How do I know? I have this crazy feeling that my boyfriend of 2 years is hiding something. We have a 11 month old daughter and he works everyday to take care of my 2 boys from a previous marriage.
He has alot of numbers calling him. Will not answer the phone sometimes in front of me. He comes home late and says there is alot of traffic but I've lived here for 15 years there is no traffic in the middle of the night. He works 3-12. He's says I am crazy and he's not doing anything. I am pregnant and he blames it on the pregnancy. But in the past 2 years he's left 5 times because of drug use. Which he now hads under control. He says he never cheated on me and swears up and down. But when he came home once there was a brusie on his "male" part which he said I caused. This was a year ago. I just need proof of something either he's cheating or I'm crazy.
2006-12-05 07:41:26 · 13 answers · asked by kristye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know him better than anyone and if you have a bad feeling, there is probably a reason for it. But it doesn't have to be that he is cheating. Figure out what you need from him so that you can trust him and make him do it. If you need to see his phone records, look at them. But, if you don't find anything, let it go.
2006-12-05 07:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he is or not, but you do. Us women have this feeling, that deep gut wrenching feeling like something is going on. You know the one I am talking about? If you feel that strongly about it then maybe you are right! I can only share from my own experience, but every time I've felt that feeling and knew it in my heart that I was right it turned out that way as well! My ex used to tell me I was crazy, I was being insecure, paranoid, etc... All the signs were there and I kep ignoring that gut feeling because I didn't want to believe it. I knew the truth, I just couldn't face it. Finally I had to. The lies came out! I caught him and he still lied! Even with the proof I didn't want to believe it! But it was true! All the times he said I was crazy, I was really right. I don't doubt that feeling anymore! You have to make a decision to either believe him or not. Since there is no proof, you only have his word versus your gut feeling????
2006-12-05 08:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are definitely some problems there. And trust issues are hard to cope with because dishonesty rules the conversations. The link below is to an interesting, extremely unusual article about the concept of fidelity in males. It might help direct you a bit better. Good luck - and best on that new baby!
2006-12-05 07:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know. The first sign of foul play is the phone if he is hiding it or not answering it around you he is probably hiding something I would call some of the unrecognizable numbers on it and finds out who it is ask for a name they will say they are not home then say oh well who is this? I would get to the bottom of it it sounds fishy to me
2006-12-05 07:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your feelings! I "had a feeling" for 3 months and he told me the same thing: he wasn't cheating, i was crazy. Then I found out he was and had been for the enitire 3 months. I don't wish this on anyone so I hope it's not the case for you. I am just telling you from experience, trust that feeling.
2006-12-05 07:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by dewgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let a man make you feel crazy. If you already have suspicions, then I suggest you either hire a private detective, or just sit him down and seriously ask him. I don't care what you have to do, smell his clothes, call him constantly, whatever it is, do it if you feel something's wrong.
2006-12-05 08:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by UnKnOwN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU NEED PROOF THEN ONE NIGHT THAT HE IS USUALLY ALWAYS LATE ON THEN HAVE SOMEONE WATCH THE KIDS FOR YOU AND FOLLOW HIM. DONT LET WHOEVER IS WATCHING YOUR KIDS KNOW WHAT YOU ARE UP TO B/C IT WILL GET OUT AND DONT LET HIM KNOW UNLESS YOU CATCH HIM DOING SOMETHING. AND EITHER HE WILL BE LATE FOR A REASON OR NOT. HOPE YOU GUYS FIGURE SOMETHING OUT.
2006-12-05 07:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by becca_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that he is cheating.Obviously if you dont have proof then you dont know but its def. not the pregnancy. Good luck
2006-12-05 08:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts end the relationship..being on your own is far better than being in a relationship when u have doubts
2006-12-05 07:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by greyhound mummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop him. He is cheating.
2006-12-05 08:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋