So as i have been contemplating asking my girlfriend of 4 years to marry me in December, i have told my parents and they are absolutely estatic, So herein lies my problem, I had planned to go ring shopping with my Stepfather, but my mother told me how when her mother had passed away she gave my mother her enngagement ring. My mother said it would mean a great deal to her if i gave my girlfriend that ring as an engagement ring. I think it is a wonderful idea but afraid that it might come off as me being to cheap to buy a new ring.
2006-12-05 03:30:24 · 18 answers · asked by biffnasty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would love for my boyfriend to give me his grandmothers ring. this means I'm apart of his family. his mother is welcoming me as her own! that it is very important and it will make your girlfriend feel very special! ( unless she is materialistic and wants some huge diamond in platinum, then i cant really help you) but again if it were me, i would be more honored with a family herlom then some thing bought at a store.
2006-12-05 03:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by bar22bie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so at all. Many families pass down engagement rings and such.
She can help in picking out the wedding sets you two decide to have.
I also think it is a matter of how you present it. If you tell her your mother gave you her mother's engagement ring and she would really like your g/f to have it - I am sure your g/f will be very flattered to be getting such a precious item.
Also, if she wants something different later, she can always continue to wear the family heirloom on her right hand or another finger.
2006-12-05 11:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by sawftandtender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either give her your grandmothers ring as it is or have it redesigned using the stones. Explain to your girlfriend the sentimental reasons behind it. Then when you get married buy her an expensive diamond wedding band of her own choosing. This way she won't think you are cheap. Tell her this when you give her the engagement ring. I think it is a lovely idea.
2006-12-05 11:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by Janine E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is sweet and instead of spending money on a ring you can use that extra cash for the honeymoon.
Another idea is to take the center stone of your grandmothers ring and put it in a new setting and get a matching wedding band. You still save some money, but now you have made it personal.
2006-12-05 11:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take that ring to have the centimental value but add something of your own, like take the diamond and have it reset, or if the diamond is smaller than you want, use the band put your own diamond in it then use the diamond to give her a necklace for christmas. Remember that your girl will wear this the rest of her life so listen to what shape of diamond she likes or what color jewlery she wears, if this ring is yellow gold and all she wears is white gold think of having the jewels set in white gold. Good luck.
2006-12-05 11:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sweet thing. To be honest I would ask your girlfriend which ring she would like, girls used to be grateful for what they got, but girls these days seem to be a lot more fussy about it, and demanding that they get a huge diamond etc (I have seen so many people here complain about their ring) i am sure your girlfriend is perfectly sweet and not like that at all, but better to be safe than sorry, she may have her "dream ring" pictured in her head.
2006-12-05 11:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the ring from you mom and enhance it the way you want and get it customized to your liking....You and your mom will both be happy..
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You can give your girlfriend the engagement ring now and tell your mom you will give her her ring on your wedding day, then you will have time to customize and enhance the ring to your likings and be happy about it.....
By doing that, you will be able to give "something old and something new" to your new wife....
Wish you luck...I think it will be more meaningful to present it on your wedding day as your wife-to-be will be surprised and your mom will be estatic...it is a win-win situation.....
2006-12-05 13:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the ring that is passed down in a family is a show of acceptance in the family. If you feel that she won't be satisfied with the ring, ask her to accept it, and then you will purchase a brand spanking new one for her to receive at the marriage ceremony. You would be showing her that you value her enough to give her something that was in your family to keep it in your family.
2006-12-05 14:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No--actually it is quite a heartfelt thing to do. It is an heirloom. If you feel there is a problem--get a nice little band or something to go with it. Later on down the road--you can her a very nice set and maybe she will put this one away for keepsake--so it won't get lost or wear out?
2006-12-05 11:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u give her that ring it would be special. You can make up being cheap by giving her some other jewelery in your marriage or spend more money on the wedding that you would have spent on the ring
2006-12-05 11:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋