I was with this guy and he cheated on me w/ my cuz'n and we didn't talk for like months, then we started up. now i am so mean to her, i say whatever i want to her and she just takes it. i can't stop being mean, i feel evil. help me!!
2006-12-05 08:25:03 · 12 answers · asked by shady_charisma15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe the first few times being mean to her served her right, but blood is thicker than water, put yourself in her position, she probably is SOO sorry that she is willing to take the wrath of whatever you have to say. talk with her, whats done is done and you cant go back to the past, so try to repair your relationship with her before it's too late and you feel guilty.
2006-12-05 08:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i dont blame you at all for being mean to her she is your family and she cheated on you with your boyfriend. Family is supposed to be the people you trust not the people who sleep with your boyfriends. I do think you probably should kind of chill out with being mean to her its not going to solve anything. I think though i'd watch the next man that i dated around her. I wouldnt ever trust her again it would probably take alot to get that trust back
2006-12-05 16:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be upset with cuz... blood is thicker than water..anyway if he decided to cheat(w/ family at that). take it from a dude who cheated on numerous occasions cut your loses be cool with your cuz and keep it going someone will come along and won't want to cheat on you.
P.S. just because he cheated don't think you did something wrong it the thrill of the hunt that gets us in trouble.
2006-12-05 16:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by matchbox 78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still upset about the whole situation, i would be too. Why did you get back into a relationship with him? What if he does the same thing again with some one else or even her?
Good luck!!
2006-12-05 16:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel it's okay to be mean to her? It takes two to tango. If you've forgiven him then you need to forgive her, too. If not then you're a hypocrit and you're dooming your relationship with both of them. Good luck.
2006-12-05 16:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by notblueatall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might feel anger and betrayal from your cousin, so its normal to be revengeous towards her. but keep in mind that she might feel bad for doing this to you, that might be why she takes everything you say. if you feel bad about it just stop yourself, and talk things through with her. obviously this guy isnt worth either of you and you shouldnt let him interfear with the relationship you have with your cousin. you have to talk it through with her and forget about that jerk.
2006-12-05 16:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least youre being honest with her
but she probably knows where youre coming from
i mean , you kinda have a right to be pissed and if she thinks otherwise, then she should have thoujgh about that before she did anything with him
2006-12-05 16:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by i_heart_matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not mean...you are really just still angry about what happened and so you are acting on what you feel...there is no remedy for your behavior....it will just take time for you to heal and then you probably wont be mean to her anymore.
2006-12-05 16:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by jen4802051709 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it to her for a little while. then y'all really need 2 talk
2006-12-05 16:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be so mean to her? True, it was partly her fault, but it was just as much his fault.
2006-12-05 16:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋