I loved my hubby to bits but he got violent so I had to leave.
Have you been in this situation ????
Do you still miss them
2006-12-05 08:37:43 · 18 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I couldn't be with him again as he hit my kids and chased his boss with a machete
2006-12-05 09:01:10 · update #1
people always love the people that hurt them the most.
i have a friend who boyfriend abused them and they kept going back until one day he stood over her and kicked the crap out of her.
it shouldn't have taken this to get it through her head but it did.
you may love him but if he had the b***s to hurt you he obviously didn't love you
yes you will always love him but get it out of mind. their are plenty of people out their who will appreciate you more.
it'll work out without him
2006-12-05 08:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by betsy032187 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not in this situation now, but I have been in it. My ex was violent & I was with him for about a year. When we split I felt like my world was coming to an end. After about 3 months I felt so good about myself & realised what a waste of time it was being with him. I had to move on for myself & I realised I deserved better than that. Hopefully, you will realise, too. There's no certain amount of time in order to get over the person. It may take you a lot longer. Just please whatever you do don't go back to being in that situation. Learn to love yourself & someone will come along that will love you, too. Good luck~
2006-12-05 16:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea I know how you feel. My husband and I just split up 2 days ago. We've know eachother since I was 14 and i'm 24 now. I thought that i knew him but these past couple of months he changed so much. I love him to death, but i'm not gonna be his dumb-***. I miss him like crazy, i want to call him just to see what he's doing. Have the kids call him to see if he's with another girl. I can't sleep without him here. But I deserve better and so do you, just stay strong I'd rather be alone, than in bad company. Plus think about the kids, its not healthy for them to grow up in a house liek that. Well Good-Luck, girl.
2006-12-05 16:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by chulababy210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The story of my life! I have had many relationships that were toxic. In the end it only hurt myself by staying with them. Usually I stayed longer than I ever should have. I've experienced mental, verbal, mental and physical abuse. I've also dated drug addicts and men with too many issues! You have done the right thing by leaving. Yes it is hard! Especially when you love them so much. you believe that you can change them or that they will change because they love you, but usually they don't. Staying in those kinds of relationships cause you to loose a part of your self. Your self esteem, your self respect, the way you feel all change. The only way to heal is to get out and learn to love yourself. It takes time, but it get's easier and when the time is right God will put someone in your life who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. I had to go through a lot of bad ones, but they led me to the man I have now. I am very happily married and my husband is a wonderful man! He treats me like I deserve to be treated! But I will tell you even today I still think back on lost loves, and still care for them, but my heart has healed and I have moved on. You can do the same!
2006-12-05 16:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been in that situation, and it took me close to 10 years to leave. Still miss him?
No. The bad things left no room for the few good things. So, when I have a kind thought of him, the bad quickly reminds me of how wrong it was.
2006-12-05 16:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no answers for you because I'm a man. I just wanted to pop in and say how unimaginable it is to me that you can miss someone who was violent. I guess I see people as having likeable qualities and dislikeable qualities; violence would definitely go in the latter category. He must have had a lot of great things about him for you to have loved him so much! Too bad he ruined it with his violence.
2006-12-05 16:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have not had a violent husband, but i have had a love and have had to let him go...its been so long now but i am still not over him, i don't think i ever will be...
you will always miss him, but you will learn to live your life without him.
i feel for you....
Now that you have left he may get help and then you can be together again.
i wish you all the luck in the world
2006-12-05 16:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Pacific Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any human that uses violence on another is an animal and you without doubt were very correct to leave him.
Look for someone that loves you and that you are not frightened of.
He is a total sh-tbag
The only thing you will miss is the beating getting worse.
2006-12-05 16:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is an alcoholic, Ive seperated but its nice to know some1 out there feels the same. It was and is the hardest thing Ive ever done and miss him every day but I love my kids more. Good luck xx
2006-12-06 18:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey well I'm not married or any thing but i had to leave my Girlfriend, she became very insecure and would freak out if i went out...she never wanted to go out and didn't want me to go out, the problem is that I'm a model and i had photo sessions and party's to attend, i do not miss her because a week after i broke up with her she had a new boyfriend so.... its best to move on and to forget that part of your life!!
2006-12-05 16:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by merry meet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes he obviously had something to teach you and he did the facr is you will always love him a soul mate perhaps but you just cudnt put up with the violence bless you and quite rightly so yes my love ive been there and yes I love and miss him but cant be with him xx
2006-12-05 16:41:18 · answer #11 · answered by Country Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋