I am a mother of 5 children and in a Bi-sexual relationship how do I tell them??????

Question

I am 30 yrs old and a mother of 5 children from the ages of 14 to 5. My kids dont know about my relationship with my so called roommate and I am not sure how to tell them. My older daughter who is 14 and my son who is 11 think that same sex relationships are like so gross and my daughter who is 10 and son who is 9 think that it is ok and that they would love ME no matter what, when asked what there reaction would be if I told them just that...I joke about it all the time with them and then tell them i'm just kidding and we laugh but I would like to be able to tell them...I share a room with my partner but the kids think its because I want them to have there own rooms....My older daughter makes comments as if she knows and i think she does but if I told her that it was true i dont think that she would approve so what should I do?????HELP... I have been with my partner for a little over two years and 3 of my 5 kids have only lived with us for about 1 year due to prior situations.... Help

Answer 1

how did you as a bisexual raise five children who would be disgusted by such a thing?

at anyrate, if you are serious about your partner, you need to sit down and explain things to your children. for your younger children there are children books explaining homesexuality (positively) and for your older children you need to tell them before someone else at school figures things out and does it for you (you'd be surprised)

You need to be honest with your children, and stop telling them you're "just kidding"

Answer 2

I think that until you can be assured that your children will lose the juvenile attitude towards lesbian or homosexual relationships you should keep yours as low key as possible.
Its not only an exercise in futility in explaining it to them now it's pointless as well. As a mature woman involved in a mature relationship I think you should keep this to yourself and the same goes for your lover as well. It may be difficult for the both of you at times but until you can have some assurances that the kids will listen and keep an open mind on this, stay low and save any displays of affection or sexual activities when the two of you are assured that you'll both be alone and uninterrupted.
Good luck to you. Now lets see how many knuckleheads give you stupid or overtly sexual comments. Sometimes it doesn't pay to ask anything, you know what I mean?

Answer 3

when they get a bit older they will understand. my mom waited till i was 18 but to be honest i already knew, you may try to hide it but remember kids are smart, they normally know about sex way befor you give them the birds and the bee's talk! they fugire these things out!.

they may think its gross now but when its your own family its different...if you know what i mean. i l love my mum and she asked me what id think if she got a partner. my anwser was that id love her no matter what but i didn't want her to flaunt it in my face or anything.

kids will love you no matter what and they will learn to adjust. the older ones probably know already to be truthful!

good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 4

The oldest kids are old enough to understand. Just sit them down and calmly tell them. The 5 year old will suss things out on his/her own.

Luck

Answer 5

Oh geez,,,, why would you even consider telling them????? You've had 5 children, why would you change what sex you want to be with now???? I dont get it!!!