2006-12-05 06:52:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never a good idea to start a relationship with baggage. Get a divorce before you start dating.
2006-12-05 06:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. Marriage and divorce are too serious to not make informed decisions. As someone who has been through it twice,wait. There is something called the post divorce syndrome. It takes about 2 years to go through all the emotions and processing.Until you work completely through it,your likely to repeat your mistake.We do tend to gravitate towards the same types of people.Also,think about it; would someone you look up to and respect for making good sound decisions do this? Doing what feels good really isn't always the best answer. Some things in life have eternal consequences and this is one of them. We really shouldn't go out with someone unless we know they share our core values . I started dating before my 1st divorce was final. I drowned my real feelings by becoming enthralled by my 2nd husband. He seemed to have everything my first lacked. 2nd and 3rd marriages have much higher mortality rates than the first.. I waited 10 years between my 2nd and 3rd.Guess what?,I'm separated and in the process of another divorce. I've been to counseling before after and during my break ups. It's like a curse,I keep remarrying the same man in different bodies. I will not do it again. It's so embarrassing for people to know you have been married 3 times. It makes you appear unstable and what legacy are we passing down to our children ? I'm a professional woman,retired. I worked my entire adult life,45 years, and only had 3 positions. So, apparently,I can get along well with others and am not totally dysfunctional. Think about romance and marriage very seriously and I assure you our Lord does. God's blessings through this.
2006-12-05 15:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by wonder woman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its very unwise and probably what he would want so that he can say you deserted him for someone else. Dont give him any ground to sue you and whats more if you love him at all and want to get back to him this would be unwise thinking. Another thing,
you are likely to be on the rebound and are only going to hurt the other person. its not fair to him. Wait and get sorted out. All you are going to do is take all the baggage you are carrying around with you into the next relationship. Get counselling. Get healed up and if it is possible sort out your differences with your husband. That should be your first priority!
Please think and make the right choice! its very important.
2006-12-05 14:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why have you seperated? I think it is low class. I think it is a demonstration (publicly) that your marriage was relatively meaningless. If I were your husband, separating for whatever reason, I would see that as a "see? I am over you already. You meant nothing". Very hurtful.
Now, if you have kids it's much worse. Try telling your kids that only a short time after Daddy is gone you are looking for another one. THEY will see their father as worthless (in YOUR eyes) and will defend him.
My father dated someone only a month or so after my parents separated and I hated him for it. Then I found out they separated cause my mother had a 3 year affair and I hated her more.
I'm glad I moved away...
2006-12-05 14:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, if you are legally separated you may date. However, depending if the divorce goes ugly this could be used against you. So caution and moderation in all things.
2006-12-05 14:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It may be insensitive to him and you may not really be ready but I wouldn't say it's wrong.
Perhaps you have felt it was over long ago and you really are ready.
Every situation is different. If you feel ready then try it out.
2006-12-05 14:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong for who- him, you or eveyone around you. Make your own decisions, obviously you separated for a reason. Enjoy life you only live once.
2006-12-05 14:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I waited until I was divorced. I didn't want to deal with any more drama that I needed to and I didn't want to inflict my drama on my dates.
2006-12-05 17:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by Merrily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but if you take it to the next level then its wrong
2006-12-05 14:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I think its healthy and that your comfortable with your situation.
2006-12-05 14:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by courtney b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋