My wife keeps calling her old male friend. She never told me about him and I have never met him. She says there is no unfaithfulness going on. I don't believe her because she has never introduced him to me and talks to him from her cell phone.
2006-12-05 02:23:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are several kinds of unfaithfulness. She is giving to another person parts of herself that should be reserved for her husband. You should to tell her how you feel about it and ask to meet him. That should give you an idea of what is really going on there.
2006-12-05 02:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Melli 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe her when she tells you there is no cheating going on. It may be she is just a really close friend. I am married and I have a couple of male friends too. Nothing sexual. Not even looking for that. Just is nice to chat with another male sometimes. If you still have doubts, then ask her to introduce you to him. If she makes up some excuse, then you might want to be honest with your feelings towards this relationship. Honesty and communication is always the best way to go. Pray about it first. Never assume anything.
2006-12-05 02:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by blossom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask if she can make arrangements for you to meet this other guy. Maybe go out to dinner for visiting and chat. If she's not willing to do this, then I would be concerned about her intentions.
Is this guy just an old friend, or was there more to the relationship between them than this? I have an old boyfriend that I still keep in touch with today. We occasionally go out for coffee, every couple of months or so, just to catch up on life and visit. But he's also met my husband and I've never hidden our past relationship from my husband. So hubby is okay with this in my case.
2006-12-05 02:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Cakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beginning of many issues and problems to come. You have good reason for concern. If you don't gain control over this matter now in a manner that you CAN have the confidence that you need in her, you never will. It will start to get worse before it will get better. The next thing you know, there will be too much water that has gone under the bridge that is damaging both your hearts felts...things said and done in a hurtful manner. I recommend good Christian counseling if possible. I hope this helps. PEACE!!!
2006-12-05 02:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by David H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is nothing going on should'nt you be able to meet your wifes best male friend ? I think so tell her to invite him over so that you can finally to meet oneanother that way you can use your on instincts about whats really what. When she's on the phone tell her to let you say hi" that way you can talk to him and ask him for yourself about getting together with you and your wife for dinner or a game of golf or whatever your sport is.
2006-12-05 03:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm...you should insist on meeting him cause there is a possiblity that he is a backup if you mess things in your relationship. but I think it's ok to have male friends if your wife is the faithful type and you have a very stable and wonderful marriage.
I have male friends that my husband has not met but heard of ....but my husband and i are very much in love and into each other and he completely trusts me...i even have lunch with my male friends..he knows all of them....there are about 3 or 4of them...
first of all you need to be secure in your marriage..
2006-12-05 02:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have to agree with most of what is being said but i would say talk to her first and then ask if you can meet him if she don't want you to meet him then i will agree that their is more going on then she is telling you .......i have been married for 16 teen years and i also have male friends and i have only told my husband about most of them but i did keep one hidden because we had and emotional affair because i wasn't getting what i wanted from him but i did call it off when i realized i was doing wrong and have not done it since but i did tell him so it would not happen again.........
2006-12-05 02:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she has to use the cell phone, it would certainly look like it to me something was going on.
what has she to hide that she has never told you about him or allowed you to meet him.
You two need to have a serious talk over this situation.
2006-12-05 02:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the circumstances. If he is her old minister or friend from the military or some kind of counselor, its ok.
If they were lovers, dated at some point, or have shared intimacy, I would consider it an insult and give her an ultimatum. Either STOP or she is out the door.
2006-12-05 02:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to learn to trust your wife. I'm in the same situation. My friend also happens to be gay and my husband still questions it. I also have another male friend who is also married.
You married your wife because you loved and trusted her. Show her that trust.
2006-12-05 02:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋