Husband is looking up woman on the internet at work, says he wanted to see where they are from and what their background is. One was a sporscaster , another a news woman, another a country singer, and I'm not sure about the rest. Is it normal for him to do this when he's married? I'm really having a hard time with it. We do have a good relationship in all aspects of the the word marraige. I would really like a guys opinion also. Thanks
2006-12-05 01:13:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have asked him to stop and he said he has and is very sorry that he hurt me , but did not consider this cheating. I asked him to put his self in my place and how would he feel. I know guys need the visual but it doesn't lesson the hurt. Thanks for all your comments it does help.
2006-12-05 01:27:20 · update #1
Lawd people! Sometimes men have crushes on women that they would never meet. Hell I have a thing for Halle Berry and I got pics of her on my laptop. Does that mean I am cheating? No it means I am a healthy man that likes women. We all fantasize. We see attractive people and wonder if you still got the goods to get them or you see a sexy woman/man on television and think they are the sexiest. There is nothing wrong with that. What defines a man is not his desire for women but his ability to remain faithful despite those desires. Put things in perspective and don't make a bonfire where there is only a campfire. I mean are these women he has contact with? If that is the case then worry but if they are so far from his grasp you should just realize he is being a man and that there is nothing wrong with that as long as he respects you.
2006-12-05 01:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset if my husband was doing this. In my opinion it sounds like he's looking elsewhere. Why would a married man want to talk to other women. I mean my hubby likes to watch porn occasionally and it bothered at first. Finally I came to accept it's just a man thing. But I made him promise that he wouldn't chat with other women, or watch web cams or anything that involved a real live woman. He said he doesn't do that but promised anyway. See men do need visual stimulation, I get that, but they don't need to be getting to know these women. You know what I mean?
2006-12-05 10:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think men stop thinking and looking at other women just cos they are married??? They are married, not dead...
If you are so bothered by it, ask him why he is so interested???
And ask if he is also interested in porn... If he is, it is all perfectly normal... Perhaps you should stop seeing it as something against you and try and embrace your husbands interest, or start looking at other guys... See what he does then...
And when someone says that they have a good relationship, then sometimes it is because they are missing the bigger picture...
2006-12-05 09:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a gut but, most men fantasize about being with another woman if that is as far as it goes I wouldn't worry but, if it goes farther then that like an obsession I think that he might need some help or a good Slap up side the head.
2006-12-05 09:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by michigan_redneck_lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are men. We are visually stimulated. Is there something in common with the personalities that he is looking at (brunettes, long legs, funny, sharp dressers)? Don't put him on the spot, but just ask him what is attracting his eye - you might be surprised and he probably hasn't thought about it himself. Use humour. I think it's too early to say he's cheating with that alone.
All it might take is some open communication or a push-up bra and tight sweater!
2006-12-05 09:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for men to have fantasies about other women, it doesn't mean he's cheating. Try looking up "kinky" stuff on the net together. You never know, you mite both get a good laugh or find something you both want to try!
2006-12-05 12:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by metalbu11dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends...These women he is looking up.....Are they all women from TV? If so dont worry about it. Only worry if he starts looking up women he could actually get! Not from TV dream world.
He is just curious and that is natural. As long as that is as far as it goes......
But the most important thing is talk to him about it and express your concern.
2006-12-05 09:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Just here. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they celebrities, or "famous" women? If so, it's not too unusual for people to be interested about them and try to find information. I'm curious about certain celebrities myself, but it doesn't mean I'm trying to cheat on my wife. I think we need more information from you before we can advise.
2006-12-05 09:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dosent meen he is cheating. Tell him it upsets you and talk about it to him, if he loves you he will stop it for you. I suppose it could just be a curious thing for him, like escaping reality for a while.
2006-12-05 09:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for love in all the wrong places
2006-12-05 09:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by John Scary 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋