together or sleep on the same time (early or late) or listen to the same kind of music or go to the same kind of places? can two people that dont like the same things be together? can i go out until late with friends while my husband is at home sleeping? can there be such trust?is this happiness?
2006-12-05 02:58:31 · 14 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you shouldnt have to spend every waking hour with each other. This will drive you guys crazy. It is normal and healthy to have time apart. Yeah its nice to be with the one you love, but you have to have time with your friends and other family members. Take it from me, there was a time when my husband and I were joined at the hip, and it was frustrating at times. Now we do our own thing sometimes. There is nothing wrong with it. If your husband doesnt want you to go anywhere without him because of trust issues, then maybe you shouldnt have married him. And if you are not already married, think hard before you make that decision.
2006-12-05 03:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No two people may share the same interests but some they may
but really why do you have to go out late with friends these things
kinda leave when you get married. Marriage is a commitment
to that one person so if you want marriage do it and then do everything together as a couple.
2006-12-05 04:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they dont as long as they both live by the same rules. He cant go out with the boys but now allow you to go out with the girls. Trust is a two way street, it has to be for both. My husband and I dont always go to bed at the same time. Nor do we like the same kind of music. I go out without him and he goes out without me. I trust him and he trusts me. It doesnt happen often as we prefer each others company and have more fun together. We have been together for 16 years and married 11 of them. Good Luck!
2006-12-05 03:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way everybody has its own life,we cannot force our interests on anyone,yes going to bed on the same time is good for lovelife.but if one will stick to his partner all the time then there will be nothing like excitement. yes but thats not good that one is sleeping at home and other is enjoying with friends late nights thats not just trust that is hurting the other persons feelings,the person whose at home will feel unimportant and ignored as in marriage if u expect something than u have to give something atleast for a long lasting marriage.
2006-12-05 05:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by simrannaval3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty you need to have have different tastes in music, food, places of interest or things could get oh so boring! I tried doing that with an ex and we just ended up arguing a lot because we never had any space of our own. As long as u talk to ur partner and u guys trust each other then it shouldn't be a problem. I love having the evening to myself when my hubby is out with his friends and vice versa good luck!
2006-12-05 03:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by brownpeepers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lumping 2 issues together!
You can have your own tastes, go to bed at your own time, and maybe even go out with friends. But going out partying alone with friends can lead to nothing that is good, and that is what I think you are looking for permission to do or you wouldn't be asking it!
Marry a Flight Attendant and you will know what I mean!
2006-12-05 03:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NNNNNNOOOOOOOO....doing that and your relationship will get old fast....You need your individual space and do things seperately....
Everyone needs their space and need to take the time out and have some "me" time...You need to be able to miss that person and keep the spark in the relationship instead of being up in each other's face.....Keep doing everything together, all the time gets tiring....One of you will start to regret being around the other and kick you to the curb...
2006-12-05 04:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to like the same things. but it help to have something in common. yes it can be such a trust
2006-12-05 03:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think that you have to do everything together build a two seater outhouse. Your answer is in the first sentence of this response.
If you decide no is the right answer...you win the cupie doll.
2006-12-05 03:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by oroza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋