But I'm really nervous. I want to, but what's the best way approach this?
2006-12-05 02:24:43 · 38 answers · asked by Anya M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First really think about how you'll feel around her afterwards. I saw your last question and you seem a little confused about your sexual preference... this might be a good way to determine it.
It could really go two ways with you:
1) You know her so well so you'll feel more comfortable with her.
2) Everytime you see her afterwards that's all you'll think about.
Personally, I would try it, but then again I'm bi and I'm not really that shy lol. If you decide you want to do it make sure it's not a planned thing, just let it happen like anything else and you'll be fine. Have fun!!!
2006-12-05 02:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be wary of sleeping with your best friend, if it doesnt work out, you may risk ruining your friendship. If you are curious to see what it is like to sleep with another woman, why dont you go to a gay club and meet someone else there who wants just to have fun.
It really is up to you. If you really fancy your mate, and want to go for it, have an evening in together. Both of you lay on the sofa, put the lights down low and watch a dvd together. Get some drinks in and let nature take its course. If you still havent got down to it by the time the dvd has finished, put some soft music on and have a long meaningful chat.
Please consider your best friends feelings though, she IS a lesbian and may fall in love with you and want more. How is she going to feel if, after you have made love with each other, you dont like it?
If you are that curious, it may be best to have a fling with a different woman to begin with. Unless you and your friend agree from the beginning that it is only a bit of fun.
If it turns out that you are really hetro, lesbian or bi, it does not matter. But make sure you know who you are. You may end up fancying your best friend and be soul mates and partners forever. This is a wonderful thought, but more often than not, this does not happen to many people.
Good luck, let us know what you choose to do, and how you got on. (not the horny details, that is your private business)
I hope you have a great experience....ENJOY!!!! :o) x
2006-12-05 05:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its what you want, then do it.
Go out for a drink or have a meal together and let things go from there.
From your question though, it doesn't sound like you are a fully fledged out there lesbian, maybe you are just curious. Nothing wrong with that though. Just make sure you are not being pressured into anything you don't really want to do.
Like Vlalto said above, if things go wrong, you not only risk making a new experience awkward, but you will lose your best friend too!
x
2006-12-05 02:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be aware of the fact that this will quickly turn into a horse of a different color, and will change the nature of this relationship. Be clear about your expectations and fears with her before going into this. Do you want emotional romance with this person? What are your feelings about dental dams, which are important to protect you against STDs? Are you a lesbian or are you experimenting? Whst is your level of comfort being with another woman? My advice: adress all possible outcomes with her before doing the deed, the more communication you have about the experience, the less nervous I suspect you will be. Be safe, and have fun.
2006-12-05 03:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by defy_gravity42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree with pretty goth angel I think u should make it known that ur friendship is very important and if things dont go the way u expected u'll always be friends!
Just take her out to dinner n a movie sumthin casual and go back to ur place and have a few drinks to get comfortable and just take it from there.
2006-12-05 03:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuddle up on the sofa in front of a movie. It's best if you both wear skirts that way if anything happens it will be easier.
Let your friend make the first moves and respond to what she does to you by smiling and saying things like "that's nice".
Echo all the moves she makes on you, if she strokes your thigh, stroke hers etc.
When it's time for bed allow her to make love to you and then do to her all the things she did to you. Relax and enjoy the moment it will very special for you both. In the morning wake her with a kiss and breakfast in bed.
Good Luck
Marcus X
2006-12-06 01:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your both on your own and cant be disturbed, just sit and have a drink together and take things from there.
I did this a few times with a friend years ago and it was a great experience I often think of as it helps me to c u m.
We were still friends after, it didn't spoil our friendship one bit.
2006-12-05 05:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by YeahYeahYeah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with her just because she asked you too, Only do it if you truly want to. The best approach is just to say you want to accept her offer & take it from there. Just relax & enjoy.
But remember you should value your friendship so if you think it will be weird after then don't do it.
2006-12-05 02:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dannie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Experimenting is a part of nature. Everyone does some sort of experimenting. If you just want to try it out, make sure your friend knows this. Remember, this may be an experiment for you but this is everyday life for her. She may want a relationship or start having feelings for you.
2006-12-05 02:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rebelicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to, so are you attracted to her? Do you want to pursue a relationship? Or you are just curious?
You can do whatever you may want with her, but just be sure that she knows where you stand. If it's just curiosity, make sure she realizes it, so that there will be no awkward feelings in the morning.
But if what you want does not coincide with what she wants, then it's best to turn down this offer.
2006-12-05 03:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋