I was absolutely horrible to her this friday nite & saturday. Lots of yelling & cursing, & i broke up with her at the end of it all. (i was really really stupid. & drunk. But that doesnt excuse it at all) Luckily for me, she's an angel & took me back on saturday evening after everything calmed down and i apologized my a.ss off. She really didnt deserve that kind of treatment & i feel really bad that i hurt her. Please give me any ideas as to how i can possibly put a smile on her face with a gift or kind gesture. I know i cant repair the mistake with monetary items (the best gift to her would be i need to work on myself & change) but i just really wanna do sumthing for her. Any of your suggestions are appreciated. Thank u :-)
2006-12-05 02:29:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Im thinking that you two already spend a lot of time with eachother (maybe even live 2gether?) which means u probably already do the stuff like cooking dinner, take showers together, etc. Soooo maybe its time to do sumthing DIFFERENT. Break the pattern of what she's use to & come up with sumthing she would never expect in a million yrs (but sumthng u kno she would love) & then enjoy the look of surprise & happiness on her face. Now this isnt a permanent fix to your issues. You do need to seek help if this is reoccuring. But i think this idea will at least make her smile.
2006-12-05 03:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on what you were yelling and cursing at her about - many times you can make a simple gesture that says so much. Also, you need to consider whether she is an introverted or extroverted type of person. For example, let's say the argument was because you are hesitant about showing affection in public. She may be the type of person who would be overjoyed if, in the middle of a crowded place you grabbed her and gave her a long, hard kiss. However, she may be the type who would not like that...but would be overjoyed if you simply held her hand while walking down the street. Just put yourself in "her shoes" and really think about what would please her...then do it. Good luck!
2006-12-05 02:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just make it up over time. does this happen often? if so, i would change it. that would mean more to her than anything in the world. gifts and stuff is nice but it will always be in the back of her head if something isnt changed. plus changing is hard. really hard. but thats the best gift of all. if you love her, change for the better and work on your anger issues and dont drink until you get to that point.
however, if you want to something in the meantime....
buy flower petals and put them all over the bed and floor of the room. buy a bottel of wine or something. then fresh fruit and chocolate that youcan melt. set it up really romantic. play some old music and everything, cater to her. Tell her that youarent trying to sleep with her but you wanted to give her a night thats at her beck and call. Also a bubble bath would be nice. like i said, be romantic. it will give her a wonderful memory thats worth more than diamonds.
2006-12-05 02:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by kellieghr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a weekend out of town, where you guys could just explore something new and celebrate the beauty of the world. Nothing can draw you closer than a new experience shared together. And yeah, this would take some amount of cash.
2006-12-05 03:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice romantic dinner that is a quiet place to talk would be a wonderful place to start. i wouldn't buy anything that involves gifts. sometimes a nice heart to heart is worth more then the money in the world. flowers also does the trick.
2006-12-05 02:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay....favorite ways my husband hs made me feel good after (or during) a fight....
1) We were on our way homefrom out of town arguing about something... and when we got to our home town, he drove to the park, and tod me that we were going home until I forgave him...he said that to him, being right was not as important as our relationship was.
2) Wheather we admit it or not....flowers do make us feel good...ecspcially if theyre given in front of alot of people (delivered to work, or in front of other couples.)
3) We have a BANNANA PEEL rule in our house. Anything that happened over 36 hours ago is trash....so your not alowed to bring it up OR argue about it. Its trush...like a banna peel.
Mostly, just let her know that you really do apoligize, and together yall can work on fixing whatever yall were arguing about.
2006-12-05 02:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Chris R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one sure way to make amends for a .... up like that is to change your evil ways. Women, who are good listenres, will hear you out when you apologize but are not so quick to forgive. The best way to convince her you mean business is to not be your old self anymore. There is nothing more satisfying to a good lady than a mature, self reliant man. One she can trust not to treat her like ....
2006-12-05 02:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is her favorite thing to do with you? Do that and take care of everything! If it's going to the movies, take her to one and then a nice dinner. Do something that you think she will really appreciate.
2006-12-05 02:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you guys know each other well, Give up one thing that she hates in you and you would not give it up for the world. She will appreciate the effort and be your fan forever.
2006-12-05 02:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by Joltbolt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with her and keep looking at herin public as though you are so proud of her
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2006-12-05 02:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋