Are you sorry or glad that you did? How long has it been?
2006-12-05 02:00:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep, all for the sake of preserving the marriage. For better or worse. Went to the church for counseling who all said GOD wants you to honor your vows.
He just got sneakier. The lies continued. I WAS an idiot.
GOD didn't catch VD when he cheated again.
2006-12-05 02:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I did not stay. When I found the marriage was crowded, I practically vomited in his face. Marriage is Trust, Admiration, Respect and Passion. With the trust gone, I knew enough about counseling to realize that even if we got into therapy, it would be two years minimum before we could rebuild it, and of course the old idea once a cheater always one....was in the back of my head...... I left an 18 year old marriage --- just walked away. Told him to file, sell everything, split our assets, tell me how much I could spend on a house, because I was leaving......since he was a big poobah in the community, he could tell anyone anything he wanted, he was staying and he earned a living there. I moved to another state, and never looked back. We had it all---$$$, travel, lovely home, big in the community, you name it, we had it. And I left. The idea that he had been intimate with another woman was nothing I could stomach, and I knew I could never fully forgive, nor forget. You cannot unscramble an egg -- you can make something else with it (maybe) but you can't unscramble it. I chose to not try..... and have never been sorry.
2006-12-05 12:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my wife had an afair in 2004. Comming from a broken home, I vowed to never leave my wife. I didn't want another man teaching my boys anything. The thought of seeing another man playing football with my boys was unbearable. So I decided to forgive her and keep the family together.
Guess what? Jan Feb and March of 2006 she had another affair I found out about in April. **** on me once, shame on you. **** on me twice, shame on me. I filled for divorce in April, been separated since.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. The reasons they give will change, however, it's the person that's looking outside the marriage that won't change. You need to leave the ADULTURER! You are the only one getting hurt here.
2006-12-05 10:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by almondjoy_1000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my fiance have been together for 7 yrs, and he did cheat on me with his ex wife.... I blew up..... Sometimes I'm sorry that I took him back because the trust level is not where it should be, and he sometimes accuses me of cheating only because he did.. But at other times our relationship is good.. Its so up and down since it happened... It happened the first time about 5 yrs ago, but I have caught them talking on the phone since then, so I'm sure there are things I don't know about, even though I don't think they have had sex since then, but they shouldn't even talk on the phone, because all she does is try to get him back, but yet she is remarried.. She cheated on my fiance when they were married and left him.. I don't know, it confuses the hell out of me.. The more I write the more mad I get... uuugghhh...
2006-12-05 10:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did it, and its been about a month, so far its ok but we dont have a computer in the house anymore, and i am gonna keep a close eye on her. Not smother her, just keep my eyes open. I always thought it would never happen to us, but boy was i wrong. We are actually divorced because of it, it was final in june. So she finally convinced me she wouldnt ever do it, that she was on pills and stuff and it wasnt her.....anyway whatever lol. So we are gonna give it our best. We have 2 kids together
2006-12-05 10:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a spouse commits adultery and you take him back then you are an idiot because he will do it again. taking him back is only saying that what he did was ok.
2006-12-05 10:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by *Sweet_Kisses* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , he still says he didn't. i think if he would admit it and take responsibility then it would be easier to start the forgiveness but after a year of him destroying my trust that is all we have fought about for a year and i don't see us stopping until he admits it. plus he still talks to the women even after they both ruined my trust he doesn't care. so in my situation i am sorry i have stayed i thought i was doing it for the children but it is for my own selfish reasons of not wanting to lose my husband . they would be better of with two homes i think because he wouldn't be constantly belittling me and hurting me.
2006-12-05 11:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
took her back and wasted $1200 on counseling?? counselor was trying to get him sum while I was paying to get helped! we lasted another 2 years before she screwed around on me again this time with my co-worker of 8 yrs....divorce was the best thing I have ever done..learned just how good I was on the job met the love of my life at my new job...lived a decent life and am happy with who and where I am ...just need somebody special to spend the rest of my journey with...
2006-12-05 10:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did, and they were right. Now I am smarter, stronger, and beautiful to boot once I lost his 180 lbs.
2006-12-05 10:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by big mommasweeta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, never did
2006-12-05 10:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋