my girl from 7 years that we have a kid together of 2, is really dissapointed on me, i left her down on every single way possible, i didnt cheat on her, but i took her for granted, i concentrated on work more than our relationship, we been separeted for a month now, i been verbally abusive to her like for the last 1 or so...im just askin to all of u women. mother, dauthers, girlfriends, wifes, what n how i can show her that i love her...how? please give a good advice, im runnin out of options...please
2006-12-05 05:06:44 · 12 answers · asked by Darksied 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well first remember that actions speak louder then words so you can't just apologize and everything be better you have to make a change by talking to her better and re-prioritizing telling work no at time to make time for her and your child both together and separately and just make her feel appreciated I wish you Good Luck and God Bless
PS if you get her back learn from this so that you'll never lose her again
2006-12-05 05:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Young and Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jason, is this you? lol My ex-husband did the exact same thing to me...notice the ex in front of husband. You have to change your priorities. Plus, you've got a lot of butt kissing for being verbally abusive. That's a hard thing to get over when you're on the receiving end of that. There's only so much a woman can handle from the man who's supposed to be her support system, you might have already permanently pushed her out of your life. Give her some space and let her think things through. The ball is in her court now. She needs to decide what's right for her now. And if she doesn't go back to you, then let it be a lesson learned!
2006-12-05 13:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by emmie8750 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Admit to everything that you've done wrong and then change it. Don't just give her lip service until she gets back with you only to go back to the way that you were. The most important things to remember are to be respectful, keep your word, and be a gentlemem. A little pampering never hurts either but if you aren't going to change or if you can't change then at least let her get on with her life without you. Just make sure that you are always there for your kid. Good luck.
2006-12-05 13:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Erica J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi i just want to say that im the "woman" in this specific incident i already know whos writting this and i have to say that i agree with what everyone has to say and this way i know that i can be a better person to myself and a better mother to my son...i just couldnt stand the verball, emotional and pysical abuse that my life was taking anymore- i finally got "balls" and mad the right choice no matter how scary it was and i know that right now it may be hard as a single mother but i know that in the long run i will make it and i will be %100 better....thanks to everyone that has helped me get through this...
2006-12-05 15:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I could give you is to put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if your girl abused you in this way? How would you react? The best thing to do is to figure out how you can change your ways and prove to her that you can change. The phrase, you cant buy love...this holds true. Believe me, I have been through this thing. If she truly loves you she will give you a chance to change, but it will take a lot of time
2006-12-05 13:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by brneyedgrl605 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a friend to the both of you... i dnt really see this going any where positive.
Manage your time wisely in finding yourself, cause she's been able to find herself once again. Also REMEMBER that 2 year old sunshine deserves the attention from the both of you rather you're together or not. HIS NEEDS COME FIRST!!!
2006-12-05 15:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by VANESSA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the only way to get her back is for you to get some consueling and figure out why you think its OK to verbally abuse someone you "love". Are you going to do that to your 2 year old?
Once you figure that out, you may have to accept the fact that she doesn't want you back.
2006-12-05 13:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got smart, Good for her!
She realized that you are no good, that you are never going to change, that you are never going to marry her, that you are a selfish fool, that you have neglected her and your child and that you emotionally and verbally abuse her....
I hope that she sticks to her guns and kicks you to the curb.
She deserves better than you!
2006-12-05 13:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just have to accept that it is to late. Should have would have could haves don't mean anything now. Maybe she has had her feel and is really done with this relationship.
2006-12-05 13:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want her back??? So you can treat her poorly like before?
Get counseling to determine why you're such an abusive and neglectful husband.
2006-12-05 13:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by drgolfmd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋