It seems like all I attract and go out with are guys that are total losers, or users, or, say all the right things to make you feel wonderful and develop a relationship with them. Then, we you do, they decide they don't want you anymore. They cheat, lie, blow you off like yesterday's trash, everything. I know not all guys are like this, but, it certainly is very discouraging. I have a lot of love to give and share, and just want someone DESERVING to give it to, that will feel the same way about me in return. HELP!
2006-12-05 08:31:47 · 10 answers · asked by manager2972 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Stop looking so hard. I know it sounds cliche but you usually find someone when you aren't looking for it.
When one is intent on entering into a relationship (read desperate) one gets that in return.
Learn to live with yourself first, get to like yourself and socialize with friends. When you meet people of interest start by hanging out. no pressure, no expectations. keep it low key at first then let it develop after you get a sense of who this person really is rather than what you think he is or worse what you want him to be then proceed with caution.
I went through a good decade of bad relationships and dead ends until I finally met someone. We have been together almost 5 years and are very happy, but I was 36 until I figured out what I wanted and what I had to offer.
Just don't give up
2006-12-05 08:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by rehobothbeachgui 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off gay men should never use the phrase blow you off like yesterdays trash. I think you expect to much out of a relationship and think you have to have one. A double whammy of sorts. When you get to that point you don't care one way or another you will find that someone. Now take those hands off your hips and lower that eyebrow!
2006-12-05 16:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us attract the guys into our lives that will teach us what we need to learn about life. once you learn the lesson you can move on to something better. Ask yourself what you are supposed to be learning about life from this person once you learn the lesson you can move on to the next lesson life has for you.
Also you probably have some really nice guys in your life but you are looking for your type not for who will be good to you. Stop trying to find your physical type and look for the guy that will treat you right. He may have a big nose or unattractive feet or he might have a mole on his cheek that makes you think he is not perfect enough for you but he will probably be the best guy for you.
2006-12-05 16:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that the first time you go out with someone you have sex? When you meet someone for the first time tell them that you are going on a dinner date to get to know them and find out if you even want to continue dating or not. If they turn you down, good. Then you will know they are not interested in a meaningful relationship, but only want you for a sex-buddy.
2006-12-05 16:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Pablo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell me about it. Makes you wish you were straight eh. LOL. Here is my advice to you. If a guy seems too nice, lovey dovie, or sickening. HE'S THE GUY FOR YOU. Those guys are lifers. I used to date the jerks. I thought I could change them. I decided after so many screwed relationships to go ahead and give this clingy, sweet guy a chance. Best decision I ever made. He loves me with all his life, heart, and body. We've been married 10 years and i'm hoping you find the same.
2006-12-05 16:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you do any research on these folks before you go out with them? What are their goals, values, good and bad points? have you talked with their friends and/or past lovers?
Perhaps in being a good communicator up front you can weed out some of the chaff before they have the chance to lie, cheat or steal.
A few minutes well spent at the beginning pays off well in the end. No pun intended.
2006-12-05 16:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop going for second best. YOu're attracting the losers, because you don't think you're worthy of anything more. As you say yourself you deserve more so go right ahead and get it. Don't be afriad to take control of your life and say no to some one if they're a loser!!!
2006-12-05 16:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SEEMS TO ME YOU ARE A LOOSER MAGNET.
IT'S ABOUT TIME YOU LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES.
MY PERSONAL GUESS IS YOU FANCY A BIT OF A LOW LIFE.PERSON,DON'T YOU.THE MORE COMMON,THE MORE THEY APPEAL TO YOU,.
Change that and you will be OK.
Change the bars where you hang out:it seems to me that they are crowded with gold diggers.Don't pay any more attention to them,my guess is also they are way younger than you.Am I JUST A LITTLE BIT RIGHT HERE:YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS THE ANSWERS TO IT ALL.
Well better luck next time:I HAVE MY SERIOUS DOUBTS IF YOU ARE WILLING TO LET GO OF THE MUCK THAT IS SO APPEALING TO YOU.MAY BE i AM TOTALLY WRONG:IF SO I PUBLICLY APOLOGIZE HERE.
IM ME IF NECESSARY,
GREETINGS :ROB.XXXX
2006-12-05 16:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Someone once told me to quit looking for mister right, But Become Mr Right.
2006-12-05 20:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by mattahew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to start going places you normaly wont go then you may find the right guy 4 u.
2006-12-05 16:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋