would you forgive your husband for having an affair after 15 years of marriage?

Answer 1

NOPE...an affair would make a joke out of our life together and I couldn't be with someone who thought so little of me and the life we had.

Answer 2

I think that cooler heads should prevail here. I can't help but look at these simpletons who insist you should dump him without first being analytical about it.
So lets see....fifteen years married. Kids? Ages? House? Property both owned like vehicles, etc?
Now...in all that time has infidelity ever been an issue? I have no doubt that you are deeply hurt...if it is you we're talking about. The hurt will also immediately turn to anger. This is where you make the bad decisions based upon emotion and not logic. I think your first step is to evaluate what you have 9as previously mentioned) and think....were those 15 years good? Do you still love him? This is deep down because you may not feel like it right now but look deep and think. Next...has he apologized and discussed this with you? My advice is to not ask who he had the affair with unless you already know and second, do not confront or ahve any contact with this woman. This will accomplish nothing and quite frankly, your issue lies with him more so than her.
This can be worked out. But only if you want to do so. It seems to me that 15 years of your life invested in this relationship might be worthwhile salvaging. Everyone is human and everyone makes mistakes. Some mistakes are greater and more hurtful than others but there are some that you may not be able to quite forgive and certainally not forget but it doesn't help for you to dwell on them nor toss them up in his face for the rest of his life.
This may be workable and you can save it. Granted the feeling of trust and intimacy with one another may be gone for awhile. It'll come back but the trust issue will take the longest to return. Even then...you'll always be on the lookout for any hint that something may be up.
Stick with it if you think hard and feel its worthwhile. It isn't easy starting over after all that time. Maturity and good sense will get you through it. Its certainally not a good situation but look at it this way...he could just have up and left you and ran off with whoever the other woman is.
Good luck to you and hopefully this helped. I can only offer advice based upon what little I know so I hope this works for you.

Answer 3

i think it just depends on the circumstances your relationship is in.
a lot of people can say don't but know one really know until you go
through something like this. it's easily to give a answer when it's not your life. but there are probably a lot stuff you have to take into consideration before you make a decision! so you have to analyze yourself and family. if you have children what you do does affect them. for example if you have children you're teaching your daughter to forgive and put up with cheating! if you have a boy it's OK to be like dad. It's also very hard to trust someone after betrayal. maybe if you decide to stay try marriage counseling? good luck

Answer 4

No! I had a boyfriend of 3 years and we were engaged. He cheated and I forgave him, or so I thought! I never forgot!!I believe that once the trust is broken you can't get it back. For me, it was always in the back of my mind! I would be suspicious of him and any weird behaviors! For example, if he was late coming home, my mind would wonder, is he cheating again. Or if he didn't answer his cell I'd think he was with her. I know I don't want to be in a relationship where I am always worrying. I felt misreable, jealous, suspicious and unsure of so many things. Mostly unsure of myself! I felt like many times after that he was cheating and he would deny it!! This made me not trust myself! If course in the end I found out he had been with 3 different women! So all along, all the thoughts I had were right! It took a while to heal from this and to trust another man! But once it was done and over I vowed to never to put up with that crap again! I, and you deserve someone that is going to be faithful!

Answer 5

I don't think you should because if he already stayed with you that long, why should he have a affair outside your relationship. The best thing for you to do now is take a break off of everything, and really think about your situation. Hope this will help you.

Answer 6

I think that it's possible to forgive. I just don't know if it's possible to forget. I think in this situation, for me personally, because I'm huge on honesty and trust, it would be VERY hard for me to trust my spouse again. If he was capable of doing it once, what would stop him from doing it again??? Even if he loves you, which I'm sure he does, my biggest concern would be that I'd put myself out there and try and trust him again, and he'd just go and do it again. Trust is so important to me, and I think once a person has been unfaithful it's very hard to rebuild the trust that has been broken. It doesn't mean that I'd hate that person or not forgive them. I just don't know that there is much left in a marriage if there is not trust. That is the foundation of everything.

Answer 7

I may forgive him, but our marriage would be over. There is never an excuse to cheat. Any man who cheats on his wife runs the risk of losing her and is telling her that she is expendable. I don't ever want to feel like my husband can get along without me. I would never cheat on him, and I hope that he would honor our vows and entreat me in the same manner, if not, it's the last curtain call.

Answer 8

My husband had an affair 28 days after we were married. 6 years later I had to divorce him because I still cant get over it.

Answer 9

No!
What kind of man does that!
if you are married for so long you assume that he loves you enough to be with you.
I would throw him out.
but if you have kids, thats another story.
You would have to forgive him somehow so you can stay together for the sake of your kids,
or if it just doesnt work, dump the jerk.
although he made a mistake, it doesnt give him an excuse to go be with some other girl.
hope this helps :)

Answer 10

i would forgive my husband sometime people make silly chooses, you don't want one minor thing to take 15 yrs old away over an one night stand. Just remember what your wedding vows state.... Give him another chance but don't give in too easy make him work for your forgives