Okay, I've been married for almost 4 years, have two baby girls, love my husband, chose him over this guy.
This guy keeps popping back up into my life. I have many ex boyfriends but it's just this one that I keep seeing or having contact with!
Anyway, I randomly run into him and his wife (they have no kids) at odd places like restaurants, driving past them on the street, construction sites, etc. My husband used to work for him, too, after we were married and that was an accident too!! Also, I just found out that we have unclaimed property under BOTH our names so I've been in contact with him several times the last few weeks and supposedly he's coming over tomorrow night to get the stuff together to send to get our property back. So, what's up with all of this? What do you think of it? I always wanted to just be friends with his wife and him, but his wife is jelous.... and really young! So, what should I think of this? What should I do? And I have unresolved concerns dealing with him
2006-12-05 08:35:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get the issues resolved that you feel you are in need of putting closure on. Be faithful and honest with your husband about what you are feeling. Realize that you are an adult now and that we all have skeletons in our closets and the past is just that, the past. If necessary inform this fella's wife that you haven't any interest in her husband and that it would be nice if you could all be friendly towards each other as life is too short to carry grudges etc. Good luck.
2006-12-05 08:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "what should you do" are you reading more into it than you should be missy?
Your married and have a husband, I thought you loved him, you want to end up on the steps of the court house wishing you'd never thought about all this, keep going, that's where your headed.
Your on thin ice, your going to get a cold bath. I suggest you forget this guy and the "stuff" if you've gotten along without it all these years, you don't need it much. Your headed for trouble with your thinking.
2006-12-05 08:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your business and move one. Don't take running into someone to mean anything other than you go to the same places. The fact you have unresolved issues with him tells me his wife is right to be jealous.
2006-12-05 08:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably pure coincidental especially if you live in a small town. The worst thing you can do is read more into this then there really is. Be polite but dont be pushy. Talk to him if he or she talks to you but dont bring up the past. Just be yourself and what happens will happen. Good luck
2006-12-05 08:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your husband is home when he comes over.
Or better yet meet at the office of the lawyer who is handling this. Get it done and then that's it.
Don't try to remain friends. Just stay away. These things never work out well....
2006-12-05 08:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand the issue. You are married. Do you know what the word married means? I also do not know why this great desire to be friends with him and his girlfriend. She does not want that. You need to pay attention to your marriage and your babies. Even entertaining ideas otherwise is asking for trouble
2006-12-05 08:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Coincidences are coincidences and nothing more. You dated this guy, spent a portion of your life with him, even owned property together so just realize that it's a no-brainer that he will pop back into your life.
Don't read into things....that how unfaithful sposes get started.
2006-12-05 08:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not be friends... BUT ONLY FRIENDS. If his wife has problems with you two being friends then I could see that being a LEGITIMATE reason why you two arent...But Im friends with all of my X's, and they are good friends with my now husband. So it all worked out!
2006-12-05 08:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your property and leave it at that, You have no bussiness in getting in between husband and wife, specially if she doesn't like you around.
Good luck
2006-12-05 09:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your last sentence says it all. What are your unresolved concerns? are you jealous of his really young wife?
2006-12-05 14:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by Steve R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋