is my 3 month old spoiled?!?

Question

i've read lots of places that you can't spoil a new born. i beg to differ! my son is just barely 3 months old. hes ok in the morning, but once afternoon hits, he wants to be held. and the minute you put him down, the screaming starts...pick him up...he stops! this has been going on for a month now. i feel bad cause he can't even sit up on his own yet...and i'm sure hes bored, but i can't get a THING done and i stay home all day! i hate to hear him cry, but i have to do something. any suggestions?

Answer 1

Hey you know I have four kids 7 years old all the way down to 18mos old. There was something I read years ago when had my oldest and was going through a very simular situation.
Cleaning and scubbing can wait til tomorrow
for babies grow up I learned to my sorrow
so quite down cobwebs dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby
and babies don't keep!!! Not sure where I read it or who wrote it but it stuck with me. Before you know it he'll be running around yelling and playing. He'll only be little for one second enjoy it!!!

Answer 2

I have a baby einstein play mat I started my son using it when he was 3 weeks..it keeps him entertained and stimulated.
We also have a swing that my son sits in and watched baby einstein videos...also we started him watching the musical videos at 3 weeks.
He also has a bouncer seat...he never really liked it in the beginning but now he will sit in it and play. It has a recline position so he's not slidding out of it.
Giving him things to grab at or at 3 months "wack at" is what he's interested in. COLORFUL and MUSICAL items!

Now that he's 5 months we got him an evenflow exersaucer and even though he cant sit up i just put a soft fluffy blanket around him in the seat and it stablizes him...the box says you can use it at 4 months.

I stay at home all day as well and with out those things I couldnt ever get a thing done. I move him from toy to toy to keep him happy!

Also a Stroll outside in the Stroller will put lil man RIGHT TO SLEEP!

AND Tummy Time will be fun for him put make sure you watch him and in the beggining only a few minutes a few times a day is all he'll want.

Answer 3

I agree with whatever you've been reading: You can't spoil a 3 month old.

Alot of 3 month olds need to feel secure all the time. The way they get that secure feeling is through touch and being held. It's perfectly normal and no amount of holding and cuddling will spoil him--at least not at this age.

Also, you mentioned that he won't sit up on his own yet and that's perfectly normal. Most babies don't sit up on their own until they are 6 or 7 months.

Answer 4

My daughter is the same way some days. Ive managed to balance it out, when its time for her to eat I feed her change her play with her for an hour and then wrap her up nice and warm and she will either sit contentedly or go to sleep. Then four hours later I do it again and spend another hour with her and get things done around here. SO that is kind of a routine and she is getting attention in regular intervals so she doesnt feel abandoned. That is what works for me and I am way to busy to coddle her all day so she has learned some self soothing techniques. In the evening when I can relax and I want to watch tv I lay on the couch with her and talk to her and play with her during commercials for an hour or two then she goes to sleep for the night..so that is al i can suggest...play and hold the baby for intervals in the day and if the baby wants to fuss when you cant be near him then give him a soother or wrap him up really warm or put him in a quiet room by himself to see if he sleeps.

Answer 5

I think its just a phase. If he wants to be held, hold him. Get all your important things done in the morning when he is fine. At that age some kids fight sleep by crying and screaming. Give him some time, he'll be fine. When my little one was a baby she would be particularly clingy when I had something important to do. She probably picked some signals from me. When I was relaxed she would relax too.

Answer 6

Put a blanket out on the floor, lay him on his tummy and put toys around him. He'll be entertained for a while and if he starts to cry a little let him. As long as he's safe he should be fine. This helps baby's get a strong neck and learn how to push up and eventually learn to crawl. I know he's only 3 months but there's nothing wrong with an early beginner. Keep a close eye on him but he should be fine and learn to like it.

Answer 7

Three months old is too young to manipulate people, he just wants to be near you. The afternoon meltdown is very common. Breastmilk supply is lower in the afternoon, dad and other kids come home from work, he gets tired and overstimulated and needs to wind down. My second one was like this, I just got a sling and carried her around all afternoon, it was mainly between 4pm-8pm for at least a few of those hours. It went away as she got a bit older.

Answer 8

in the baby room of the place i work, there is a baby aged 8 months, he knows exactly which staff member is going to lift him and he defo crys more wen shes there. we dread her coming into the room because we know whats coming from this child lol. he is fine wen shes not there and plays away with the toys and gets lots of cuddles from the other staff, just not constant like this certain one does. u cant say anything to her so we just bare with it. but this is why i feel a child can be spoilt because this one just seem to know exactly what he needs to do in order to get what he wants.

not sure about babies as young as 3 months tho! i dont really think they have the understanding for it maybe he just feels more comfortable being lifted

Answer 9

I agree with others who said you cannot spoil him at this age.

Since it happens in the afternoon, he is likely tired, and having an immature system, may need comfort and rocking to help him get to sleep. You do know he needs a good afternoon nap, right?

As for getting things done.... I used to use a snuggley thing that put the baby in front comfortably. My oldest needed my comfort when she was little. She would fall asleep in it sometimes. I cleaned, did laundry, cooked, etc. with my baby safely cuddling with me. My motions put her to sleep.

See if you can find one of the packs that can be used in front or back and adjusts as the baby grows. It will come in handy for family outtings later as he grows and daddy can carry him too.

God Bless,

Sue

Answer 10

I don't think you can spoil a 3 month old. I have one as well and he likes to get picked up and I do. He's my first son, I run to him when he cries. But my b/f tells me to let him cry sometimes but i can't find myself doing that. I also have him on a walker w/a blanket around him that works.