances. She needs to control herself in a different way and i think the RO will teach her right. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 8

Try talking to a friend or family member of hers, she's obviously not well emotionally. I'd still get the restraining order if I were you, to protect YOURSELF. I know you're worried about her, but dude, you gotta watch out for yourself too! The whole knife ordeal, that's SCARY!

Answer 9

You probably should get that restraining order. Have the locks in your place changed while you're at it -- you may not fear her hurting you physically, but there's not much you can do if she can get in and stab you while you sleep.

Answer 10

I would say go for it Although some people don't care if there is a restraining order she would probably still stalk you...I would say to get some of your girl cousins and have them whup her *** to teach her a lesson or admit her to an insane asylum.