how do I tell her that without upsetting her?
2006-12-05 08:38:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
You don't.
If she doesn't see it for herself, there is little chance that she will go on a diet and lose weight. Losing weight is difficult for most people and requires lots of determination and perseverence. This effort isn't likely to happen if the person really doesn't feel that they need to lose weight, and prodding by a spouse usually only generates bad feelings and loss of self esteem.
I really don't understand why it is that you feel that you need to tell your wife anything about HER body.
2006-12-05 08:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, explain that you love her just the way she is. But let her know that you are starting to get concerned about the extra weight you've noticed she's been putting on. Tell her that you're concerned for medical reasons (being overweight is linked to a whole host of medical problems, like high blood pressure) and suggest she meet with her doctor to discuss weight loss for her future health. Then, tell her you'd be happy to change your life with her. You could both improve your diets and exercise together so you could be an encouragement to one another. I think the best way to not upset is just to reassure her that you love her no matter what, but that you would really appreciate if she got back to a healthy weight.
2006-12-05 08:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way coming from another woman, do you all go to the gym together or anything?
I weighed about 125lbs and I am 5' 4" after I had my second child it was very hard for me to lose any weight no matter what and I started on Meridia along with regular exercise evernight and I am again there.
Good Luck and be supportive if she is willing to listen and try to help herself!
2006-12-05 08:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to not focus on her and her alone, but to focus on both of you. Something like: "I've been thinking that we should start an exercise and diet routine together to ensure that we are able to stay healthy."
If you make it seems like both of you should exercise and diet then it may not be so hurtful as focusing on just her. If she is uncomfortable or unhappy with being overweight you may be the only person she thinks accepts her for who she is, so confronting her personally may traumatize her. That's why I think it's best to make it a joint, team effort.
Just a thought. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-05 08:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by ready 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not possible, dude. The thing to do is make sure you are in shape and have an active health lifestyle, invite her to join you in that lifestyle. If you don't need to lsoe weight., market it under "I just want to be in better shape for my health". If your wife asks your opinion, I suggest the answer go along the lines of "I want you to be healthy and to live a long time in good health."
NEVER make any connection between your wife's weight and her attractiveness to you. She makes that connection and her self-esteem will crash. It is completely demotivating and youc an't make someone lose weight for you, they have to want to do it for themselves.
2006-12-05 08:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by snowgoose8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she would like to start working out with you a couple times a week. You can both stay in shape and spend some good quality time with each other.
2006-12-05 08:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by allknowing 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to dinners at healthier restaurants.....tell her how nice she looks.....give her the self-esteem back that she seems to have lost and she'll probably start losing the weight on her own.
2006-12-05 08:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by SUZI S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm just taking a wild guess, but I'd bet YOU need to lose weight as well. Do it together.
2006-12-05 08:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by D-lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that the 2 of you work out together..walking maybe. Also, gently tell her that you would like her to eat healthier and slim down because you're worried about her HEALTH...make it for health reasons, not about the way she looks...reassure her of your love for her...you're treading on risky ground, so choose your words carefully..
2006-12-05 08:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's possible, lol.
No seriously, it depends on why you think she needs to lose weight. If it's for medical reasons, tell her that you're concerned for her heath and be very supportive.
Otherwise, keep your trap shut.
2006-12-05 08:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by Laura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋