i want to start to simplify my life in small ways. but i have no ideas on where to start. can you help? ( fyi- i'm a stay home mom with a 4 and 8 yr old)
2006-12-05 02:14:49 · 5 answers · asked by â?¥sarah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since you didn't leave many details, I can only work on what you did say. I think I understand what you mean.
Being a single mom is very hard but very possible and you can "have" the best of both worlds. What you need to do is focus on yourself a little more. That is the first mistake mom's make. They devote all their time to their childrn, never doing anything for themselfes and mostly out of guilt. Then they become so bogged down, that they can't think straight and the frustration is taken out on the children, unknowingly of course.
So let's start simplfying your life by, findng a honest and trust worthy person to watch your children, at least two days a week for a few hours each day. Take at least one hour to get your nails done, hair blown out or a simple massage. Or buy yourself something and it does not have to be expensive, can be little and sweet but meangingful and something that will make you happy.
Spend another hour creating a budget for yourself, make envelopes and label them with your utilities company's and also make one that says: FUN FUND, put two dollars or five dollars away each time you have the money, and that could be for you alone to use or for you and your children. People forget that a budget is very important, when bills pile up, no massage, nail place or shopping will make you feel better when you are slowly going into debt.
Take another hour for finding a recipe you never tried before and shop for the items that you need. Cooking has always been a relaxing method for me. I love to eat too. :-)
And one day use all your hours to sip some wine, talk to a man, read a book and then come home and hug, hug, hug your children.
Don't feel guilty, for all this is done for your children. They will be happy to see a happy mom. They will do better in shcool when they see you smiling and you will truly enjoy spending time with them.
Is that simple enough?
Enjoy!
2006-12-05 02:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by megabites42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A big order for such a small space: Hard to do you know. Take stock of your situation, school for the kids, church, social functions for all of you. Movies, etc. Budgets for all, time for need, time for wants.
There are so many things to talk about. I would join a youth or young peoples church group. You'll meet all kinds of friends and new kids for the children. There'll be things to do and places to go I'm sure. Good luck.
2006-12-05 02:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a routine.
Go out only one a week or once in a fortnight.
No need to buy too many clothes for the kids.
Get the kids to do things for themselves.
2006-12-05 03:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cook simple, buy their clothes all in the same store, don't clean as often, and make time for yerself by getting them to bed earlier.....and of course become my friend....that's a given
2006-12-05 06:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jim G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋