What are your thoughts on pregnancy at 30 and above? I recently turned 30 and due to a career change and my decision to go back to school, i've put off having a baby. Yet, it's discouraging because everyone around me is having children and buying homes. I feel like the odd one out...almost regretting having waited so long (we've been married 6 years) and feeling like i've made bad decisions. Someone please reassure me that i'm not too old to have children.
2006-12-05 05:59:04 · 27 answers · asked by Petra 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You're not too old!!! I'm 32 years old expecting my first baby. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and have been together for an additional 6 years (that's 10 years!!!). We finished school, we bought our house and now we're having a baby. We were trying to have a baby for 4 years until we finally got pregnant. What I've learned is that sometimes it's just not up to you -- it's when your body is ready.
Do you feel like you're ready to have a child or are you feeling this way because you feel like "the odd man out"? Don't do it just because all your friends are doing it or you think it's what you should do, do it because you want to do it. By the time I was 25 most of my friends had kids. I wanted to have a baby by that time, but I knew it wasn't the practical thing for me at the time.
One of my friends just had her first daughter in June and she's 46.
Good luck!
2006-12-05 06:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no. But you might want to start considering how much time you have. A woman's chances of getting pregnant diminishes a little after age 30 and even more at 35. I am 29 and I just found out I am pregnant. I was putting it off because of my career and everything, but decided that I was ready and had better go ahead and have at least one child before it's too late. But 30 is not too old. I know women who are having children in their late thirties and early forties......but sometimes if you wait too long you have to have help from fertility experts. I say take your time and have a child when YOU are ready....not because you feel like you are being left out. You have time.
2006-12-05 11:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by theburg727 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely not too old! You can't go back in time, so 30 and older is the only way you're going to do it!
I was 36 when I got pregnant. Here I was unsure if I was ready for motherhood and my doctor was talking about "high risk" pregnancy because I was over 35!
I had a text-book perfect pregnancy. My major complaint was the most hideously swollen feet you've ever seen. My son was born one week early at 8 1/2 pounds, epidural free. In lieu of an amnio, I got first trimester screening done (it's a new test done at about 13 weeks that combines an ultrasound with bloodwork. They use the ultrasound to measure the fat on the back of the baby's neck).
I got comments here and there (I took my son for shots and it wasn't his regular pediatrician. The doctor asked my age and said, "This is your only child? Wow, good thing he's okay!" Don't listen to the crap - go for it!
2006-12-05 06:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course not!
My mom gave birth to me at the age of 33 and my sister at the age of 40! I think it's a good thing because you are more stable now and your mentality is more mature and your life experiences can help you in handling your family life better!
In fact, more women are planning to give birth after the age of 30. There's a believe that the 1.Q of your children will be higher for those who gave birth after the age of 30. It's just a believe but I've seen proofs and I am always top of my class.
My aunt who gave birth at 35, has two very smart children as well. One is doing engineering and the other is a doctor.
Don't be pressurized by the society. It's your decision that can make you really happy!
2006-12-05 06:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not too old at all! My mother was 29 when she had me and I was the first child! I think right around then is the perfect age. Everyone around me has been having children since I was 18 (and even before). As the years have gone by, a lot of them never got the jobs they dreamed of and had to work that much harder to make ends meet. Some had broken up with their boyfriends and gotten divorced (in some cases numerous times) and the kid was in the middle of all of it. You've been married 6 years now, you're in a stable lifestyle, you're ready for it! You'll still live long enough to be there for your child throughout their growing years, to be there at their grad and their wedding day and to see your first grandchildren. It's not like you're starting at 40!
2006-12-05 06:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Geoff S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitly not too old. Ask any doctor and they will tell you that your not even risky until thirty-five. Also the odds are you will probably make a better parent because you've had time to live out some of your life and now you will really appreciate the baby. I started at 20 and I adore all three of my boys, but I'm pushing thirty and wishing I wasn't the only one around that didn't finish college and start a career. You'll be fine and good luck.
2006-12-05 06:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by S J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not too old to have children. It is refreshing to hear someone making sure they can provide for a child and being married before bringing a child into this world.
Women get pregnant after 30 all of the time. If you have any fertility problems they will be greater after you reach 30. So make sure that after you have been trying for 6 months with no luck, that you see a fertility specialist right away.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-05 06:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by KC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think now would be a good time to start ,I just had my last son and i am 30 and i have friends that have little ones also and they are 30 to 35 if you think you are ready then go for it they will add so much joy to your life sometimes it gets very stressful at my house i have 4 boys ages 14 to 1 and i would not change anything
2006-12-05 06:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son and his wife waited 10 years (they were in their 30's) before having a child. My grandson is a smart little boy, and they were financially better off for waiting. After 30, the process is usually harder on your body, but my daughter-in-law made it through without too much discomfort. I thought that they might have another, but it looks like that may not be in the planning. I think more mature parents make for better behaved children. Go for it and quit worrying about it.
2006-12-05 06:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so very glad that I waited till after 30 to have my son!! I was 35 when I had him. We got pregnant when we went away for our fifth anniversary. You have had time to have your fun, travel, get to know each other better, etc. You are NOT too old. I asked my OB the same thing when I wanted to start trying and she laughed at me. Not meanly, she just gets asked that a lot and by much older women than me. Now is a great time for you. Relax. Have a baby. Good luck!
2006-12-05 07:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Terrie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋