I have an ex. bf who i was with for a while a year and half who was really good to me, sensitive, caring , understanding and kind.Parents think he would be the perfect guy for me to marry.Problem was i can be emotionally detached at times without realizing it or if i am angry. I also like to have my own space and alone time to re-energize myself once in a while. I also like to have some freedom in a relationship because i am social.I was totaly faithful to him i just never felt sextually attracted to him we had sex one time and i was not turned on at all.He wants to get back together ith me but i dont think i can?I met someone else closer to me in personality, emotionally, he is a bit of a bad boy,and really smart.Am i a bad person?i was really easily attracted to the new guy even though the old guy was not bad looking?
2006-12-05 07:09:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I still talk to my ex. bf because he is a family friend.
2006-12-05 07:15:56 · update #1
Probably
I didn't read your question
2006-12-05 07:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age may play a role in this. Younger females tend to look more for the "bad boy" image. It's fun, passionate, exciting and it has moments of feeling naughty. But, there comes a time when females gravitate more towards the "secure" males. This is not true in all cases however. As far as sexually, being "turned on" by your partner does not always happen, but the desire to make them happy over-rides that. But being "sexually attracted" to your partner is almost a must, it comes from many things, including a strong love. It seems to me that the first one wasn't exactly right for you and now you are experimenting with other personality types....which by the way is perfectly normal.
2006-12-05 07:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction isn't a choice. It is actually a chemical response in your brain. The new guy excites you and makes you feel adventerous. The old guy is predictable and constricting. Not feeling that way for your ex is completely normal but I'd stay close to him if I were you. Your perception may change as your stance on life does. Also he is going to grow an mature with you.
You've got to explore what makes you feel right at this time. Hopefully at one point you will find a man that satifies both your need for companionship and also lets you feel excited.
2006-12-05 07:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person...you're just human. Appreciating that your ex is a decent person, if the chemistry isn't there and he doesn't bring that feeling of sexually erotic passion to the bedroom, then no matter what a good guy he is, you can't force love. Sexual frustration will eventually end it because you'll never feel fulfilled. There are a lot of fish in the sea. I'd just continue exploring life and someday you'll meet a guy who is the right fit. Enjoy!
2006-12-05 07:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start back in a relationship with a guy who you're not attracted to. What's the point? Who cares what your parents think too. You're not WITH the first guy anymore anyway. As long as you're not leading him on, don't worry about dating someone new. That's what dating is for--finding the person that you yourself want. Just stop talking to the first guy. He'll get the picture eventually.
2006-12-05 07:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he kiss you. Did he %. up an indication that made him imagine you've been in contact. And to call him a jerk and ignore about him and take care of him terrible because he replaced right into a foul kisser and also you probably did not opt for him to kiss you. provide me a smash. in the destiny karma will chew you interior the ***. And certain you're incorrect, way incorrect.
2016-11-30 04:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad boys are ALWAYS more attractive. Full stop.
But if you weren't attracted to the first guy then theres no point in the relationship. You need an attraction before anything else, otherwise the rest is just void.
2006-12-05 07:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by foxyroxy931880 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't know a good thing when they have it- and are into drama- they is why you are attracted to the bad boy- that will wind up ripping your heart out- counseling may help-- Do you think you deserve peace, goodness, calmness-and being treated well?? Do you sabotage decent relationships?? Know yourself- counsel will help-read- codependent no more- it may really help-D
2006-12-05 07:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal. Good girls like bad boys... The nice guy that treats you exactly like you should be treated is never as appealing as the bad boy who doesn't always treat you nice. It sucks but it is normal. Just remember that the nice guy wont wait forever, eventually you may decide that you would rather have the nice guy rather than the jerk that took ur heart and broke it.
2006-12-05 07:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Kat_n_da_hat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not always all about the looks, there is alot more to being in a relationship then that. You stated other things that you have in common with the new guy. Give it a shot. Have fun you only live once.
2006-12-05 07:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on....take steps forward...don't take any steps back! Chances are....if it did'nt work the first time around....it won't work a second time around either. Besides, it's your life, don't settle , be with who you really want.Life is short. Becareful with the bad boy...it is most likely that what attracted you to him will also be against you.
2006-12-05 07:15:18 · answer #11 · answered by Pinkie_&_the_Brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋