Being a paranoid mom?

Question

Sometimes I think I am way to paranoid, if my baby who is three months acts in any way that is out of character I call an ambulance as I have no car and transportation is a major issue, I feel like a complete idiot when I do though because my baby seems fine after they check her out., does anyone else have this problem with their first born babies? Am I that daft? Do you parents just let it slide when your baby seems a little off? I have mental problem or over stressed or something it feels like because I freak out about any little change in my baby, like today she was floppy and didnt eat well so I called an ambulance is that over reacting? I would just like to hear some stories of other paranoid mothers.

btw for all of you who are putting me down right now, i posted before I called the ambulance and almost every person told me to take my baby to the ER or to the doctors office immidietly..mabye none of yall know what your tlaking about or i misrepresented my words in the post.

and on another note I called health link and talked to a nurse and she told me to bring my baby to the hosptial.only because she was floppy!!!!!

btw two eight my baby became listless and floppy and wasnt eating...that isnt just not eating shouldnt you be a better listener.

Answer 1

The dr should have an exchange to call they are trained nurses and explain to them what you're going through and talk about what you think is happening with the baby. The baby is probably just fine. Just relax.

Also call your mother or mother in law or a sister or a friend who has a baby. Even an elderly neighbor. The advise from people like that is the best. They will help you relax

Answer 2

Our son was 5 weeks premature, and during the first 3 months we called the doctor ALL the time. We were so new at this! However, after we got beyond the first 3 months we became more solid in our parenting skills.

Now's he's 14 months. I can tell you from experience that things are going to happen to your baby that are out of your control. While it's understandable that you called the ambulence, who is giong to pay for that? I would take a step back and re-examine your child if you think she needs to go to the hospital.

You will KNOW when something isn't right, but when something is really wrong, you'll know that too. Our son never acted "right" when he was teething, but when he had a high fever, we watched him even closer.

You're the parent, but you're going to drive yourself insane if you keep this up. At the first sign of a slight difference, don't jump to conclusions. Ambulence rides are costly, even if they just come to your house. I suggest relaxing a little bit.

If you freak out about your daughter acting "floppy and not eating well" then how you are going to react with the first time she scrapes her knee? Bites her tongue? There is a time to freak out, and there is a time to remain calm and know that everything is going to be okay.

Answer 3

I think calling an ambulance everytime your baby is a little off may be a bit extreme, but I cant put you down for it, I too am a paranoid mom. The only time my first daughter was away from me for more than a couple of hours was when I had my second lol. I definatly think Ive calmed down now that I have 2. But if you believe something is off w/ your baby try just calling the dr first and seeing what he says but if you feel that something is really wrong then go head and call the ambulance. Good Luck.

Answer 4

It is natural for you to be concerned and worried over all the little things. Babies are growing and change every day. They have good days and bad days, they get fussy and cranky, tummy ackes and teething. You should be calling your babies doctor, not the ambulance, the ambulance is there for EMERGENCY ONLY, not a well being check. you are wasting valuable resources of your community when you call the ambulance and it is not an emergency just a sniffle or gas, If the child is screaming and running a high fever, or is in any way in respiratory distress by all means call 911 if he just seem a bit off, call your doctor

Answer 5

It only happened once for me, and it was because of her Dr. We raced her to the emergency room when she was just a couple days old because she wouldn't quit crying. The Dr. had said to only feed her every four hours on the nose and that's it. Turns out she was just hungry. Needless to say we got a new Dr.!

You have Motherly instincts you need to start relying on them. You could be taking an ambulance away from someone who really needs one. If your baby is healthy, there is no reason for you to freak out every time some little thing is different. I mean if she turns blue or stops breathing, then you call an ambulance. Not because she didn't eat or has a cold! Try to relax, you aren't going to do anyone any good if you keep freaking out like this! You need to wait it out if you think something is wrong and see first. You'll know if she really needs to go. Just relax and rely on your instincts and you'll be fine.

Answer 6

It sounds like your isolation & lack of transportation fuel you to overeact to the situation. I think you need to find some supportive friends/neighbors that could give you rides to the doctor if an emergency arose. Just knowing that you won't be stranded if your little one has a fever might make you relax. Also, a good pediatrician will field those questions for you over the phone, day and night.

It's pretty common to feel crazily overprotective of your child - I used to get up to see if my son was breathing all the time (I still do and he's two!) Perhaps even moving somewhere where you can easily walk places would also help - you might be able to find a group or counselor to help you talk about your fears.

Answer 7

You are stressing yourself out way too much. Call the doctor's office instead of the ambulance, first. Get some baby books, find some online support groups, and don't panic. If you keep calling the ambulance over these type of situations they will fine you.

Answer 8

Ever hear about the boy who cried wolve? I think maybe you are the mom. If you call the ambulance that much then when there really is a prblem they might not get there as quickly. Stop and think - call the pediatrician if needed. Save the ambulance for a real emergency! Maybe you just still have prego hormones - you really need to not worry so much!!

Answer 9

I used to take my baby to the emergency room every time he got a runny nose until one doctor told me, "Kids get runny noses, stop worrying so much!" But an ambulance? Doesn't that get expensive? Unless she has a fever or is acting REALLY out of character, just chill out. But yeah, it's normal to be a nervous new mom.

Answer 10

You are over-reacting WAY too much. Ambulances are considered emergency services, like people who are about to die immediately. Your infant not eating well is not an emergency. You need to go to a pediatrician with a list of things to ask the doctor whether some of your kid's habits are normal or not.