Do you think the age of maturity is going down?

Question

Do u think that society is forcing youth to remain yonger longer??
Drink laws are now at 21 in US, Full license is now 19 in BC.
Because they are not considered 'adults' or teenagers what are 18-21 year olds suppose to think?
I personally think that that is why crime rate is higher for youth then it has been. It use to be that if you weren't married by that time there something wrong. Now people are babing young people.

Because of the new 'rules' my husband will not be able to get his full license until he is 23 years old.... (he got sick which made him take the test later)

People think that i am too young to be getting married, yet a generation ago that was the norm, and there was not a high divorce rate.
(i will be 20 and he will be 21)

What do you think the consequences are, if any, fr forcing people to remain dependant past when they feel independent?

Not only socially a norm for divroce, but it also became legal for a woman to divore her husband uncontested. And for marital rape and abuse to be allowed for grounds for divorce as they were changed to being illegal

How can they take resposiblity for theit lives when parents and such say just be a kid we'll give you every thing you need... thats a different point i guess, spoiled kids,... I guess its because your not expected sure you can but you dont have to

Answer 1

Interesting question - but I'm going to address something else you said. Let me preface this by saying congrats on being married - it's the most difficult and most rewarding experience.

You claim that "a generation ago [getting married young] was the norm, and there was not a high divorce rate." You are correct to a point. Yes, marriage occurred at younger ages and yes divorce rates were low. However, you must also acknowledge that a generation ago divorce was not considered socially acceptable. There were plenty of people that would have gotten divorced, if they were able to. In fact, this is why you see the divorce rate spike when it did become socially acceptable. A large number of those getting divorced were from exactly the generation you discuss, only they were getting divorced at older ages. A better measure of marriage would be to analyze the happiness of people who are married. Let me say this - statistics/studies have shown that people who get married later in life are typically happier in their marriages. This could be due to several factors - a greater sense of awareness of who you are as a person, being set financially, higher levels of education, etc.

Now, I'm not saying you are not happy in your marriage and I truly wish you all the best (I too was young when I got married, or young for the times - 23.) I'm just giving you my thoughts on somethign you brought up.

Answer 2

In Australia it is legal to drink at 18, and legal to marry (without parental consent) at 18. I do not think age is a factor in marriage or having children but more each individuals maturity. After all you can be a lousy mother or wife when your 40 the same as when your 15. I think the difference these days is people would like to be more established in careers and have a good time before they settle down. If that is a good thing or not is debatable.

Answer 3

It is different in this generation then it was in the last. I think the people who are making these laws see that. I think these people are scared because they see the problems that have come into the world today. Many teens today feel pushed to grow up faster than they are ready.
My mother would tell me stories about when she was in high school and it was really racy to see a girl to have her hand in her boyfriend's back pocket. Nowadays it is completely normal to have couples who are 13 making out in the halls. The generations feel that they have to mature faster than they really should and the laws are trying to hold them back. I don't think this is going to work because lots of people are actually very mature for their age. I've seen 18 year olds get married and have a very healthy and successful relationship while 30 year olds will be divorced in a matter of months. Young people will actually try to speed up theirs lives to fight these laws and it will get them into a lot of trouble in the end. I would love for someone to just get up in front of everybody, young and old alike, and explain that not all should be judged by the vast majority, but sadly we live in a corrupt world.

Answer 4

1. I don't think society is forcing people to stay young longer. I think society has finally come around to understanding that biological maturity isn't even complete (brains and bones) until mid-twenties. There was a time children were working in factories, but it got figured out that was wrong. What we have no is a generally better understanding of children and young people.

At the same time, I think society in many ways pushes children and young people to be grown up far earlier than they should be. Eleven-year-olds have to think about drugs, alcohol, sex, and whatever else; which is kind of a horrible thing.

Just because someone does not get married (and even if someone lives at home until he saves some money and really get on his feet financially) it doesn't necessarily mean that person is not independent. Sometimes it is the most mature, sensible, people who make the sacrifice of not having an apartment in order to be able to get on their feet and start the adult life on better footing a little later. A young person can feel very independent, but, again, he may decide to sacrifice for now in order to have a better future. A truly independent person can live at home with parents without being so insecure he feels his independence is threatened. A truly independent young person is so sure of his independence he doesn't have to prove anything if he wants to save a few dollars and has the parents who can give him the chance to do that. Nobody is forcing anyone to do anything they don't want to do.

There is something very mature and independent about the young person who wants to build himself into more of a person (get an education, start a career, do some thinking about what he wants in life, etc.) so that he can feel he has more to bring to a relationship later. There's something very mature about the young person who decides to live as a young, single, independent, person for a while; so that when he decides to have a family he won't have missed something in life or resent having to do less socializing once the babies show up.

In previous generations people didn't divorce because churches said it was sin. Women didn't leave husbands because they couldn't have supported themselves. Girls weren't generally raised to have careers (although some were). Fewer people had college educations, so even guys couldn't afford to leave and pay alimony.

Today, more and more people are better educated and want more out of their life. A college education is a pretty common thing today, which means that people have the freedom to leave a marriage rather than be trapped in one in which they are treated horribly and maybe the children are as well.

Young people didn't want as much in previous generations. The girl planned to stay home and be a mother, and the couple may actually be able to live on a factory-worker's pay. People could buy homes for 15,000 and be earning only 10,000 a year. Today homes cost (depending on the area) - between 300,000 to half a million dollars and beyond. Rents for a decent apartment are 1,700 a month. Cars cost 22,000 in general, and there's car insurance, property taxes, water bills, college for the kids, etc. etc. This is why so many young people choose to wait to get married (no matter how mature and independent they feel) in order to know they're on their way to building some kind of financial stability.

The PBS program on the brain stated that the pre-frontal cortex on teenagers and people younger than 23/25 is not finished. It stated they think differently because of this.

The high divorce rate is because so many people don't understand exactly what a relationship must have in order to survive all the stresses that set in if money problems, illness, or other stresses arise. People can think they're secure, but one job lay-off and one premature baby that isn't covered by insurance can set people back.

There are people who got married at 20 and who never divorced. You could be among those people. Still, you're not correct in your belief that people are being forced to stay young. If anything, young people today are generally forced to make some serious sacrifices if they're ever to hope to achieve financial security if they don't have parents who can/will help them get started.

I believe the crime rate and other problems have nothing to do with anyone being "babied". If anything, there are more problems (sexually transmitted diseases, addiction and crimes related to it, drunk driving tragedies, etc.) because children are allowed and even pushed to grow up far earlier than is healthy for human psychology and emotional development.

Good luck if you get married. Everyone who plans to get married believes they will be different from everybody else; and everybody who gets divorced comes to realize that nothing they could have done differently would have made any difference. The trick is knowing who to marry in the first place, and the shock is that so many people can't really tell if the other person is right until the stresses on the marriage show up and both people start to show their true colors.

Answer 5

There was a time when boys started work around 6 or 7, and often were apprenticed, if they were lucky, by the age of 7.

The age of majority and the labor laws were advocated by unions in the U.S. for economic reasons they wanted to reduce the size of the workforce.

My generation lobbied for the drinking age to be dropped to 18. If your generation wants its rights, then they will also have to form political coalitions and fight for their rights. It can be done, and it is a measure, and proof, of the maturity of a generation to be able to accomplish political change.

Answer 6

It will take teens growing up and acting mature for them to be taken seriously. Who said you were too young to be married? Maybe they're saying you're not mature enough, which is not the same. Age and maturity are not linked.

The crime rate is higher for young people because they have too much time on their hands. They should get a job and take responsibility for their lives.

Answer 7

I agree in an experience. i became right into a teenager mom and that i think of an excellent style of the judgement I have been given became into my own lack of self assurance. i comprehend of adults that are undeserving besides as toddlers. the main significant element with toddlers is they are greater probable to no longer be financially and emotionally guard. additionally conversing from my journey it could have been much less confusing to end extreme college and long previous to college and not making use of a husband and toddler to look after and having to artwork finished time to pay the charges. i ought to have spent greater time at residing house if all I had to do became into artwork or fairly been able to basically artwork area time like now. i do no longer remorseful approximately having my son yet i would not advise my existence for each individual.