no friends, no family to love me, no girlfriend or wife, nothing at all.
it's great and I love it. I just don't understand why I'm so happy and the only thing that could ever ruin it is any form of attachment.
why do I feel so good??? I'm even flat broke and in debt yet I dont have a care in the world. IS THIS RIGHT???
2006-12-05 08:04:01 · 29 answers · asked by KU 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe you had some really negative people in your life before, and now you're free of them?
You seem to be fixating on isolation being necessary for happiness, though. You aren't associating being broke with being happiness in the same way, are you? Do you assume that if you had more money, you'd be unhappy? Don't assume the same about companionship, either :-)
Leave room for positive people in your life, but give yourself some time for figuring out where to place healthy boundaries so that you can maintain your integrity while in a relationship.
2006-12-05 08:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have asked myself this question many times and I can only assume that after three disastrous relationships, each one ending with them being unfaithful to me, that I was destined to be alone. I have complete contentment in my life now. No hassle. My family live 500 miles away which is just fine by me. I am totally free to do what I like, eat what I like, watch what I like on TV., go where I want etc., in fact the luxury of being totally selfish which, after a life of being at every body else's beck and call, is utter bliss. I have the company of my cat and dog who are totally faithful and completely undemanding (apart from food), I live in a beautiful little house of my own choice, have a lovely car, and I live in Heaven (well, the Highlands of Scotland actually) and don't feel the need for company at all. I am actually plotting to spend Christmas on my own as well.
2006-12-05 08:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyfromdrum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!
It's true..
Humans have a remarkable ability to save themselves.. even if it means heavily lowering their expectations and outlooks..
apart from that.. if it's the first time in your life without luxuries.. you learn an important lesson which many people will sadly never learn all their lives.. which is.. wait for it.. YOU DON'T NEED THE LUXURIES!!!
I was homeless and had the exact same situation happen to me.. I lost everything even things i treasured and had kept for 30 years.. lost in time now.. I was near bankrupt.. but avoided it by working highly dangerous but well paid jobs for a year or so.. one job resulted in permanent damage to my hearing.. operating heavy machinery and driving heavy equipment..
I lost all my friends and family.. and even worse.. they started backstabbing and talking badly.. which was a new experience as they had always held me up prior to that..
I was suicidal at first.. made a few tragic mistakes.. then it clicked..
I didn't need it..
I was reformed overnight!!
I now live by the 80:20 rule
You are born with 80% of lifes joys if you have health and youth.. why waste it to chase the other 20%.. once you loose health and youth.. having every luxury wont make you as happy as a homeless man who can walk freely..
I've since become.. a sucessful bachelor..
and despite I bought a $3000 bed when my girlfriend visits.. I still prefer to sleep on the floor..
2006-12-05 08:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer to your question is NO, it's not right. Your apparent feeling of happiness seems to come from your release from commitment and responsibility. Enjoy it while it lasts. No family to love you? how can that make you happy, ok girlfriend and wife i can understand to a point but having no affection at all will turn your so called happiness into bitterness and loneliness in laterlife. Make yourself really happy by at least being true to yourself...its just the lack of responsibility at this moment in time that feels GREAT, yeah? and im sure a lot of folk would agree that at some point in their life they wished for that little bit of peace that comes from having no one expecting anything from them.....but lets get real eh? Its said that to gain respect and admiration you have to respect yourself and clearly you dont, hence your solitude....the pressures and apparent burdens of responsibilities can be lessened by having friends and family around you...opening your heart and putting your trust in others that love and admire you is easy.....and in return they will show their appreciation of your trust and integrity and help you through the difficult times.
Its like schooldays, or a rubbish job, when your there you cant wait to leave. when you have left the freedom is fantastic for a while..... so come on, enjoy your breather, renew your strength and show them all what you have to offer...get back on track to finding a deeper meaningful happiness..and good luck!!
2006-12-07 09:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love the skin your in. Do what you can about the things that you can and let the rest take care of it's self. Have freedom whilst you may.
A word to the wise though....don't get too wrapped up in yourself otherwise when you come back down to earth, even the devil would not want to live with you.
Meanwhile, take in all the things and do all the things you have always wanted to do.
2006-12-05 08:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be right for you. You are likely an introvert who does not want much contact with the individuals around you. Also self love does not come from others it comes from inside. If you love who and what you are you will be happy in any situation.
I am happy you have found happiness!
2006-12-05 08:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by smomus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is right man! I moved into my own apartment and I was amazed that I had no feelings at all. I did not get lonely, I did not miss those who I was living with. Before I left my family I lived with my ex whom I left and moved in with my fam. I had a bed to myself and I thought it was great! Now I am all alone and I feel fantastic. I still see my kids but other than that I do not date I even stopped talking to my friends, them cats kept criticizing me, who needs that sht.
2006-12-05 08:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to sure about this- sometimes i hate my friends, my family and my b/f, my job everything!! but at most others they are the only one i live for and keep me sane. I know i would be alright if i had to be on my own - i just wouldn't want it. The kids noise drive me mad but they are so cute. My b/f is so warm in bed and when he puts his arm around me at daft o'clock in the morning there's nothing like it and my huge family though pains in the **** will be there for me(no matter how bad i behave) till i die.
You'll want someone soon enough..
2006-12-06 11:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by nitenurse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are happy - why are you questioning that it might be wrong. I know a stadium full of people who would like to feel that way. Good on yer - long live happiness - and whatever it takes to get there.
2006-12-06 06:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha sure! You have no pressure from the people around you to change, which means no stress, which means you stay happy- The fear of commitment must be from a past relationship that went bad, when you meet someone you want, your happiness will only grow not lessen
2006-12-05 08:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋