My family doctor has been acting inappropriate. He flirts with me, says sexual innuendos, touches me etc., I notice that somtimes he does flirt and other times is not so flirty. He is 39 years old, married and very handsome. And I sometimes notice I do flirt back as maybe I like his attention - I don't know. My instincts say he is flirting and waiting for me to make the first move - testing the waters. What should I do???? I am married to and love my husband dearly although this man can get under my skin and I seem to get caught up in the moment with him.
2006-12-05 06:41:25 · 14 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes doctors have a somewhat flirty manner, as a way of being nice and complimentary to their female patients. If it doesn't go "over the line," it is just innocent. The doctor/patient relationship is by necessity already somewhat intimate. He is probably just drawing on his ways of acting in other, more sexually intimate relationships when working in his practice with females because he doesn't know how else to conduct himself within the intimate doctor/patient relationship. As he ages, he will learn more appropriate ways to do this.
If it goes over the line and he's married, he may be looking for some "strange stuff" on the side, but even then, not an actual relationship.
But it's not likely that is what he is up to. A handsome doctor of 39 can get any woman he wants, he doesn't need to draw from the pool of his female patients. Proof of that is that he has already gotten the woman he wants and married her. He's just fairly young (39) and handsome, so he still has plenty of overflow sexuality that comes through in his speech. Believe me, the wife is probably getting the best part of his sexuality; his patients see the overflow. It doesn't mean he is after them. Also, since he is extremely handsome, he has probably learned that female patients get crushes on him from time to time anyway, and he is probably just "using that gift" to demonstrate that he cares about his patients. His ego also probably enjoys the looks on their little innocent faces when they respond to his light and innocent flirtyness, even though he is happily married. That is a bit immature, but he is only 39. The older he gets, the less he will act this way. If he is a doctor, I'm sure he's not stupid enough to jeopardize his hard-earned education, current livelihood and his marriage for a female patient who is just another pretty face.
2006-12-05 06:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by MandaPanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This could get his practioner's license revoked and his behavior is unethical.Many male docotors are man whores and should be given wide berth. Also many of them are married and constantly cheating on their wives, not ALL but a large majority of them do.Yeah I understand that hes cute and the whole " docotor" thing is very appealing but hes married already and if hes been married a long time it is unrealistic that it will go any where. He has a lot to lose in the event of a divorce. And if you are caught by your husband that may end the relationship. so are you willing to sacrifice your future for a little flirtation.
2006-12-05 06:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lexy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Without saying a word to him you should get a new doctor. It is not worth risking your marriage over a moment. He's married too. You will then have to deal with all kinds of issues. Just make an appointment elsewhere. I would also go for a female doctor this time.
2006-12-05 06:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Switch doctors. Its not appropriate for him to be flirting with you. All you need to know is hes getting under your skin and since you love your husband and hes married, stay away.
2006-12-05 06:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either change doctors or make sure you are never alone with him if it makes you uncomfortable. It sounds like you like it, though, so you need to make up your mind as to whether your going to bask in the flirting without going farther or if you're going to end it.
2006-12-05 06:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by teel2624 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is tempting you, remove yourself from temptation. You are both married, and so you are not free to hurt the other person you are with. I would say change doctors, if you do not want to report him.
2006-12-05 06:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
extremely inappropriate behavior on his part. he could lose his license and you could lose your integrity. Try to get a nurse to stay with you at all times and/or change doctors
2006-12-05 06:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by dijfojri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 gyno's do this. I regret not suing for sexual harassment. At this point if your uncomfortable you need to find another dr.
2016-05-22 21:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control yourself. Then act cold and callous when you see the doctor.
2006-12-05 06:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor , don't put it on here !
2006-12-05 06:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋