NEED HELP! Please guys. [Cryin]?

Question

i am the one who poseted about me and my ex for 3 years i justg ot off the phone with her and she dont want to be with me no more. she says she loves me and still cares about me but she dont want to be with me. i love her soo soo much i and i still want to be with her. so i dont know what to do any omre it feels like my world is coming down please hlep me out. i am cryin and dont know what to do.

and she is seein someone already. man i am so heart broken she got mad because i visited myspace. and she started talking all this stuff to me so i started talking stuff back so she keep hitting me and pushing me so everytime she will try to push me i will push her arsm away and she consider that hitting her. but i dont know what to di i miss her so much and love her. anyone of yall got myspace accounts? so i can add yall to my friends oh and as far as my friends go she made me stop talkin to them 3 year ao so i dont got no more friends all i ahd was her and my family and cousion. so please hlep me out what should i do to kepp my mind of of things and should i keep callin her.?

Answer 1

Juz chillazz!!
Let the thinz get chilled..
It will b fine !!
these kindda thins need tym 2 get solved...
U cant do nothing other then wait n watch,,, :D
;-)

Answer 2

I've been in the same situation - only I was the one leaving the relationship. I didnt want to, but there were too many issues that could not be worked out.

I know it feels like your world is ending and in some sense it is. Not physically, but emotionally. However, sometimes it can be the best thing for us to do.

Everyone always says time heals all wounds and it does - but, it will never take away the love you feel for this person and they will always remain in your heart.

This relationship will teach you much. It will teach you how powerful love is and how important it is to stay on top of the relationship and be a team.

Sometimes, though you may love someone so much, relationships fall apart because one person is not contributing to it as they should. However unfair that seems, it is a way of life.

I would love to say "Move on - it will be okay in time" but that is not realistic and is not sympathic. All you can do right now is know that you two meant something wonderful to each other and that though you are apart, you are etched into each other for life, you shared 3 years together - that lets me know you sincerely love each other.

Crying is healthy. It will help you to heal. You will have many long days and nights, but you will get stronger each day. Sending hugs your way, knowing right now is sad and painful. Stay strong.

Answer 3

What do you hope to get by crying? It is plain that she is leaving you and for good. Contrary to whatever she tells you, the truth is that she doesn't love you any longer. Else she wouldn't have moved out and started meeting another man. You have to get used to this reality. The earlier the better.
I understand it is pretty painful for you. But there is little you can do about that, crying or otherwise. I am sure you did everything to convince her not to leave you and failed. Now collect your wits and bid goodbye to a dead relationship. Some people have already suggested to look for other fishes in the sea. The truth is that the void in your life will be easily filled up by a more understanding woman if you want. So don't let this setback take control of your life and emotions. Move ahead and find someone who understands you better.

Answer 4

This too shall pass my friend. Women want what they can not have. What you need to do is concentrate on your work. Maybe start your own business and devote your time and engergy into that. When you become real successful, financially, she'll regret it. That's all women want. They are constantly looking for the greener grass. But once they get on the other side of the fence, they will notice that the grass was only greener because they were looking at it from a different angle. Now the old grass looks the greenest.

Never let the woman know you love them more than they love you. They will take advantage of your weakness, 100% of the time.

Be strong. There are many many more women out there. I know exactly what you're going through. I met someone who showed me that she loved me but never would say it. So I get all emotional one night and let her know how strong I felt for her. Then she says she's not ready for that kind of relationship and only wants to be friends. No kisses, no sex, no nothing but conversation. My sun set with her, my sun rose with her. I loved everything about her from her fingers to her toes. Then she pulls this?

Screw em! Find another and never let her know how you feel. Let her think it, just never let her know you love her more. They will take advantage of you.

It's God's curse for Eve taking the apple from the forbidden tree.

Answer 5

Dont think of it as the end and dooms day, think of it as a new beginning with endless possibilities,I know it hurts guy but you cant make someone love you if she really loved you she wouldnt ever leave . my advice is tuff but it all any of us can do just breath, let her go and dont look back cause if you let the past haunt you you can never have a future , so sorry for your pain dude we all go though that at some point, take care and remember just breath: HUH? Someone said chase after her? Are you a stalker haha, thats creepy,,, You know the sad truth is once its over its over, if you ever break up getting back together is sure doom, and will never be the same also if a woman says they want to just be friends or slow down , this means they have other interest and it's not you, you can find one that will love you to death and thats what you diserve not a woman thats wishy washy, remember the key is cut loose and dont look back theres nothing to gain from that except sure pain, good luck

Answer 6

Hey bud, just read your previous post to get an idea of what's going on. For one, it's a tough thing to go through: having what you believe are strong feelings for another person, then having them say that they no longer want to be with you. One ex that I had I actually caught cheating.

So let me say this from experience. In due time, you will realize that she really isn't the right girl for you. She didn't truly love you, she had little respect for you (or for herself), and she was extremely selfish and manipulative.

Yeah, I know, you don't want to hear that now, but just know that there are much, much better fish in the sea and you will find the right one soon. It took me all of 30 minutes to realize that my ex was a s*** (after that day, I saw her with about 15 different guys in a two month period) and was able to move on. The next girl I met? I ended up marrying her. I am incredibly happy and would not be with her today if I had stayed with my ex or pined over her for more than that half hour. So the day that started out as one of the worst in my life turned out to be the best day in my life.

The same has happened for you. You may not realize it now, and it may take some time for you to agree with me, but one day, you will thank her for leaving you. It was honestly the best thing to happen for you. Be strong. You'll see.

Answer 7

She has done what every man needs... she has communicated to you her real feelings... plain and simple. Since you spent so much of your life together, it will be difficult at first, but there are millions of people out there and there's someone just for you who will make you feel like a million bucks everyday. Noone is worth crying over, and someone who is worth it, wont make you cry! Your heart is broken, you WILL get thru this. I promise. Think of your future. Get yourself in gear, go work out, hard... and do things that YOU enjoy doing, they will make you feel better during the day, and hten if you have to, cry yourself to sleep at night. DOn't let her hear or see you suffering.. Begging will not get her back. If she knows you are out having fun and enjoying life, she may realize what she has done, want to come back BUT that's when you make her work for it. If you respect yourself, others will too. You have been her boyfriend for 3 years... Now you are the lucky one to get to find out who you have become ... guess what??? It's YOU! There is a YOU in there who wants to do new things, make new friends and experience the world without her... Don't try to just get over her.... make a point to get into yourself. YOU DESERVE IT!!! Know that one day you will look back on this, remember how miserable you (were) then look around at your life - at all your accomplishments- and genuinely be able to thank her for doing this to you. People are only in our lives to teach us a lesson, once it's learned, theyneed to leave. Realize you lesson... what did she teach you? Good or bad??? Learn from it and make yourself a better person...Be positive! Everyone goes thru hard breakups... you can get thu this.... I promise....Good Luck.

Answer 8

Don´t cry is not the end of the world , even if you feel so...Clear your mind ,and focus,if she still cares maybe there is a hope...analize the situation and think...ask yourself this question:

What is the thing you did wrong.

Did you forget about aniyhing for to much long.

Are you dealing here with insecurity on your side.

what is she specting from you ?

be sincere and cold..and face this situation,block everey tear and turn it into security...

now call her back and say you want a last chance to fix thing up!!!

and email me at once

Answer 9

The loss of a relationship is kin to a death in your life. I know it doesnt seem like it right now, but it will get better and you will heal. You cant make somone want to be with you. Keep seeking the support of others and talk about it as often as you feel necessary. That really does help. Its tough to accept but you have to find a way to do that. Allow yourself to cry and grieve. If you find that it lingers too long, that you cant effectively deal with the emotional stress, or you can not function in your everyday life please get professional help.

Answer 10

first go pray if you pray , then cry your eyes out until you cannot any more. then get some friends to watch comedy with you . make sure you have some good friends around you. your world is not ending. it is just beginning. if you pray keep doing so and it will take second by second to get through the day then min by min then maybe day by day until you can go a week and then a month and soon you will not be thinking of her but you will be focused on you.

Answer 11

Hi Mick? So, u are very distrubed bcz of the exit of ur
ex for 3 years. I am not a young man, I am highly matured man & strongly recommend u as under:

If u really feel that with the exit of ur ex, ur world is coming
down, wait and watch for sometime, say few months ( 3 to
6 months). Don't go after her bcz u hv seen her with somebody and now her head will be in the sky. Let her do whatever she wants to do. Same time, you just send
her greetings on some or the other pretext every 1 to 2
months and not every 1 to 2 weeks. In few months, you
will see, if she is slowly returning or not. Better don't fone
her before 2 to 3 months but do send greetings every 1 to
2 months. Wait for maximum six months but at the same
time, start making new friends thru online or otherwise
& keep urself busy with others. After ur six months separation, you re-assess the situation as to which one
is better the old one or the new one/s. Don't be very close
with new one/s until ur r sure that you want now change.
Don't do anything in a hurry and let time take care of
everything, i.e. wait and watch for uptil six months. If you
wait for longer period, it will be a nightmare for you bcz
u r waiting for something, which would never, ever come
back. I guarantee u that if you devote some quality time
in searching for new faces, you will find the new one/s
much better than the first, I guarantee u again. Its a matter of time, wait and watch, and be patient. Six months is not a big period, it will pass away so fast but to
remove ur tensed life, I strongly recommend u to start doing some kind of pysical exercises, e.g. brisk walking/joging, listen most of the time light music and music of your choice, start making new friends, start meeting them personally, start going in parks for jog/brisk walking, for changing mood, start studying nature, etc. Keep urself busy as much as possible as long as its tensefree. Since your mind is full of emotions, start telling to your best friends ur stories, listen to everybody but use ur own judgement, speak to all nears and dears, but use your own commonsense. This way, you will lighten ur heavy head. Those people, with whom you are going to share ur problems must be very near to u otherwise, many people will make just jokes only. So, keep limited and the best outlets for sharing ur emotions and experiences. Once u r sure about everything after six months, u can chalk out ur program accordingly but for a tensefree life, must do physical exercise, this will keep ur tension and depression to the minimum level. If possible, go out of the city and out of the country also for sometime to get new experiences of life. I can guarantee u, you will come out with flying colors. Start learning new things, e.g. nowadays, Chinese language (Mandarin, etc.) is getting very popular. Learn also music, e.g. piano, guitar, dancing, etc. All this I am telling u to keep u tense free and depression free bcz in a situation like urs, these two things are very common, which affects ur daily life, sleeping disorder, health disorder. Eat nutritious food. Try to do Yoga also if possible. Physical exercises will give u more confidence and increase ur self-esteem and beautify ur life. Therefore, jump start from today. Our heartiest best wishes are always with u. God bless u all the time. Good Luck & Goodbye. Yongkang.