should my friend get pregnant by her boyfriend?

Answer 1

No she'll regret it later, and most likely will not be with that boyfriend a few months down the road.

Answer 2

Why would she want to? A baby is a gift from God true enough but she needs to wait for a commitment. I've seen it too many times where the girl gets pregnant and the guy leaves her because it's not what he thought it would be. Tell her that she needs to realize that this baby will come to this world depending on her for everything regardless if he's there are not. She'll be a parent to this child 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 30-31 days a month, 365 (366 days, leap year) days a year. So she needs to be sure that she can mentally, physically and emotionally handle that responsibility. Babies are easy to care for when you're pregnant because they're not here but she'll see how hard it truly is once she does get pregnant.

Answer 3

Your friend should wait to get pregnant when her relationship has a more stable title. Like Husband and Wife. Even fiances. Having a baby is not something to take lightly. Most people when trying to conceive think about there feelings only. This isn't about your friend or her boyfriend. It has to be about the baby. Bringing a life into this world without stability is not a little selfish , but A LOT selfish. Raising a child means to be selfless!

Answer 4

NO! That is one of the stupidest ideas I have ever heard, and I've heard a lot of harebrained schemes!

She should go to school, graduate, and get into college and study something and get a degree.

You know what will happen if she gets pregnant?

She might not even graduate high school. I knew a girl who hung out with friends of mine who got pregnant when she was in 9th grade (I was in 10th when she was in 9th) - I didn't even know she was pregnant because I didn't see her that often (I was in a big-ish school), but then she showed up in my favorite teacher's classroom one day after school (I was talking with him when she came in), and she had a baby in a baby carrier. She had dropped out to take care of her baby boy.

That's just... it's one thing to happen on accident - then it's rather tragic, especially if the girl is smart and has a lot of promise like that one did. It's an entirely different thing to do it on purpose. Then you wonder whether she's entirely all right in the head.

Jeez. Grow up, people, will you please?

Answer 5

How old is your friend 15? NO. The key word here is BOYFRIEND...NOT HUSBAND. No she shouldnt by her boyfriend. Does our society no longer have any morals????? This is the reason there is so much welfare. I personally do not jump at the idea of paying my taxes out to people like this. Maybe I am jumping to conclusions....but its just a guess that anyone that would come out on yahoo q and a and ask this question is prob in hs or very young....yes lets welcome into the world yet another teen mother that isnt even trying to prevent preg.

Answer 6

While it is not neccessary to be married to have and raise a child together, both must be responsible enough and committed enough to the relationship to stay together for a minimum of 18 years and raise the child together. Most adolescent relationships are lucky to last 18 months, let alone 18 years. I would recommend your friend wait until she is sure her mate will stay around to raise the baby. It is an expensive, time consuming process to raise a child. My husband and I were not married for a long time and we currently have four children and one on the way. I knew from our relationship before any child was conceived that he would not leave me and any child we had would be secure in a two parent home. It is extremely important to have two happy parents in a home. These type of homes have the healthiest(mentally) children. Parents that can sustain a long term relationship teach their children how to do the same, both with friendships and with mates. I'm not saying single parents don't do the same thing, but it is easier to teach by example. Also, she has to think of herself. Is this man going to support and love her through every single change in her life? What if she gains a hundred pounds during her first pregnancy and can't shed the weight? will he stop loving her and become cold and remote? What if she can't stand the very thought of sex during the pregnancy? Will he start seeing other women to ease his own bodily needs? Or will he help encourage her about her weight, still telling her she's beautiful? If she goes into severe postpartum depression will he try to help her out of it or will he just leave, not even talking to her about it? These are very serious issues. You need to be sure of a man before you make children with him. Real men do not want baby mama's. Most real men that I've met will not date a woman with children. I'm talking young, single, mentally healthy men looking for a long term relationship with ms right. You also need to guage his mental maturity. If he is not ready to discuss marriage, he is not ready for a child. My husband and I discussed marriage many times and were engaged by the time we had our first. In my opinion, you friend needs to evaluate and weigh each of these questions thoroughly. I don't believe men are ready to settle down before they are 25 or so. There are a few exceptions where the guy is ready in his late teens, or early 20's. Good Luck to your friend.

Answer 7

i wouldnt recomend it. Me and my boyfriend got pregnant by accident. However we decided to go through with it because we were going to get married anyways we just decided to do it sooner after we found out also we were financially good. If the relationship is just bf and gf and no long term future no because it is not fair on the child. If there is long term future you must consider the financial side of it are they financially stable enough to look after a child? if this is no then your friend shouldnt.

Answer 8

i don't know how old your friend is or if she wants to do this to try and keep him. having a baby is not going to hold on to him. she should not be making plans to have a child with this man unless she knows for a fact that he is going to be there no matter what. im 22 and im pregnant but i am no longer with my child father by choice. i didn't get pregnant to keep him i didn't know i was pregnant until we broke up. from my point of view everything that is good to you ain't good for you.

Answer 9

It is really up to them two because it depends on how they feel about it, but first they need to ask themselves, Why do I really want a child? Can I support this child financially and Is there enough trust in our relationship, because one wrong move can mess them up! The main thing is are they even responsible enough to take care of themselves? Before they bring a new edition into the world. Don't let it mess up YOUR FUTURE!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

It depends on the circumstances. If I was going by my past experiences I would say no. She needs to wait till she is married and I wish I would of now. I do not regret my daughter though and I can not imagine my life without her but I wish I would of waited to have her till I had a husband.