It's not just even the creeps!! I've met really nice guys that wouldn't take advantage of my continual drunken state yet they refuese to have a serious relationship with anyone... How do I find myself a nice lad?
2006-12-05 03:43:24 · 30 answers · asked by life_aint_a_game_10 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hard to say how many actually fit the description you've given here. Maybe you're just looking for love in all the wrong places. Furthermore, your focus is misplaced onto others. You may find it helpful to shift that focus to yourself where it rightly belongs. You need to seriously consider these possibilities. Don't despair if they are true because once you recognize that, you are in a better position to empower yourself, change what needs to be changed (in yourself, not in others) and set a new course toward that rewarding life you truly desire. Good luck.
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2006-12-05 04:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by Seeker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men having had so long in the closet seem to feel the need to become really sexually active. For some it's just a phase and they calm down after a while for others they carry it on long after they should know better! The point is make general comments and you'll get general answers. It really depends where you're looking for guys. Certainly if you're looking on the 'scene' a combination of drink, drugs and general hysteria ain't exactly the best beginning for any potential relationship. However trust me for every shallow guy there is 3 more with depth, at least! So don't give up looking, they're there, just have some patience and fun along the way!
2006-12-05 13:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It must be where you are meeting guys because there are hundreds of gay guys who are in solid long term relationships and are not always wanting sex. It is a fact that the male requires more sex than females and hence are often looking for it. I have been with my partner for nearly 8 years and we have friends who have been together for over 25. I also know of guys who are seeking long term relationships. Like with everything, it takes all sorts. Try something like gaydar if you are really wanting a serious relationship with someone. I know guys who have met the man of their dreams using gaydar.
2006-12-06 09:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by Adam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not just a gay male thing, it's a male thing, but I do not think it is all men, all the time....although most men THINK about it a lot, they are not always only after sex. I know that I am a guy looking for and in need of a relationship first and foremost. Any good people out there looking for the same thing, drop me a line.....!!!!
2006-12-05 14:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by SAMUEL ELI 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a male thing, not a gay thing. It is worse on the gay side though cause its man with man and usually no chasing is involved (or much).
I usually find that blokes ready to settle down or who are not into sleeping around tend to stay away from the scene.
I might add that waiting awhile before you sleep with someone does go along away.
2006-12-05 18:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by benn26k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Druken state? You must be frequenting gay bars and looking for the right guy... well, I'm not saying that only promiscuous people frequent gay bars, but they are the majority of the bar's population. So if you are looking for a nice lad, just live your life, continue your hobbies, study a new craft, and engage in a public activity (not necessarily just for gays) outside the gay bar. There are so many quality people out there, but they are usually engaged in quality things too.
I'm not saying that only sucky people go to gay bars, it's just that we must not expect to meet lifelong companions there.
2006-12-05 12:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my experience, the men who complain the most about the "gay lifestyle" and how sex-obsessed gay men are, tend to be the ones who are themselves guilty of it. Maybe it gets old at some point, or starts to seem a little hollow. So they complain, yet continue to do it.
Might not apply to you. But it's what I've observed.
2006-12-05 11:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because many of us are still young and just want to "get off"....Seriousness comes later on when the guy is ready to settle down....Look on the net for a local bath house in your area and you are sure to find a nice lad for yourself
2006-12-05 12:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by DOLLARZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would be harder to find a gay man who wants a long term relationship than a straight man- i think this is because straight men are more likely to want to (eventually) settle down, get married, start a family. As gay men can't do this, there is less incentive to stick with the one partner.
2006-12-05 11:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by trixi 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes you can meet someone in a bar.....I met my partner in a bar 28 years ago, he was 20, I was 23. Life couldn't be better, own a house, have three dogs, three birds, an aquarium......and my mother in-law is visiting for 2 weeks. It can happen it just takes desire and work on both parts.
2006-12-05 19:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋