I am with my baby's father and i am ready to get married, but i'm not sure he is. We have talked about it many times. Since i am ready i am thinking about asking him. Should I?
2006-12-05 04:47:45 · 14 answers · asked by Luv4Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no reason a girl can't ask a guy - it is modern times after all. Its a pity you didn't ask BEFORE having the baby though.
2006-12-05 04:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him but before you take that leap make sure that you are ready.....Make sure that you are ready to settle down and want to be with him for the rest of your life....
One thing I will ask is if you talk about it a lot, why hasn't he asked you?
Just be prepared if he states he's not ready...
One thing I want to tell you, before you pop that question to him make sure that deep inside yourself, you are ready because a marriage is not what you see on tv.....Marriage is a great deal of commitment, communication, being a best friend, a great communicator, being by his/her side if they fall and be willing to go thru good and bad times for the rest of your life and find the strengh if you get weak and want to stray.....
Before you ask your man, make sure all of your questions are answered like, your goals, his goals, your expectations from one another, future goals, kids, finances and a lot of things because there are too many divorces in this world today that is caused by people being in love with someone and never ask important questions and know that person as well as you can and know that that person made you feel like no one else has made you feel in your past relationships....
When you get married you have to learn and accept the good, the bad and the ugly, keep your communication lines open and stay in prayer and keep GOD in your life to protect your unity that has evolved...
2006-12-05 15:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my man but we haven't set a date yet. I say ask him. Tell him you have been thinking about that you don't have to set a date right now and don't rush him. This will get him use to the idea and the more he thinks about it if he truly loves you he'll be the one to bring up the date issue.....I would like to add that we have two children and he accepts all financial and emotional responsibilities. Making it "LEGAL" has nothing to do with it. We are married in the eyes of God, and I could care less what the gov. thinks about it.
2006-12-05 12:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage in the 2006 year is not what it should be. Marriage to me is not cut out for glory and it is a hard commitment that takes years to master and years to come to terms with it. Those who rush marriage are destined not to have the strength or the love to back up the deadliest taboo that could occur and so, live your life the best you can and if you are serious about marriage, may God be with the both of you because without him your doomed.
2006-12-05 12:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait to be asked, that would be a great surprise when it happens to you. in the past i pushed it with my fiance, but for him to propose to being that I'm old fashioned. and it did not feel right, and it may sound weird but i broke of the engagement and we
keep it as boyfriend and girlfriend. it worked better at the time, when he was ready he proposed and it was sooo much better. because it let us know they are ready to take the relationship to a higher level.
2006-12-05 13:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Fiesty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him if I was ready, but you need to be prepared in case he says "no". Most men don't ask women to get married because they are not ready to.
2006-12-05 14:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point you can certainly ask him when he wants to make this legal. This is your life too and he shouldn't have all the power.
There is a baby involved now so he needs to step up and grow up....unless he doesn't want to go any farther.
2006-12-05 12:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with asking him but ask him how he would feel about marriage and see what he says!
2006-12-05 12:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not push him into it, but ask him where he sees the two of you in the future.....
2006-12-05 12:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, it is 2006! it is acceptable for you to ask him!
2006-12-05 12:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ The-Gretchen ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋