Is 20 too young for a baby....?

Question

Some think it's a good idea and some are against it. Is 20 too young if you're in a stable long lasting relationship with enough income and the right mindset??

Answer 1

No, 20 is NOT to young for a baby specially if u are stable in a relationship, right mid-set, and a good income.

Answer 2

I am 20 and due at the end of this month. To be honest, I believe that I definitely have the maturity, but the income, goals, and position that I am in right now personally makes it a bad time. I will never call it a mistake. It's simply unexpected for me. I am engaged to the father, have been since before we knew I was pregnant, but I am still in college. The biggest regret that I have is that I am not through with school yet. I am finishing this semester and taking online courses for the spring and, God-willing, going back full time in the fall of 2007. If the plans are laid out and it is something that you truly want, then 20 is certainly not too young but all circumstances must be taken into account. If I didn't have my baby's father with me, I do not know what I would do. He is amazing and provides the stability and support that we both need. He is older than I am and perhaps this is a huge help. Marriage is always a good thing to consider before bringing another life into this world. I would have already been married had my fiance not wrecked his motorcycle this summer. He's just now getting back on his feet. This is just one example of the unpredictability of everything. We thought that everything was okay, unexpected, but okay. Then things turned on us again. It's not so much the age, but moreso the circumstances.

My advice, if you are in school, finish it before getting pregnant. I am going to finish one way or another but not being pregnant would have been a lot easier. Also, if possible, get a commitment from your partner. KNOW that you will be together and get married if possible. Finally, discuss this decision with your family. They will be your best friends or worst enemies during your pregnancy depending on the choices that you make.

Either way, good luck and best of wishes!

Answer 3

I don't think there is anything wrong with being 20 and having a baby, but what I do consider is the stable long lasting relationship portion of the statement. The only stable long lasting relationship in my opinion that should have a baby is a couple who are married and have been married at least one year before starting the journey to parenthood. I feel that marriage is important for that baby, I mean showing a child that you care enough about each other to consider each other for life is extremely important in my opinion. The waiting one year is only because as newlyweds you need to get to know each other in an uncomplicated sort of way, so with planning a baby I would suggest the wait. Prayers =)

Answer 4

That is a very personal decision that only you can make. I had three children between the age of 18 and 22. They are all grown now with kids of their own. The only thing I would do differently if I could is to have lived a little bit more of life before having my kids. The thing with kids is, that you can't change your mind after a couple of years. Once you have them they are your constant responsibility for the next 18 years or more. I wish I had furthered my education before becoming a mom. That way when "daddy" decided he didn't want the responsibility any longer it would not have been such a struggle to feed and clothe my babies. ( you see I thought I was in a long term lasting relationship too...by the way marriage doesn't always guarantee long term!!)
In your situation I don't think it really matters what anyone else thinks is a good idea, you can only decide that for yourself...just look at all sides of it first, like you would with any life altering decision.

Answer 5

No definetly not too young. I am 19 and ready for a child, I have been in a stable relationship for over 3 years we don't do any 'teenage' stuff and are both desperate for a child.
However, we do want to get married first (not because I believe you should be married to have a child, its just the way I want to do things)
We need to graduate from university, get well paying jobs, buy our own home and cars, this wont be possible for another 4 years
Once we have done all that we will then start a family.
So the time isn't right for me but if you are financially ready, emotionally ready (both yourself and your partner) then I see no reason as to not have a child

Answer 6

I think if you and your partner are ready then don't worry about it. I am 20 (21 in March) and 10 weeks pregnant, yes it was planned. I'm also married (he's 27) and have been for about 1 1/2 years. I say go for it if that's what the 2 of you want. People may be judgemental but (especially people on here) they don't know you. If your like me, I grew up very quickly and I'm mature for my age. The only people I would really take advice from would be your family, no I didn't say do what they say but listen and take their thoughts into consideration. It will make it much easier on you especially if you are close to them. And your family will always be there for you but your boyfriend/husband may not be. I don't know your situation so don't take that wrong but it's true.
Good luck to you and hope you make the right choice for the 2 of you.

Answer 7

I delievered my daughter when I was 18. So, no I do not think 20 is to young as long as you feel prepaired and know what your in for. I would suggest being married first though, it just makes things easier. If you can't make the commitment to get married than committing to a baby would really be difficult. It's also a lot easier to have a baby after your finished with school. I have another year before I'm done with my BA and things with my husband and daughter will get a lot easier then. Good luck!

Answer 8

Theres no "correct" age or time to have a baby, it all depends on your situation, being fianancially secure is a big PLUS, but then again kids are expensive and trust me you'll never be able to "afford" a child.. the more you make the more you spend thats just the way it is.. BUT you should have a secure job with a future, being married or not is a personal choice too, I know PLENTY of single parents whose kids are much better off being raised in a single parent home, people that get married just becuase a baby is on the way are asking for trouble,, just keep in mind that the baby didnt ask to be born you make the choice for it, but you have to be ready to hand your entire life over to the child, theres an old saying "having a child is making the choice to have your heart walk around outside your body": if youre not ready for that kind of commitment get a dog~

Answer 9

i'm having a baby and i'm 20 andyou know what i dont think that it is too young because it really depends on the maturity level of the parents. there are 20 yearolds that have the right mentality to be parents and are ready for that life-long commitment. there are also others who still cant think of anything but going out and partying then they should really ask themselves if they are willing to go through the huge lifestyle change. personally if you have the right mindset and an appropriate income to support a child then you should go for it.

Answer 10

I got pregnant with my first child at 20, had her at 21. I had a grreat job, my own place and her dad (we were only seeing each other at the time) and I are now married with two more children. I don't think there is any right time to have a baby. If you feel you are mature, responsible and finacially able to take care of a baby why not! What about getting married to your guy, not the I'm for or against it but for the child sake, if anything should happen.