REQUESTING UPDATE ON ---- Is it right for a married woman to socialize with?

Question

a married man? A friend of mine is planning to meet a married woman he met online for drinks after work. He told me that they have exchanged sexually explicit emails but that they are just friends. I've advised him not go.

SO L84WK ---- DID YOUR FRIEND HEED YOUR ADVISE .... OR DID HE GO MEET HER ANYWAY .... WHAT WAS THE OUTCOME ... CAN 2 PEOPLE BE FRIENDS WITHOUT IT RESULTING IN SEX OR DID YOUR FRIEND GET LAID

WHAT DOES THE REST OF THE COMMUNITY THINK --- GOT LAID OR NOT?

Well there you have it ... apparently they did meet ... no sex ... and are friends .... at least for the time being ..... HMMMMMM

Do I hear the crash & burn of a friendship in the near future if chicky doesn't put out????

Answer 1

Just checked in with my buddy. He did not heed my advise and went to meet here anyway. He said he wasn't expecting to get laid and neither was she. So far, they are still just friends.

Answer 2

I think if you aim is to be a good spouse and stay married, the answer is a resounding NO.

If you meet someone that you have already had the intimicy of sharing explicit emails, your probability of doing something you regret is too high to be considered safe - and definitely too high to be considered a responsible thing to do. All of this assuming you want to be a faithful spouse. Anyone who thinks they are above temptation and can be just friends has too high an opinion of themselves - or secretly hope to fail and have an affair on the side. Either he lusts after an affair, is overconfident or most likely, both.

Remember the golden rule. Would this man want his wife to meet another man that she has been trading explicit emails with? I would think not.

Answer 3

I dont know in that case.........as you said they already have entered in a risky zone. Sexually explicit mails are not only friendly or innocent.
But.....OF COURSE 2 pple from different gender can be friends. Why not? Not everyone thinks about sex when is with a real friend. I myself have 1 or 2 very good friends from the other gender. When male are good friends of a woman, it's better sometimes than with a female. We females are envidious, and like gossips.
Men, when good friends, are supporters, like brothers.

About what does the rest of the community think?......Who do care? I care about my conscience only.
Men are best friends for females than females themselves

Answer 4

If they are just platonic friends, then IMHO there is no problem with opposite genders being friends, married or not.

But exchanging "sexually explicit emails" is not "platonic", IMHO, and they're asking for trouble.

The bigger question is - does the woman's husband know that she's going to meet another guy for drinks, and how does HE feel about it? Does he know? Or is she hiding it from him because he'd be upset? If she's hiding it, then IMHO it's cheating whether they end up doing anything or not.

Answer 5

If they've exchanged sexually explicit emails, then there's obviously more than friendship going on. Men and women can be just friends, but this doesn't sound like an innocent friendship.

Answer 6

I wouldn't assume that he got laid. Women can be funny sometimes. They will lead you on and then back out at the last minute. Most likely if she agrees to meet him a second time then its on!!!!

Answer 7

Even if they werent going to meet, the sexually explicit emails are to much.

Its wrong for a married man and a married woman (WHO ARE NOT MARRIED TO EACHOTHER) to exchange such emails!!!

Answer 8

Totally got laid.

Answer 9

If you dont thnk you can trust the two adults than either you or your spouse have a problem. I hope when (and if) I marry, trust will be 100% assumed. I have a friend (male) who is in a monogomous relationship and whenever i try to spend time with him I feel shame from people. Its so ridiculous to me. I wont fling with him....though he did ask once :)..............................

Answer 10

Probably got laid