HOW AM I GOING to TELL MY PARENTS I AM PREGNANT at 17?

Question

My childs dad is only 15.. He is not ready for the child.. I completely understand that.. We had sex one time and used protection.... I know that if both of us weren't ready we souldn't have done it.. but we did... I love my parents and i think they will understand... and i just don't want to hurt them... And all of you that will say if you are grown up enough to spread your legs and stuff like that.. I don't need your opinion... If you were put in this situation you would be asking the exact same questions... When a person is pregnant they are already moody.. we don't need to deal with you! thanks...

Answer 1

First off, warmest congratulations to you on the new tiny life inside you!!!! Babies are always a blessing!
Know that you are not the first person in this kind of situation. Just last week I happened to be helping someone who was 15 and just found out she was pregnant. She did tell her mom, and you know what? Her mom was upset at first, but really supportive and now they are planning a nursery for the new baby!
There are so many people and resources for you. Your local Pregnancy Resource Center can help--they offter free pregnancy tests and counseling. They can also offer free medical appointments where you can hear the baby's heartbeat and stuff--this is such a great way to help your parents bond with their new grandchild! Talk to someone there about the situation with your folks. Someone should be able to walk you through it. And having a game plan really does help. And pray first!!! That ALWAYS helps:)
Here is the website to help you locate your local Pregnancy Resource Center: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/... They can help you with local support and resources as well for young moms. They also have information on adoption and abortion if you are interested in either (but they do not refer for abortion--they just have information on different methods...etc). Don't worry! You can do this and you won't be doing it alone!
Please repost in a few weeks and let us all know how you and your family are doing. I will keep you and your baby and the baby's father in my prayers! God bless you all!

Answer 2

I'm glad to hear you used protection, unfortunately it doesn't always work. You can't hide it forever and it will be better if they hear it from you. It'll be hard to deal with at first but they will realize that what has alredy happend can't be changed. I advise you to tell them sooner rather than later so you can start prenatal care. That also gives you time for them to come to terms with it and prepare. Just remember they will be upset give them time to deal. You'll need their support and to understand what you are going through.

For all the people questioning the fathers age, although I personally agree that the father is very young there is only a two year difference. That is not illegal and will not send you to jail. I wonder if you would say the same things to a 16 or 17 year old guy with a 15 year old girl.

Answer 3

Look I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with my 1st. My s/o had just turned 16. I told my sister bc at this time I was 11 weeks and my insurance card had arrived in the mail and my mom was wonderings o I called a family meeting and with my s/o told my mom (my dad was decesed already) she creamed she cried and then she hugged me and and said 2gether we will get thru this.

2nd time around yes there was a 2nd time Birth control is not 100% not even if taken correctly. I was 19 and had 1 child and was in college. I hit it for 20 weeks! (so for those who say its not capable of hiding at a young age probably don’t watch the news enough where young women dump their kids in bathrooms etc and the parents never knew their child was pregnant. ) The reason why i hit it was I was planning to move out with my child’s father and was waiting until I was out of there fully. Well she knew a m other always knows and I would catch her glimpsing at me or what not.

all I have to say as a piece of advice. DONT let anyone put you down esp like a previous poster said that teen moms don’t make good moms (he needs to stop watching Maury and come to my home!) I’m now 23 engaged and a Registered Nurse. Both my children are at the top of their class and attend the best elementary school in Chicago. I don’t party and never did I did commit to mistakes in my life but I don’t regret them they have only made me stronger!.

Honey Keep going to school and do what you can for you and your child and if the dad wants to tag along for the ride then so be it but don’t depend on him! Depend on you! Your family will be very supportive and that’s all you need in your life your family! God bless and if you need someone to talk to I’m here!

Answer 4

I was 16 when I had my first baby. So what I would do is get the parent/adult family member that you feal the most comfertable talking with. Tell them you have something that they need to know and that you are very scared and you would appreciate it if they could be as supportive or understanding as possible. Then tell them. If you get to that point and the words don't come out. make sure you have a coppy of the resaults either the paper from a clinic or the test its self and give it to them. There may be shock there may be anger you need to be prepaired for this. If things are getting too upsetting for you (becuase you don't need stress). Tell them that you need support to tell the rest of the family members but you will give them time to absorb this new info. If you come to them in the most mature way possible and you don't blow up and maybee even express to them that you know this is not how it was suppost to be and you know you have dissaponted them, they may see you in a different light and realize that you are almost an adult. Also sometimes having a friend with you when you tell for support is good, this can prevent a blow up (if that is what you are fearing).
Also having a plan of what you want to do when you go to them is good. For instant if you want to keep the baby or you are not for sure. How you plan on taking care of the baby. If you still want to further your ed. (it would be wise) ect...
If you need someone to talk to please email me. I am not going to disclose my email add but you can email me threw here just give me your email so I can write back, if that is what you want. Good luck to you, be strong.

Answer 5

I have to say as a parent that if my child were in your shoes I would expect honesty. I would like to think that I taught my kids that if they are honest and act mature about things no matter how scary they may be then they will be treated with honesty and repsect. You know your parents better than anyone. If you think they will understand then it's best to tell them as soon as possible. Parents have alot of info that could be helpful to you at this time. I was a teen once too and I do understand how you feel. I was 20 when I got pregnant and I was nervous about telling my parents. But like I said I was calm and mature and thought out my words carefully and I was treated with respect even though they thought I was too young. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

I was pregnant at 16. I was scared to tell my parents but finally i got some courage and showed them I could be adult enough to tell them about it, then i'm adult enough to have this child. If you're not ready, then you should consider abortion... Although many people may not chose with me on that, I am pro-choice, that is my choice. Discuss it with your parents ASAP the longer you way, the less choices you will have about this baby...

Fair warning, I told my parents... I didnt want them to cry, be mad, etc. This will hit them hard, they may cry, they may yell, but its mainly because they are trying to figure out what the best thing to say or do too. They're going to be just as nervous as you about the topic. Sit down with them and say, "Mom, Dad, etc. I have something to tell you. It wasnt planned, obviously, and I did use protection but you know those things dont always work as planned, I did my absolute best to make the right decisions but sometimes those things dont always go as planed either. I'm pregnant. I'm scared, and I need some support. I wanted to show you that I'm mature enough to come to you with this and I understand if you're upset... I just would like you to know so I can get some help on this and I'm not doing this alone..." and see what they have to say... Good luck hunni!

Answer 7

hmm why on earth did u sleep with a 15 year old thats illegal even in england!!! and ur parents should love u regardless whether they understand or not is a different matter. Im the same age as u love and that kinda attitude dont get u nowhere pregnant or not. Just so u no im pregnant too but im with my fiance so i know how moody u can be but dont take it out on other ppl theyl just think ur some teenager with no respect

Answer 8

Have you taken a test yet? It's not likely you're pregnant if you used protection, but if you are pregnant, I truly sympathize with your situation. You sound like a smart person, and the fact that you are concerned about what your parents think makes you that much more responsbile sounding. For myself, I'd talk to my Mom (if you are closer to her than your Dad) and at least break it to her first. Of course she will be shocked, and likely disappointed at first, but she will get past that quickly. The important thing is to look after yourself while you are pregnant and stay in school as long as you can and then make sure you graduate. It can be done and you sound like a determined person. I wish you only the best, and try to look ahead to the happiness that a baby can bring....even if it is earlier in life than you thought it would be.

Answer 9

The sooner you tell your parents, the better. If you are more comfortable talking to one vs the other, try telling them and then they can tell the other parent. They will be extremely disappointed, no doubt. As parents, we want our children to have the best lives possible and getting pregnant at 17 usually complicates life greatly. The sooner you tell them, the sooner it will be off your chest. Once they see that baby, all will be good. I had a baby out of wedlock and my dad and my son are sooo close. My dad is so taken with my son. He's not a mistake, he's a wonderful little boy who has changed all our lives for the better, just as your beautiful baby will.......Good luck to you and your family!

Answer 10

Have the childs dad with you when you tell your parents... but only if you think he can help you. Your parents will probably be upset when you tell them but they will also get over the shock eventually and hopefully be supportive. I am telling you this from my experience. My parents freaked out at first but then they went all out and set up a nursery in the spare room and bought all kinds of things for the baby and me. I will pray for you and your family and if you need any extra support you can email [e-mail]


Good Luck