She moved out because she said, she felt unhappy, unloved, and thing were just not working. She first lied tome about her "Room Mate", saying that it was not my friend. A few days later she says that fills in the gaps of what I could not fill. That they might have somthing togeather in the future. She also admitted to holding hands, huging, and going to dinner with this guy. She says she never had sex with him, but i don't know. She also said that my being over-weight was bothing her,and that I have held her back in life.
She is now on her hands and knees begging me back, saying she will do anything so we can be togeather. I don't know if its because she has no money, or if she is truly sorry. If she is truly sorry, how could I ever trust her again. What should I do, Please help the pain of not knowing hurts!
2006-12-05 02:19:19 · 28 answers · asked by Paul T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, it sounds like you are being used. Same old song and dance, looking for greener pastures? She needs to get a grip on her life and it sounds like she really doesn't know what she wants. Sounds like she wanted out and to keep her from feeling the guilt over the separation she laid it all at your feet and you willingly took it. Let her grovel for awhile to see what she was really missing. Don't just accept her back with open arms. Her actions represent that of a master-manipulator and if that is the case, she will continue to hurt and betray you. It will be up to you to decide if that is what you want your life with her to be filled with.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-05 02:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by stacey h 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dude, first of all, sorry for my english...
Well, i think it's a very dificult situation, because is too hard to believe again in a person who had made those things once. But think about: she said she felt unhappy, unloved and other lies. Do you really want to live with a person that seems don't respect you?
Forget about her. You must looking for another girl who gives you love and respect.
Do you know what I am meaning?
2006-12-05 02:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Eduardo O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are going through this, how very painful. What is your gut instinct? I would tell her that you need some answers before you can go on and take some time to think this through. It seems clear that your wife was having an affair. You being overweight is only an excuse.
To boost your self confidence - go to the gym or join weight watchers - good body image can give you a great boost to your self esteem.
2006-12-05 02:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said she was unhappy now, and you have no future together. Its probably true and she only said it because she tough she had found someone to take care of her, and now the new guy didn't work out. I would only and only take her back if she went to counseling, But she will more than likely do it again. Cut your lose, and don't give her a reason to say you held her back.
2006-12-05 02:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she has continuously been loose to bypass any time. Marriage is a known settlement to stay mutually. If she leaves then so is the marriage. tell her that you do not comprehend this different guy and do not opt for your daughters round him yet and till the time each and anybody feels tender with one yet another you should like the toddlers staying with you. obviously she must be paying you youngster help till custody if more advantageous gently shared. next talk the funds and a thanks to somewhat chop up them including her paying her 1/2. do not ignore that employ or residing house funds might want to in elementary words paid with techniques from the guy residing there and a similar ought to bypass for cable, electric powered bill, water or some thing else like that. although, ALL charge playing cards must be cancelled and the debit be paid off including her paying 1/2 the debt. i ought to signify take the load of paying the costs so she ought to ought to write down a examine to you each and each month. interior the properly she will be paying you youngster help, her 1/2 for paying off the charge playing cards and any debt. What all this does is shows her that there are literally not sparkling begins. she will't only bounce from one existence to a distinct and sticking you with the costs. FYI, if she finally ends up with the toddlers 1/2 the time with the purpose to stay away from paying you youngster help its nonetheless works on your want. the different guy likely can "PLAY" dad for a short even as, yet 24/7 will stress him nuts and finally she will be compelled to ensure between her toddlers and the guy, which will make her experience like failure of a mom and someone. the in elementary words extra suggestion is be honest, yet not beneficiant.
2016-11-30 04:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by boshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she got out, had her fling and now feels her guilt. A chick leaves her husband, moves in with another guy, admits to everything but um, the never had sex? riiiiight, want to buy some ocean front property in Montana? Only $2.00 an achre.
2006-12-05 02:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her!
What will be her excuse the next time? She is not very healthy, has few morals or much of a conscience! As far as commitments she is unlikely to change! Sounds like she's feeding you a lot of BS as well!
Trust? I think she blew hers! That is the hardest to ever get back and her rationalizations are poor indicators that she even wants to try!
Learn a lesson and move on, or accept her as she is and be miserable the rest of your life!!
2006-12-05 02:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this what she really wants is the both of you. She wants you for the security and him for the sex. I would say take her back with the stipulation that she have sex with both of you at the same time. Then you will know by the way she reacts what her real intentions are. If she refuses to have both of you at once then you will know that she can be trusted. If she says yes then you will know that she wants as much sex as she can get with as many men as she can.
2006-12-05 05:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she had an affair with the guy. She said she is bothered by your overweight?? If she was worrying about your health and well being, that would be fine but she was just worrying about herself. She isn't a good wife, tell you that for sure.
2006-12-05 02:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for your pain but you cannot take her back. She is playing games, putting her affair on you (the blame). She is a no good wench. Sorry, but its true. Learn from this and divorce her.
2006-12-05 02:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋