how do i forgive?

Question

i have alot of drama going on in my life it's people in my life who is trying to bring me down so that i won't make it im so stressed out and irritated all the time what do i do forgive them and move on with my life or what because the same things keep on happening over and over again i need advise because i made it to far to stop i only have one year left of school but it's hard to finish when your stressed out.

Answer 1

You can forgive thru prayer, pray for those haters....When they start talking, tell them I will pray for you and leave or hang up the phone....

Don't let the people get you stressed.....Realize this one thing, people get jealous for someone else's accomplishments because they may fail or a constant failure....

Keep your head up and continue your success and stray away from the negative people and surround yourself with people who are on your level or above you and you will be fine...

Answer 2

The concept of the dangerous environment is something many of us are familiar with. Just the concept that the environment is dangerous and overwhelming and we don't always quite know where that danger or overwhelm is coming from is a start.

An individual’s health level, sanity level, activity level and ambition level are all monitored by his concept of the dangerousness of the environment.

There are real areas of danger in the environment, but there are also areas being made to seem more dangerous than they really are.

I have found that a number of simple procedures can help increase my command over my environment. The master question of all these techniques is “What part of the environment isn’t threatening?” If you can differentiate and find out there are some parts of the environment that aren’t threatening, that alone may improve things.

Here are some procedures you can use to accomplish this:

1. Find Something That Isn’t Being a Threat

When a person gets too upset or confused, one can have him look around his environment and find something that isn’t being a threat to him. Carry on doing this until the person is very happy or relieved and has had a realization about himself, the environment or life in general.

A person can also use this technique directly on himself. For example, an individual can be in his office and very worried about something. He may be sitting at his desk with papers piling up. Everything seems to be in a high uproar, and he feels completely overwhelmed. The person himself ought to be able to look at the papers on his desk (the source of the threat) and find something about them that is not a threat. By making such a discovery, the threat will balance out.

2. Don’t Read the Newspaper

This is very simple. Tell the person, “Don’t read the newspapers for two weeks and see if you don’t feel better.”

If he doesn’t read the newspapers for two weeks, of course he will feel better.

Then tell him, “Now read the newspaper for a week, and at the end of that week you will find you feel worse. Then make up your mind whether or not you ought to pay any attention to the newspapers.”

This could be proposed to the person as a simple experiment. It isn’t even an expensive experiment – as a matter of fact, it is cheaper not to buy newspapers than to buy them.

This is a simple action, but a very effective one which can markedly change a person’s outlook on life.

3. Take a Walk

Another way of having a person look at the environment and discover that it isn’t so threatening is a technique called “Take a Walk.” If a person feels bad, have him take a walk and look at things as he walks.

The effort here is just to get the individual to inspect the environment and find out that there is some slightly greater security in it. One just wants the person to look and find out if the environment is as threatening as it appears to be.

“Take a walk and look at things” is the mildest advice that you could possibly give anybody, and is almost certain to produce a result if the person will do it. It is quite effective.

4. Find Something That Isn’t Hostile to You

There are people who feel as if everybody in the environment is hostile to them.

For a person like this, there is another technique that will lessen his fears.

One could ask any of several different questions, depending upon the situation. Examples of these are:

“Find something people say or do around here that isn’t hostile to you.”

“Is there one person in the company who isn’t actively hostile to you?”

“Is there anything said today that wasn’t directly and immediately hostile to you?”

Ask the person one of the above questions (or a similar question with a wording more appropriate to the person’s situation). For example, ask him, “Is there one person in the company who isn’t actively hostile to you?”

Continue this until the person feels better, is happier and has had a realization about himself, the environment or life in general.

5. Arranging One’s Life

By having an individual plan a life by which he could live calmly and unthreatened, the life he is living becomes less threatening.

Let us take, for example, the poor fellow who is on a complete treadmill: he has to keep his job, even though it doesn’t pay enough and there’s no opportunity of advancement, because if he loses it, he feels he won’t be able to get another one or he won’t be able to survive. This man is in a box of his own making, and he finds that environment very hostile.

Get him to plan a life which would not be so threatening, no matter how imaginative or seemingly unattainable his plan, and he will be able to go on working at his job much more happily and feeling much calmer.

Answer 3

Just relax.. Stop worring about what others are doing and saying and just stay focused on your schooling..... If these people are stressing you then leave them in the dust.. make new friends who have less drama in thier lives and everything will be better... Even though these people are people you like gives them no reason to keep doing things to you.. and the longer you allow this to happen the more they will do it and the harder it will become to stop so stop it now and have a good life.. It is to short to be around people who fight and cause drama.

Answer 4

First, if these people are trying to bring you down then why are you around them? For me, I keep positive people around me! People that care about me and my well being. Secondly, you said the same things keep happening? There's a quote, it says...Insanity is repeating the same mistakes over and over and expecting different results!! There is also one that goes if you do what you always did then you will get what you always got. The meaning of these quotes is change! You have to change the things that you do. If you keep doing the same thing you will get the same results! Just think about what I've said, pray about it and then finish school! You'll be okay!

Answer 5

I understand how you feel!!!!!!!!!!!! The same thing keeps happening to me. Someone was nasty to my children and I over and over again!!!!
I keep forgiving the person but they recently made the statement get over it. I speak to this person but I do not socialize with them.

Look over the situation and try hard to forgive, but you do not have to socialize with them.

Answer 6

first of all take a deep breath ! Live your life honey the way you want to live it as long as its positive for your future, sometimes people react in a negative way when there's a detection of jealousy,sometimes you might have or be doing something that someone else wishes they had or was doing,there for that leads to negatives in ones life , its up to you to only except positive in your life. good luck to you!

Answer 7

relax! don't let stress get to you. take a couple deep breathes. also, yes leave them behind you. don't let anyone bring you down. you are going to be fine. just do it!

Answer 8

People don't bother you...

you LET them bother you...

Concentrate on SCHOOL, and after you graduate, you can open not a can, but a 55-gallon drum of whup-@ss!

You go girl!

; )

Answer 9

why do you want to forgive people who are trying to bring you down?