I actually want her to orally please me and not spit. I'm not cheating, make pretty good money, and have been married for 4 years. Should that be such a big problem? We have argued about this to the point that we can't stand to be around each other right now so I just want others opinons. Am I wrong?
2006-12-05 04:05:51 · 34 answers · asked by Robbery1211 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To not be around her because she doesn't agree with it an 100%-yes. To want her to please you-no. Of course, she should be willing to please you because you two are MARRIED but you should be willing to work with her about it or on it. Why don't you *** and then hold her mouth shut?
2006-12-05 09:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a two way street. On the one hand, yes, I believe a person should do everything possible to please their spouse. On the other hand, you should respect each others feelings on things. It's the problem of...if she loves you she will be willing to do this for you, but if you love her you won't try to make her do this. Who wins? That's why compromise is so important. My wife won't spit or swallow. She'll give me oral, but because she has a bad gag reflex (even blowing her nose makes her gag) and since I care about her, I pull out just before I shoot. Would I like her to spit or swallow sometime? Sure I would. But I'd rather her be comfortable and enjoying it, and me make that compromise...than her do it just to appease me, and it be a bad experience for her.
2006-12-05 05:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you really have to ask such a question...
It's her body. If she doesn't want to do something, it is her decision and you have no right to reproach her for that, if you don't want to make sex for her something very unpleasant.
Some like swallowing, some are not comfortable with the thought of swallowing a slimy bodily liquid that maybe even smells and tastes not that good. Did you ever swallow it yourself?
You wouldn't like if she insisted on, say, inserting things where you don't want things to be or eating her feces or something and punished you for being uncomfortable with it.
2006-12-05 04:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mynnia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that expecting your wife to do something that she does not want to do is totally wrong. It's already been said on here, but would you want to swollow your own semen??? I bet not. That's gross. There are a lot of women who refuse to give blow jobs at all! Why does it matter if she spits or swollows? Sounds like a control factor to me. I would never let my husband manipulate me into doing something I don't want to do, and I certainly wouldn't waste my time arguing about it or allow him to make me feel guilty. The amount of money you make and whether or not you've cheated should not even be a factor! It's just respecting her wishes.
2006-12-05 04:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In general yes I would do something I didn't like to please my husband. HOWEVER, in your case. You two have fought about this issue and it has gone too far. She doesn't want to do it. End of story. Let it go. If you continue on this path of insistence she just may stop giving you oral pleasure to avoid the fight.
Rule of thumb: Pick your fights. Is this issue worth fighting about? No? Stop, move on, and get over it. Yes? Stand your ground until they agree or a compromise can be reached.
2006-12-05 04:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least the way you say it, it sounds like you make good money and aren't cheating, so you can claim your wife to do whatever you expect her to do. Just the way you say it, sounds like a chauvenist.
I believe you are wrong to expect her to do something that she doesn't like. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it. Maybe if you just make it a bit easier on her, and accept her the way she is, she'll actually be more responsive and fun. Respect her for who she is and give her the space she deserves.
Giving you head and swallowing isn't the main reason you married her in the first place. If that's what you think you married her for and are disappointed she isn't "delivering to her promise", you shouldn't be married in the first place.
2006-12-05 04:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think as long as she has pleased you orally you shouldn't care about what she does with that stuff I know why your having problems your trying to pressure her into something she doesn't want to do you want her to swallow your already pleased why keep pushing her I know some girls that wont do that for their husbands be lucky she's doing it at all
2006-12-05 04:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by fluttergirl2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A person shouldn't have to compromise who they are. You knew her desire when you married her right? If she feels comfortable then she will. If she doesn't, don't push it. Put yourself in her shoes, if she asked you to say sleep with another man and you be the receiver how would that make you feel? Just beacuse it involves another person its the same thing.
2006-12-05 04:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by healthykidnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not disagree with some of these answers more:
You are lucky to get anything............No you are not. In marriage BOTH partners should make all reasonable effort to please eachother sexually. You are not lucky and nor is she as I expect you are meeting her needs. This is not luck ladies and gentlemen. This is part of the deal. We do things that perhaps are not our cup of tea to please the other. Noone wants to go to the gas station yet we do it as needed. You need to explain to her that you are willing to do what she needs to be pleased and she should do same. What is wrong with that? To all th eladies that think you are getting over on your husbands by getting out of fellatio..................you may be setting up an explosive situation.
2006-12-05 05:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a pretty sexually open person and would do whatever my partner wanted. But my partner is not sexually adventurous, and its something I have to live with. There are somethings I know I'll never get from her. If she doesnt feel comfortable,don't force her, just be a man and live with it
2006-12-05 04:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by sw_fan2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as long as she pleases you orally what does it matter if she spits or swallows. i mean come on, have YOU ever tasted it. probably not. i have no problem pleasing my man orally, but 99.9 percent of the time i spit it out and he doesn't mind. as long as she is getting the job done, what does it matter where goes
2006-12-05 06:13:25 · answer #11 · answered by mj_jll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋