My fiance and I got engaged 8 months ago we live together and I am 8 months pregnant. I am in great shape... I still have stomach muscles around the pregnant belly. I have long healthy hair smooth satin skin much larger assets and I constantly want to have sex. I can't keep my mind off of him. He says its not because of me being pregnant. He says he is just tired and worn out. He had the same schedual before and we made love at least everyday if not more. Now I'm lucky to get it every five days and thats because I initiate over and over until he, I guess feels bad. Sometimes I actually feel like I should pay him after sex. It hurts to get rejected by someone who only months ago couldn't keep his hands off of you. I am so in love with him and our life is perfect otherwise am i just being greedy? Thanks in advance for all the advice. Happy Holidays!!!
2006-12-05 04:43:16 · 16 answers · asked by Brandi J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think whether he wants to admit it or not he may have issues with the pregnant female form. He may not like the way your belly looks even though you are fit. Some men are turned off by pregnant women and some are just the opposite.
It may not even be that at all. He may unconsciously be afraid of hurting the baby or maybe he realizes he has these feelings but he doesn't want to tell you for whatever reason. Alot of guys feel that way. They think that sex will somehow hurt the baby, like they will bump the baby's head with their penis during sex or something or cause labor to occur.
I would give him space. I was pregnant 5 times and I didn't even have a sex drive. I just wanted to be left alone. I think it will probably take him sometime even after you have the baby to adapt to all of the changes. You will both experience changes in your sex drive. Wait until after you have the baby! Then you won't want to have sex and he probably will LOL...
Good luck!!!
2006-12-05 04:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well with the baby comming soon, he might be worried about things. He says he is all worn out... Seriously my husband wouldnt have sex with me when I was 8, and 9 months pregnant, for two reasons. He was afraid of hurting me, and second. He wasnt getting into how he had to work around the baby. He also got very stressed out about becomming a father. I think he was rebeling against being a "family man" so to speak. Give him some time, talk things out. Ask him to be more specific, instead of just worn out, because its hurting your feelings.
2006-12-05 04:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sophiegreeneyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might say it is not about the pregnancy but that would be a lie. Perhaps he does not want to hurt the baby but of course that is an old wise tell and so far from the truth.
Have a talk with him otherwise break out B.O.B.
Battery Operated Boyfriend
2006-12-05 04:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well think positively, you know he could be really stressed out at work and especially the unborn baby can make him realized that he needs to think about the future so you and the baby can have a better living. As a lover you will need to comprehend each other's differences. Nothing is easy...we all know that. Just give him some time. Man love personally space and hates it when you invade it.
2006-12-05 04:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"The same schedule" and you're pregnant? I doubt it. When my wife became pregnant, my work schedule and sleep schedule didn't change, but boy was I bussier! And the stress load at work felt like it doubled or trippled. I'm not discounting the stress and pressure to you as the mom, but there is a lot of stress to the father as well. I felt like we were bearely making it, and we were going to have one more mouth to feed, diapers to buy, etc. Everything worked out, of course, but I couldn't bring myself to touch my wife because I felt totally unworthy of being her husband or the baby's father.
2006-12-05 04:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your eight months pregnant. It has nothing to do with you. Most men become afraid of hurting the baby. Relax enjoy this time together. It isn't personal.
2006-12-05 04:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men think pregnant women are sexy......some men find pregnant women a turn off.
You have 1 month before your child is born.....you and your boyfriend need to do some work on your relationship before it's born.
This doesn't sound too good to me....sorry.
2006-12-05 04:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's secretly afraid of hurting the baby inside you. Show him a page in a book that says that sex doesn't hurt the baby.
2006-12-05 04:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be a little too pregnant for him (that turns some men off). Or he might be getting some on the side.
2006-12-05 04:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well seeing that you are 8 months pregnant, it might be more difficult for the two of you to have sex. maybe he's scared that something might happen.
2006-12-05 04:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋