My 3 month old...?

Question

My 3 month old daughter has been having these bouts of unprovoked crying lately. It happened once about a week or so ago and last night and then again this afternoon. Here's how it goes:

She is tired (but not exhausted tired) so we go through our routine before bed (or nap) and then I lay her in her crib as usual. Normally she goes to sleep with out a single fuss...but these few time she has gone into these fits of SCREAMING like I'm killing her! She will stop instantly if picked up and held. If I go in there and put her bink in her mouth she'll just keep screaming, doesn't even want it. I'll make sure every basic need is met, fed, dry, gas drops...everything. I don't know why she is doing this. Last night I finally let her cry herself to sleep after almost 4 HOURS of her crying, me trying to soothe her, then she cried 30 min solid when I let her cry herself to sleep.
What am I supposed to do? Should I just leave her crying?? What is causing this?

So for those who think I shouldn't let her cry it out...am I supposed to stay up all night and hold her?

Answer 1

Mine did the same thing, but he was 6 months then (he's now 10 months). It was just a phase for him. It also sometimes reoccurs when a tooth is coming out, or when he has colic. So i guess she could be an early teether, or she could have colic...... i also agree with the ones who said that she could be testing you, though i think that something is bothering her. Check with her pediatrician.....

Good luck

Answer 2

That is cruel. A baby as young as yours isn't trying to manipulate you into picking her up. Babies NEED to be held sometimes. It is a need just like being dry and feed. Trying holding her and rocking her. Show her that you are there for her. Comfort her. She will grow to be a much more secure shild. Please do not listen to these people telling you to let her cry it out. The only thing that is teaching her is that you are not there for her and she has ever reason to be afraid. I was raised by a mother who believed in letting me cry, And that if I was held I was being spolied, I know first hand the emotional damage that comes with this type of parenting. Babies outgrow these phases very quickly, just try being patient and loving your little angel through the difficult days. Before you know it this will pass and their will be many other challanges ahead. Good luck!!

Actually, yes...sleepless nights are part of being a good parent. I have went to work on two hours sleep before because being a good parent comes first. I agree that taking time for yourself is important, if this phase continues, maybe you could enlist the help of a friend, family member of the father so that you could get some sleep. All in all crying like you have described isn't normal if it continues day after day. It could be a sign of teething, colic or a more serious problem. Try to help your baby through a day or two and if things don't improve, see a pediatrican to rule out any problems. Also are you making sure that baby is in a state of deep sleep before you lay her down. This is a mistake that many parents make. Babies can be asleep and as soon as you lay them down...awake again. This is usualy caused by baby not being fully alseep. It can take up to 30 minutes for babies to be in a deep enough sleep to be moved and put in their crib without waking. It may seem like a pain, but it is a lot easier than having her cry for four hours while you go back and forth and wonder what to do next. Check the www.askdrsears.com web site also for some helpful ideas on comforting a fussy baby.

Answer 3

You answered your own question, "she stops instantly if picked up". She knows that if she screams you will pick her up. Give her a kiss and tell her good night, turn off the light and leave the room. Do not go back because she will associate this with the crying, I know it's hard but she will eventually get the picture that you are not going to run every time she cries. Hang in mom....

Answer 4

I would call the Dr. first and have a chat and maybe suggest you bring her in for a check up ... if that turns out to be nothing ... then she is just crying to get you to come and get her. They are smart little cookies ... even that young. I made the mistake of feeding my son almost everytime he cried and was feeding him small bottles about 7-10 times a day. That was crazy!!! Gotta love those babies!!! God bless!!!

Answer 5

A baby isn't going to "test" you at 3 months old. She just wants her mommy. Nothing unusual about that. Letting a baby that young cry it out is cruel. They are just learning what is going on around them and learning to trust you. If holding her makes her stop crying, then by all means hold her! Too soon you'll be missing these days when all she wanted was mommy.

Answer 6

Your daughter is probably starting separationg anxiety. She prefers her mom rather then her crib. If shes awake when you lay her down she's probably getting scared because she isnt fully asleep. And when she realizes no ones holding her she panics and crys out for mom.

My son is 5 months now. In the beginning he would sleep alone and sound. Because i nurse he's gotten more comfortable sleeping with me. So I lay in my bed with him all snuggled up close until I know he's out for good then I put him in his bed. It's working good. And now I'm able to put him in his crib at night after our routine and he falls asleep on his own.

Answer 7

Separation anxiety. Completely normal. Instead of 30 minutes, set your timer for 15 or 20 minute intervals. I KNOW how hard it is to leave your little one to cry, but the sooner you do this routine, the easier it will be on your sanity. Put some music on, tell her time for a nap / nite nite. Then LEAVE! Set your timer. After 15 minutes, if she's still crying, check on her, then LEAVE. It will take a few days, but I promise you, all will be well.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

3 months old seems a little too young to "cry it out." I understand that you need sleep too but babies cry because they need something, not because she is purposely trying to annoy you. Could she be teething? Babies go through different phases too...one week my daughter has no problems sleeping and the next, she is up every hour because she wants to be held. You need to adapt to your child, not make them adapt to what is convenient for you. Good luck!

Answer 10

At 3 months, baby is crying like that because something is hurting her. Sounds like colic. Sounds like you're ruling out all the normal possibilities. Are you breast feeding? Maybe not burping baby enough? Maybe something in your diet irritating baby's system. Is she pooping regularly?