me and faince' been together for 6years, we have 2 boys, my fiance' go into his office and go on the website of porn sites, why does he go there when he has a wife to be!is the cheating?
2006-12-05 08:35:14 · 22 answers · asked by Jill h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your not alone kiddo. I've been married 14 years. I've come across playboys, penthouses, ect. It does'nt mean he does'nt love you. Alot of men enjoy it. Do I like him looking at it. No! Talk to him about it. Comunication is the answer.
2006-12-05 08:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I felt the same way you do when I caught my husband watching porn. I told him that it made me feel like I was doing something wrong, like I wasn't attractive enough for him.He assured me that it wasn't me at all, it was just a guy thing. I asked this same question you are on yahoo answers and most say it is just a guy thing. As long as it doesn't interfere in your sex life and as long as he's not obsessively looking at it, it should be ok. I mean I just had to accept it really. I don't like it, but he's a guy and he's going to do it. The more you try to get him not to, the more he'll do it. I just asked my husband if he would not watch it while I was home or that he don't go to chat rooms or live web cams!! To me that's more like cheating because there is a live person. He agreed. We both kind of compromised alittle. I know it happens I just look over it. He could be out at the bars, unemployed, beating me or etc... but he's not! He looks at porn occasionally and is that really so bad? Now that I don't gripe about it all the time he rarely even does it! Go figure! I guess you learn to pick your battles. We fought about it for so long that finally I realized it wasn't worth it anymore! I love him and he's not cheating so I let it go!!
2006-12-05 17:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tons of people are going to tell you it's natural. But you know what, 20 years ago we didn't have internet or internet porn and most guys did not spend hours per day looking at it. They just didn't. Now that it's easily available somehow it's become 'normal.'
Well, whether or not it's normal, if it's interfering with your lives, then it's become a compulsive problem. He needs to listen to your wishes and pay you attention.
Also -- what kind of sites is he viewing? Some of them are very sick and you should know that. Also, some of them offer links to 'live partners' and you should know if he's doing that too.
2006-12-05 16:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be his private dancer!!!! try something new every now and then, i mean you should not be afraid to explore with him unless he hurts you...
never leave room for anything and anyone to run in your relationship and take it on a whim especially not internet porn!!!!! girl put on that night wear and give it to him
hes looking for attention the safe but not safe way..if he online then he is not cheating on you on the ou t side world
but who knows how long that will last!!! ask him if you all can take the time and make up a sexual plan so that he will be satisfied and then just maybe you might like a little porno as well..
2006-12-05 16:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by gotchafool05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, I will be the most honest man, as a man, he is sick of you. You have been with you for 6 years! Plus you have two children?
Anatomy changes when a women has children, have you? Have you gain weight. Are you putting more attention to your children and leaving you husband alone???? But worse, six years! Have you ever been with the same pair of shoes or driving the same jalopy for six years??? YOU and him, need change. Prepare for a divorce, and move on for the sanity of your children. Good Luck
2006-12-05 16:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We men (almost) all do it. I can't explain. Stop fighting it. Only if he is spending a lot of time or not paying attention to you is it a problem.
This question is posted at least 100 times a day read answers to some of those.
2006-12-05 16:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My two sons do it also and they have girlfriends,some men will just read porno mags,some have the movie collection some talk on the telephone for phone sex,who cares its their private business,you probably have private things you do ,just get a life.If he was'nt this way he'd probably be gay,whats worse.
2006-12-05 16:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!! You can't get out fast enough! He won't change, and it will only get worse! He has no respect for you, and I believe it is cheating. Don't let him put you down any longer! You deserve better and can find better, so move on! Good luck!
2006-12-05 16:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men do it , my husband included.
its no big deal, and not cheating, i would ask him to sit and watch it with you.
Or do it with the porn rolling.
2006-12-05 16:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people say all guys do it but I say if it hurts you then ask him to stop. I just installed Net Nanny on my comp and nipped the problem in the bud.
2006-12-05 16:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by Candy C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋