Can you truly be a good person if...?

Question

Can you truly be a good person if you have so much hatred for a sibling? Are you able to be nice to others without feeling guilt for hating another?

Answer 1

What's your definition of "good" and how much is "so much?" How do you define "hate," too?

"Hate," to me, means that I think the world would be a better place if the person I hate were dead. I don't feel guilty for hating some people, because I truly believe that their deaths would improve the world. Where's the guilt in that?

Those people don't happen to be my siblings, though. That would bring a lot of internal conflict into the picture, I'm sure.

If you mean "hate" as "I really can't stand that person and don't want to be around him/her right now" - welcome to the world, you're pretty normal, especially if you're young enough that you still live with your siblings.

Most people seem to hit a stage, generally around the time they enter school, where they can't stand their siblings most of their time, but they're fiercely protective of them against outsiders. It's part of the process of "individuation" - becoming an individual separate from your family.

Being annoyed with your siblings shouldn't keep you from being able to be nice to anybody else. But if there's something really difficult going on at home, you need to be able to talk to someone outside the situation to bleed off some of the pressure.

For instance, I know a couple who have an autistic child. Their other children are in therapy so they have somebody outside the family to talk to about the fact that the autistic child gets the lion's share of the family's time, money, and energy in general. It's totally normal for the other kids to be resentful of the autistic child, and to feel anger about it, even though they know that their parents have to give him more attention and because he needs it.

So don't label yourself bad or anything, ok?

Answer 2

Truly good people do not hate anyone, disliking someone is fine, but true hate is a very strong emotion that generally means you aren't the most emotionally healthy person. We all have issues with our siblings, however, as you get older you will realize that family is priceless. Be the better person and be nice!

Answer 3

There is always gonna be someone that you don't like. Everyone dislikes someone. No one is asking you to be a saint and love everyone....that's just impossible.

And it depends on what you define as a "good person." If you kill, are you a good person? What if you killed someone trying to save the lives of others? Then are you bad for sacrificing someone's life, or are you good for doing what you had to do to save the majority of people.

Being a good person really depends on what you think a good persn is -- it comes from inside. No one can make you feel like a god person if you don't feel so yourself.

So yes, I think that you can be a great person, even if you don't like someone, as long as you don't do anything bad to them, it's just a feeling and since it's towards a sibling, there's a good chance that feeling will go away with time.

Answer 4

If by a truly spiritual person you mean a person who recognizes that God designed the universe in all its intricate ecological perfection to be a home for the creatures made in his image, the answer is yes. Those who love God detect the Master Designer's perfect wisdom and intelligence in the flora and fauna of nature, the marvelous self-repairing work of the human body, the food we enjoy, and the beauty of creation. Open-minded scientists (as opposed to dogmatic atheists) are increasingly recognizing the Creator's hand in making life. For even the simplest bacterium could not have arisen spontaneously from chemicals: It is programed with libraries of DNA information, and whenever we find information, we must infer intelligent design. Too, the irreducibly complex machinery in these simple creatures (such as cilia or a flagellum) could not have been assembled by Darwinian chance. A dogmatic atheist and naturalist, in contrast, must see all nature as accidental, mindless, unguided results of blind forces. This is a close-minded rejection of compelling scientific evidence. Cheers, Bruce

Answer 5

"And forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who tresp *** against us" That is what the Lord's prayer says. When we forgive someone,we are not saying what they have done is alright,we are just releasing it into God's Hands to deal with. It doesn't mean you have to go back for more either.We are told to pray for our enemies. I never understood that but a light went off and if you think about,you may be the only person that is praying for them. Pray for a change of heart between you and your sister and don't expect an immediate improvement as it will take time for the Lord to work on her heart.It's ultimately her decision what she will do. You are responsible for you .Hatred takes up a lot of space in our hearts and it really doesn't feel good. Love on the other hand takes up a lot of space and it feels so much better. :)

Answer 6

I think it's understandable to strongly dislike someone but hating someone should be directed to your enemies if at all. Hate is a wasted emotion anyhow........that ultimately affects only you.

Answer 7

U can still b a great person.. i hate my bro and i am sometimes really mean to him... but isn't ppl being mean to their siblings a fact of life? my best friend is a girl who absolutly despises her sis, but she is a wonderful person :D

Answer 8

yes.. but to be a better person don't let the hate overwhelm you.

Answer 9

Let me get this right...good people don't have emotions? (and I think your sister sucks too...)

Answer 10

YES you can?! ok so whatever.