re:A mother of 5 children in a bi-sexual relationship?

Question

I wrote in earlier about me being in a Bi-sexual relationship and a mother of 5 kids who were not aware of the situation. I just want to explain a little more..... My relationship with my partner started as just a curiosity thing knowing that every since I can remember I was always attracted to women....One thing led to another a little more serious than i expected and so two years later here we are and I love her. I didnt have 5 kids just to turn bi from 1 day 2 another or to make them sick about it either it just happened that way and I fell in Love. I guess you cant help who you fall in love with. Over all my partner has supported me more in every aspect of our relationship than my kids dad ever even got close to. She loves my kids and does more for them there dad in 14 years ever has....My kids have a very big attatchment to her as well and like I said before the kids that dont agree with it werent in the home 4 4 years prior and I really didnt think that this day would get here

Answer 1

Even though I am straight, there is nothing wrong with being bi and raising kids. people are raised to be closed minded and therefore have no real arguments on the matter because their opinions belong to their parents and friends that are also closed minded. My father was closeminded and my mother was neutral. Luckily, I didnt turn out that way ,I am more openminded than others and think that its okay. Are you on crack, beating your kids, molesting, raping them? That would bother me more than you loving someone of the same sex. people need to see the bigger picture.

Answer 2

It sounds like you just want some support.
Do you have access to www.pflag.org?
How about HRC?
Can you find a counselor who specializes in these issues?

I suspect this will all work out just fine.
She loves your kids and your kids have an attachment to her.
Kids know the importance of love more than anything else.

You were VERY young when you had your first child. You're not that old now. It's understandable that you arrived at this decade without suspecting that you'd fall in love with a woman.

I wish you all, you, your partner and your children, all the best.
Good luck!

(PS-get some support in real life, individually and/or together)

Answer 3

I dont judge people for what they feel and want with thier life.. For some people they couldnt just come out and say what they felt about the other person and u have and i give u "snaps".. It takes alot from a mother like u to be who u are and care for your children like u do.. I didnt get the first part of the story but god bless u and merry christmas

Answer 4

I don't understand the question.

I think that you should ease your kids into telling them... I'm sure that they may already have suspicions. A friend of mine recently came out of the closet and her 3 kids accepted her anyway and weren't too suprised. The great thing about kids is that they love you unconditionally, they may not like what you do and they may lash out at you for it initially if they're closed minded but no matter what, they will eventually come around.

Answer 5

You have an obligation to provide a safe, loving home for your children. You are not obligated to lead a lifestyle that they agree with. You need to be happy. That being said, I would (personally) keep it fairly well under wraps to make things easier on the kids in school, etc. But that is a personal choice and one which you must make. Please don't think that I am saying that you should in any way be ashamed... its just that things are different when they effect the lives of kids.

Answer 6

It just seems you want someone to tell you that what you did was right?

Any married person can help who they fall in love with. When you start feeling attracted to someone and start thinking about them romanticly, you get away from them before it turns into sex or love. Cheating is cheating, the fact it was with a woman doesn't make it any less wrong.

Answer 7

if your kids live at home then thats not right to make them feel wierd at home cuz there mom and here girlfriend are always there. if your kids live on their own then its up to to tell your kids to accept the two of you cuz it ain't going away.

Answer 8

I'm sorry, but if you're looking for validation, you won't get it from me. Homo and Bi-sexual relationships are NOT normal, period and you run the risk of really, really messing up your kids!!

( C'mon - bring on the thumbs-down!)

Answer 9

I wouldn't worry about it. If you are single and divorced from this guy it shouldn't matter who see's your privates. As far as acceptance it starts with you. Can you accept yourself? That is all that really matters.

Answer 10

ummm.... so what is the point. As long as ur kids dont learn from you (if you dont want them to) its fine. Also, if you guys are in bed, ummmm... I dont want the info. Good luck!