I am finding it hard to get into a relationship even though i broke things off with my husband about 4 monthes ago. I have had a few offers and had strong feelings but got scard and backed off. Inside i feel ready but is it me or is normal? please help any advice would be appreated.
2006-12-05 04:45:48 · 10 answers · asked by ladyjamie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to take time to get over the first relationship before you can move on. If you don't those same issues you had with the last relationship tend to follow you until you deal with them. You don't want to bring in the bad on a new relationship.
2006-12-05 04:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning i particularly have self belief she has enjoyed you for the previous 14 years and he or she is now rather torn If she has it in her strategies to be with this guy, no count the different info, i'm afraid there's no longer something you may say or do to alter her strategies. of direction you may't enable her bypass sow her wild oats and watch for her to come again decrease back - by way of fact she will attempt- and that's no longer an determination particularly. possibly this is a few thing you will desire to have enable her do 14 years in the past too yet. that would not make you experience any extra useful the two If she's have been given it in her head that this is what she is going to do. you will desire to enable her bypass regrettably. And her punishment would be which you turn her away while she realizes the errors she has made. have you ever tried speaking to the guy? not sure it might help yet..... desire i'd desire to furnish extra effective than this. Sorry.
2016-10-14 01:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by archuletta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are going through is totally normal. Give yourself time to heal, even if you were the one who broke off the marriage. Also, spend time alone, getting to know your own likes and dislikes about the opposite sex. It took me about 4 years after my divorce to really get to know who I am and what I'm all about and precisely what I want in a man. Don't get me wrong, I did kiss a few more frogs, but I finally found my prince charming.
Don't give up hope. Someone is just waiting for you to finally notice him!
2006-12-05 04:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard, all the baggage that was collected in the marriage plays a part in it. Especially when you see the same things in the prospective person your with. The best way to cope with it is to keep telling yourself this isn't my ex. It will take some time but you can do it.
2006-12-05 04:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by The Druid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very normal, your scared of being hurt again. and 4mos may
seem like a long time but it's not. you need to got through a grieving process, wounds need to heel before starting something
new. believe me, if you don't go through the process it haunts you in a future relationship. wheter with betrayal issues, anger, or
just about anything that went wrong with this relationship.
2006-12-05 05:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Fiesty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you just had a relationship you were very heavily invested in end it's hard to put yourself out there again and risk failure. Plus you committed yourself to someone and it may be hard to picture yourself with someone else, especially if you were with your husband a long time. Give yourself time, you will know when you are ready. 4 months isnt very long...spend this time relearning who you are, just date very casually.
2006-12-05 04:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by Farah G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need advice from my soon to be ex,cause it didn't take her but two months and three to move him in and me out, no offense ,I really can't offer you any advice. Good Luck and try to keep things as civil as possible and legal otherwise it will get very ugly and you or him don't need that extra pain.
2006-12-05 05:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your subconsious telling you that the same thing will happen again to you. You need to push beyond that and just do it
2006-12-05 04:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE TRUST FACTOR AND BEING AFFRAID OF BGETTING HURT AGAIN
2006-12-05 04:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by dce1dg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not ready yet.
2006-12-05 04:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋