Just found out we are pregnant. Very tired. He is upset that i am so tired?

Question

We just found out we are pregnant. I am always so tired. So at night, i want to get some sleep. He wants to mess around. When i tell him i am too tired, he gets upset and says i dont find him attrative anymore. I do though. He is the most beautiful person i have ever met. I tell him all the time he is so hot to me. How do i convince him that i am just tired during the first trimester of pregnancy?

Answer 1

I know how you feel! It is very common to experience such tiredness, actually some people are tired the whole time. Your body is going through so many changes! As far as convincing a man of this, I would suggest that you get some books about pregnancy and highlight some of the things you want to bring to his attention. Men sometimes feel left out when we are pregnant because we do change our behaviors. They are used to us being all full of vim and vigor so to speak! They don't go through these changes like we do, but they do have to live with us. I would also suggest that eeven though you are tired, make a special effort to show him the attention he is used to. Maybe if you go out of your way, he in turn will go out of his way to be more understanding. Use this time to draw closer to each other, because once the baby is born you will have your hands full.

Answer 2

I didn't realize how tired pregnet women get. Your first trimester sleep as much as you can u will feel better. It does go away around 4 or 5 months. I got the book What to expect when your expecting it was a livesaver I had my man read it and if that doesn't work have him talk to other pregnet women.If hes not patient now your in trouble. I also had morning sickness till 6 months didn't feel like messin around at all. They get frustrated but they have to meet u half way. You have to carry and have the baby and there part is to be sweet, understanding and give lots of foot massages. I don't think I would of made it without my other half I had pains all the time. Around 5 months it get better and around 9 months ur miserable. I'm 39 and a half weeks and I've never been more excited for her to be ready to come out.Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Don't forget he's going through a big change, too. He may be afraid of sharing you with the baby, or afraid that your pregnancy will affect your love life.

It is normal to feel extremely tired those first few weeks. You'll get a reprieve when you hit the 2nd trimester and it's a good time for sex because you won't feel quite as huge & uncomfortable as the 3rd trimester.

Answer 4

Try to find time in the morning or during the day to show him that you are attracted to him so that he will be more understanding at night. It might also help if he went to some doctors appointments with you and talk to the doctor about how tired you are so that he can see that this is just a normal part of pregnancy.

Answer 5

Tell him to get used to it. What do you think having a newborn is going to be like? Granted your exhaustion will let up a little during the 2nd trimester but it comes back in the 3rd.

It takes 2 and you just need to make him realize how important rest is during pregnancy. Make him read a pregnancy book. Or just plain and simple tell him to leave you alone for that moment.

Answer 6

Congratulations on your new baby!
Are you sure he is upset because he feels you are not attracted to him and not because he really wanted to "mess around?" The reason why he's upset really changes what that says about his personality.
If he's upset about not feeling attractive, he is feeling insecure. You are doing as much as you can in reassuring him--good job:) One more thing that may help him is to find some literature that talks about how tired women get when they're pregnant--maybe this will help to convince him that there is no unattractive issue--just a regular pregnancy. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 7

He obviously has never known any pregnant women before....

Basically, he's going to have to get used to it - sex is going to be more infrequent than you're both used to for the next while (like well after baby is born). YOu're growing a baby - you're don't have the same energy you used to and that will remain for the entire pregnancy. ANd you think you're tired now....wait til baby is born and you're only sleeping for 1 to 2 hours at a time.

He's a big boy - he can masturbate if he needs to. If he still complains, tell him sure you'll have sex...right after he makes you dinner, scrubs out the toilet and tub, vaccuums, does the laundry...you get the picture.

Answer 8

Try getting frisky at different times of the day, plan a date or other time set aside for that, and rest up. But be honest and explain to him that you are pregnant, and a little consideration would be nice. Or you could throw it back at him that he is too interested in sex (if that is the case..) and not enough in his baby or your well-being. He needs to understand that your body is going through changes, and you both need to deal with them together. For instance, if he did a few of your chores or whatever, you wouldn't be so tired at night, and you would be more responsive.. But all in all, you just need to be honest, and ask him for his support.

Answer 9

You just have to sit down and tell him that's part of pregnancy. I always had books and stuff on my night stand that my fiance would pick up and read. He then started realizing that most women go through it and that I'm not just making excuses. It did help though that he saw me with my "morning sickness" all day long and knew that I was worn out!

Answer 10

Have him read something like "What to Expect When You're Expecting", or some equivilant for men. I would get a little frustrated with my husband too, but then I realized, he is not reading and learning about pregnancy like I was so I couldn't expect him to have the same knowledge and understanding.

I would also recommend www.babycenter.com for any expecting mother. It goes week by week of what to expect. It's not free thoug, but it lasts for a year and I found it worth far more than what the site cost me.

congrats!!