My wife recently has been feeling that my love for her is waxing cold. I don't feel that I've change in any way, but maybe I have. My wife is 20 years younger than I am and sometimes I feel like she's demanding alot of attention. We have been happily married for 15 years, she's a great cook, baker, mother, and wife. I just need advice from people who really love their wives. How can I be more sensitive to her needs?
2006-12-05 06:32:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Man, you are a sweetie. How nice to hear ( or read) ANYONE ask " How can i be more sensitive to this person's needs?"
You know what I would do? I would print off this question, and the responses, and have her read it so she knows you cared enough to ask for advice.
And I know when I've been demanding in the past, it's because I wasn't feeling very good about myself, so I was looking for other people to validate me. Hard habit to break but helping her find something to make her feel good about herself might help. As well as changing up the pace. Why not go on a trip together, just you 2?
2006-12-05 06:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe SHE is the one with the waxing love.
Or maybe you have become lazy in showing her your love.
Talk to her about what she has told you. Ask her if there is something specific she wants or needs.
She might just be 40 with a senior citizen hubby and is looking for a way out and looking for excitement.
Do everything she wants (within reason) but also tell her what you need. Do unexpected stuff. If nice surprises (even small things - single rose on the way home from work etc) don't work then you have a problem.
2006-12-05 14:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how old your wife is but something happens to women as they reach certain ages. 30 is one of these ages, and so is 40 and 50. Something about changing the first digit of women's ages upsets them.
She may be feeling insecure because she is getting older and losing her looks as she sees it. You married a young woman and now she is not so young (or so pretty in her mind). Women hate aging.
I suggest you let her know that you think she is hot. Tell her she looks great, and that you think she is sexy. And show it to her by not being able to keep your hands off her. That will help her while she is going through this slump.
2006-12-05 14:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jesus Pleaseus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she is sitting watching tv or reading, come over and stand on her toes and block her view. When she looks at you like: "What do you think you are doing?", give her a big kiss.
Be demanding right back to her. Demand her attention. Demand to go with her wherever she goes. Be more visible in her life.
Just keep showing her. and showing her.
2006-12-05 14:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her a great time. Keep her close to you and make sure you tell her you love her every chance you get. Change things a bit, maybe try making dinner and taking care of things around the house instead of her doing it.
2006-12-05 14:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might of not change but she may have changed and maybe you have not noted that. my wife did that to me a year ago and need to check are marriage so i start asking her what would you like to do now and she was so happy that i was willing to change with her and ever sense i been changing with her and her moods and i fine with that.. so to answer you question. see what she need and tell her you will be there for what ever thing she wont to do.. good luck.
2006-12-05 14:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have the answer to this question, but I really respect that you are asking it and trying very hard to be a good spouse. If we could all be like this maybe the divorce rate would drop. Keep searching.....
2006-12-05 14:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Tantrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't prove you love someone, you show them. She is the driver and I am sure she is telling you what she needs and wants from you...LISTEN to her!!
2006-12-05 14:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reposting this question at www.marriagebuilders.com
2006-12-05 14:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Gen•X•er (I love zombies!) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its gotta be shown to her, then she MAY believe you. She may have self esteem issues dude
2006-12-05 14:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋