Where do I go from here?welfare is not the answer.we are a military family.
2006-12-05 05:10:13 · 24 answers · asked by two2broke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you divorce, you would get child support. It's going to be tough but if you see no future with your husband, it will be worth it.
2006-12-05 06:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well go and file for divorce and get him to pay child support... Six kids that will be more then enough to help you alone....... If welfare is not an option then the only thing left is child support and use that money to get you an your kids a place to live and spend the rest of the support on the things you need... there is always a way out of an unhappy marrige may not be pretty or the easiest but you have to do what you have to for your sake and your kids,,, Good Luck.
2006-12-05 13:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a military spouse. There are options thru the military for support and helping you decide where to go from here. Please check with a chaplain or with a counselor, or seek counseling.
As for leaving your husband because of your thinking you can't take care of them yourself, don't underestimate yourself!!!! I, myself, left my first husband with two small children. It wasn't easy at first, but as the days went by, opportunities came my way. Just take it one step at a time. One day at a time.
Being involved with the military, you are entitled to his BAQ if you two should seperate. That alone will help you tremendously when it comes to making your monthly bills as a single mother. I don't know what his rank or time of service is, so it's impossible for me to give you an idea of what BAQ might be. Plus, I'd need your location. Anyway, there are other things you are entitled to also. He will be required to provide medical insurance and should you stay in the area of your military community, everything is 100% covered on post facilities.
One big suggestion, based on my own experience, prepare before you decide to make the decision to leave. When I left my ex, I spent a year cleaning up my credit report and saving whatever money I could. This way, when I stepped out on my own, I had something to begin with.
Don't give up and don't sell yourself short. You'd be suprised what you can accomplish when you are happy and in a healthy environment. You'd also be a better parent when you, first, are happy. It's also not good for the kids to continue living in an unhealthy environment.
Good luck! Stay strong!
2006-12-05 13:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN leave him, you choose to stay because the situation will be very difficult. How old are your kids? The older ones should help out with the younger ones so that you can help support your family. The father would be required to pay child support. And taking help from the government is NOT a bad thing, if you use it to help yourself become self sustaining. If it's that terrible a situation, then it's better for both you and the kids to get out.
But to give you good, sound advice, I need to know specifics of your situation.
2006-12-05 13:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welfare in itself is not the answer, but the welfare of your children definately is.
You are a military family, so you definately have resources to work on your marriage with if that is possible. If you are getting abused or something then you definately need to ask yourself, if counseling would work or if your children are safer away from him - remember they see what we think they don't.
You have children with this man, so unless its something horrible, truly finding couseling and joining a support group would be the best option. Then if things don't get better you can look your kids in the eyes and say that you tried.
2006-12-05 13:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by s10burke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure, but I think as long as your husband is in the military, there is a family allotment. Look in your post/base's directory and look for a listing like Family Services. Otherwise, call the Base information number and tell them you need to talk to someone who can give you information about what will happen if you separate from your husband. If that fails, talk to your husband's commanding officer's wife. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-05 13:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he abusive? If not, you need to work to keep the marriage together for the sake of the kids as he is, after all, their father. If you didn't want to be with him, you should have left before having six kids. If you stayed with him long enough to have six kids, there must be something of the relationship that is salvageable and you owe it to your kids to do that.
2006-12-05 13:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well if you absolutely cant work it out with him cant u stay with your parents brothers sister or w/e 4 a couple day so you can file for divorce and file 4 child support and u can have have your place and have arranged custody and get a nice job if u already don't have one
2006-12-05 13:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by diana w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to end your marriage without trying counseling? If so, find an attorney and have the court order child support.
2006-12-05 13:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you make SIX kids with someone and then decide they are not right for you???
Unless this is an abusive situation ( you can get help - call a hotline)...work it out, for crying out loud!!!
Think of your 6 kids!
2006-12-05 13:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by pinkee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you leave him, he is going to have to pay child support for all six kids. Have you thought about letting him have custody of the kids and you can still visit the...either way you go, he will have to help with money
2006-12-05 13:13:52 · answer #11 · answered by hotma702 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋