I was told I was infertile (I'm 23), but just found out I am 7 weeks pregnant?

Question

I am working fulltime at a law firm and going to school at night, I take acting classes. My ultimate goal is to become an actress. My fiance, is very supportive of whatever decision I make. He understands that the goal I have set for myself are very important to me. I don't believe in abortion, but on the flip side I want to be able to dedicate everything to any child I may have. The though of aborting the pregnancy has come to mind. But I really don't want to do this. But having this child will hinder me from accomplishing my goals. Please dont answer just for points, this is a very importnat matter to me. If you were in my position would you keep the baby or abort the pregnancy?

Answer 1

keep the baby! If you were previously diagnosed as infertile, this may be the only chance you get! Having a child will chage your life, yes, but you can still meet any goal you set for yourself. Plus he will be there to help you, and I'm sure your family will too.

Answer 2

Ok let me tell you a little story I think may help you. A 15 year old girl with Dreams of being a doctor gets pregnant by her boyfriend. Everyone told her she was making a mistake and that she would never be able to finish school let alone become a doctor. Well guess what I am now 19 I graduated High school Early and started my pre-med classes 1 year ago next month. Having a baby does not make your dreams impossible to reach. No matter what anyone says I stand true by that.

P.S. My son Nathan is my best friend. I can never replace the things he has taught me. Oh I am also due with my Daughter any day.....

But honestly this all boils down to one thing You were told you were infertile and were given a baby anyway, Why give a miracle up instead of watching it grow?

Answer 3

Although I am pro-choice, after having a baby myself I could never have an abortion. Therefore, I would suggest the idea of giving the baby up for adoption. It took me over a year to conceive my daughter and I'm in my 7th month ttc again, so I know the pain many couples who are infertile go through. I also know some couples that have adopted and know there are so many couples that would love to adopt a baby.

This could be a sign from God that this is your miracle baby. What if you abort or give it up for adoption and years later regret it because you can't get pregnant again?

I don't know what is causing your infertility. However, sometimes one pregnancy can help you to get pregnant again. My niece too was told she was infertile and has had 2 babies.

I'm sorry if I'm confusing you more, I just want to give you something to think about. This is a big decision and one that should be weighed heavily. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

I would never abort a pregnancy. To me that is a life growing inside you. I would either keep the child or adoption. There are so many loving wonderful families out there that are wanting children so bad and unable to have any. Being told that you were infertile I bet you can relate to those people very well. Please check into adoption before making any decisions. You may end up regretting an abortion , this may be the only child you will ever have. Give that child a chance in life. Good luck.

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Answer 5

Just because you have a baby doesn't mean you can't be an actress! And abortion, is murder, it's killing a little baby who did nothing, Killing the baby would be like killing the man who fathered it. You don't need to dedicate EVERYTHING, having a baby changes many things, but not everything, I say you should ask for help, from your mother, father sister, cousin, aunt, anyone who lives nearby and can help you. It sounds like you are very busy, so you will need more help than your husband can give, If I were you I would be jumping for joy right now, God has given you an amazing gift, you have been told all this time you were infertile, and yet God has blessed you with a baby! consider it a blessing, not a burden, bottom line, no abortion, get someone to help you, and relax.

Answer 6

It is a gamble of whether you will have kids again or not if you were supposed to be infertile.

If the child's father is supportive, why can't you fulfill your dreams even when keeping the baby? Maybe you have an unrealistic view of ideal motherhood where you spend every waking moment staring at your baby and fulfilling his/her every need before they even know it. There are women everywhere that maintain or start a career that have children.

If there is absolutely no way you feel you can fit this child into your life, talk to an adoption specialist and find a family for the child. My cousin just did this when she became unexpectedly pregnant (with a very unsupportive father). It has worked out great and you'll know you're baby is in a good home.

Good luck with the baby and with following your dreams.

Answer 7

I personally would keep the baby. But then again I am a infertile woman (no doubt), and would love to have a baby. If you are not ready for the baby then I would suggest checking into adoption. However, you need to think long and hard about your priorities, what you think is so important right now, can change in a second. you can be a Mom and a career woman, sure it make take some juggling and hard work, but it can be done. Just because you are pregnant doesn't mean you have to give up your dreams.

Answer 8

Adoption is also an option.

Also, if you were truly diagnosed by a doctor as being infertile and you conceived anyway, girl you have a miracle baby! Try not to look at this pregnancy in all or nothing terms. Lots of moms still have careers, even acting careers after they have their children. You don't have to be all career lady or all mom. You can do both.

Personally, in your situation, I would definitely keep the baby. You have said yourself you don't want to abort and you are already engaged, so you have a supportive loving partner.
Best wishes in your decision making.

Answer 9

I was told I couldn't have any children,but low and behold I have 3.When I first found out I was pregnant with my first.I couldn't believe it,as I had mentally accepted that I couldn't have any,and because I had mentally accepted it,there was no image in my head on how I would handle things if I ever got pregnant by a so called accident.I only ever had plans on finishing college and spending the rest of my life working,travelling the world and occasionally baby sitting when my sisters and brothers finally had children.But after the initial shock of things,I realised that I had been truly blessed(not only once,but 3 times)and my outlook on life completely changed.My eldest is now 13,and I could never imagine my life without her(and my other two).People goals in life change all the time,there is nothing wrong with that.You can still have all those goals you set your self.Why can't you finish your acting classes while you are pregnant,at least you can say you finished one of your goals by completing your classes,and who says you can't be an actress when you are a mum.I hope that every thing works out for you.Take care.

Answer 10

I would keep the baby...put your goals on hold...you are only 23 and have plenty time to pursue a career in a year or two. Think long and hard about your decision because if you have this baby you may end up resenting it for delaying your goal. You may also hate yourself for aborting the baby. At least having the baby its alive...you can't bring back an abortion. Keep in mind that its only my personal opinion to have the baby....good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 11

Keep the baby...you know there are other options too like giving the baby up for adoption....I mean if you are not ready now then you might as well consider that possibility. I really am against the abortion thing so theres my answer. Oh by the way...just curious how did you find out you were 'infertile'? Like I said I am just curious Im not trying to be a smart a** or nothing I would really like to know.