I mean it's not funny anymore my mom sticks her noses into everyone love life thinking she could help, But all she really want's to do is critize me because I'm dating a guy four years younger !!but to than me and him it's perfect i mean we love each other and we like each other alot, but she seems to be butting her nose into are relationship like she can run my life... she say's it's not right and that she disapprove but truth be told that i really like him and she needs to butt out of my life..when she talks now I don't listen and usually say to her "what ever" mom your'e not going to be around to save my happiness in the furture and for now she has kicked me out of my house now I am mad because I had to pay for bills and food and it sucks!!!! How come I can't enjoy life the way it is?
2006-12-05 04:21:52 · 11 answers · asked by Tilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Everything in life is a lesson for us all. Your mum kicking you out of the house makes you a mature person, who's responsible for her own life and independance. Or else, how would you learn all this? You're on your own now, having your own place, and that means she cannot intrude your personal life anymore. As a grown woman now, take up the next available opportunity when she starts critisizing your r'ship to sit down and talk to her calmly as possible, that you love your partner, and that you will not break up with him, just because she says so, and her threats means nothing to you now. Tell her that you do not wish to have a long bitter relationship with her, but if she decides to cut all ties with you and disapprove of your r'ship, tell her it would be the last time you will have contact with her again (meaning you will not send her any invitation to your bridal shower, wedding, baby shower etc in the near future). Unless you get out of your mum's grip, you will never learn to grow, have your own thinking, and walk on your own feet. You cannot enjoy your life, because you still have unsettled business with her, and you will continue to have this feeling unless you stand up to her, and protect your own privacy. Once you settle with her, and break out from her rules and authorities, you will be free, with less burden on your shoulder to bear.
2006-12-05 04:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what thats life moms will be moms it is there need to be nosy they need to pick at everything you do. Tell your mom to butt out that your love life has nothing to do with her this may sound rude but sometimes you just need to stand up to parents.
I always find this strange if the guy was four years older she would probably not have a problem why is it that a older guy can date a younger lady but when the tables turn its wrong? This is pathetic I'm 5 yrs younger then my wife and we don't care love
has no bounds and age is irrelevant. God Bless and Good Luck
maybe explain to your mom that you love this guy and the age thing doesn't bother you so why should it bother her?
2006-12-05 04:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, you could be justified, or she could. Are you out of high school? If you are paying for bills, you are employed? Is she a single mom, one child, or ar there others littler than you who could be affected by your choices? If this "guy" you are seeing is less than 18 and you are more than 21, your mom is absolutely right, it could get you put in jail. However, if you are self sufficient and have a job, and are no longer a minor, perhaps it is time to step up to the plate, and make your own way, anyhow.
2006-12-05 04:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by H2Ocolors 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF YOUR GROWN IT WAS TIME FOR YOU TO GET OUT ANYWAY ESPECIALLY IF YOU WANT TO TELL HER WHAT TO DO IN HER OWN HOUSE NOT THAT IT MAKES IT RIGHT BUT SHE DID HAVE SOME LEVERAGE WHEN SHE WAS TAKING CARE OF YOU NOW THAT'S SHE'S NOT THERE IS NO WRONG WAY TO TELL HER IF YOU CAN SAY "WHATEVER MOM TO HER" THEN CAN DEFINITELY SIT HER DOWN AND SAY HEY THIS IS MY LIFE AND MY SITUATIONS LET ME LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES IF THEY ARE MISTAKES AS LONG AS I'M HAPPY EVEN IF IT'S FOR 3 SECONDS YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY FOR ME. ALSO IF YOU DO, DON'T TELL YOUR MOTHER YOUR BUSINESS AND SINCE YOU NO LONGER LIVE WITH HER SHE REALLY HAS NO WAY OF KNOWING NOW AND WHEN SHE DOES ASK TELL HER MY BUSINESS IS MINE NOT YOUR SO LETS NOT TALK ABOUT IT "IN A RESPECTFUL WAY AND TONE OF COURSE" BUT DON'T BE AFRAID TO TELL HER BECAUSE THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES THAT'S HOW WE LEARN. BE STRAIGHT UP AND HONEST IT MAY TAKE A MINUTE BUT SHE'LL GET IT. AND TRY SPENDING TIME WITH HER IN OTHER WAYS LIKE SPA DAYS OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT CAUSE IT SOUNDS LIKE SHE'S LONELY AND DOESN'T HAVE A LIFE OF HER OWN NOISEY PEOPLE ARE USUALLY LIKE THAT MOTHER OR NOT SHE'S NOISY AND YOUR THE MOST INTERESTING THING IN HER LIFE RIGHT NOW SO GIVE HER SOMETHING ELSE TO TALK ABOUT. BETTER YET TURN THE CONVERSATION TO HER START ASKING HER QUESTIONS AND TELL HER "I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT'S GOING ON WITH YOU NOW" GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-05 04:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by sky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world honey. First you need to just be blunt with mom and let her know you value her opinion, but you are old enough to decide who you should date. If she can't except that then maybe you and mom need some space until she thinks it through. Next, paying bills is a part of life but if you show your mom you can handle being an adult, then maybe she will lay off your love life too when she sees how good you are handling it.
2006-12-05 04:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by sgtofpain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in reality there are some mom that are like that.... u just have to let her calm down for a few days.... and when she realizd her mistakes, she'll call u back... But if she dnt then i guess u have to make ur own life... because she is not gonna change!!!
2006-12-05 04:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you need just to simply sit here down and talk to her and tell her how you fell and what it is doing to you emotionally,physically, and socially and don't let her turn the tables on you. you need to stick it hard and you need not to let her win in any way and if she dosent let up then take the next step and just simply hide it and dont show any kind of sign ok wee good luck
p.s. don't forget to not to become soft and stay as hard as rock and let her know how you feel
2006-12-05 04:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you honey, but you can tell her in every language out there and it's not going to work. Either grin and bear it or don't even mention a man to her until you're about to get married!
2006-12-05 04:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by KaShae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't say how old you are. If you are a grown person than you can go with whom ever you like and pay for your own bills and food.
2006-12-05 04:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can live life however you see fitt if you are grown you need to be on yoour own but you still need to respect your mother, your mom cant pick who you fall in love with so marry this guy and hope for 4ever happiness gl
2006-12-05 04:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋