i just started a new job working as a class room assistant, i'm 18..but i'm so shy! i don't feel comfortable with people at all...when the teachers talk to me, i get all embarrassed and i become so dumb,its weird its as though my IQ decreases and decreases!! i end up mixing my words and speaking a whole load of crap...plus all the teachers keep asking me why i'm so quiet?? what can i do to be liked by everyone and to feel comfortable...so i actually enjoy my job!
2006-12-05 01:01:42 · 7 answers · asked by ☮Luwayla☮ 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have to believe in yourself. Write (or type up) personal affirmations and put them all over your house or room. Say things like this:
I am a confidant person.
I am intelligent.
I can handle any situation with grace.
I am comfortable being myself.
Read your affirmations daily, like before you go to bed and when you wake up. When people ask you questions, take a breath and think about your affirmations before you answer. Answering slowly and thoughtfully is not a bad thing.
Try to force yourself into social situations. (for practice). If you can find a friend at your job, that would help a lot. Strike up a conversation with someone about a part of your job, like " Child X seems to really like math, how can I encourage her?" even if you know the answer. Asking opinions is a good way to start up a conversation.
Making yourself helpful can help too. Volunteer to do jobs that maybe others don't like to do.
Keep practicing.....it will help. I used to be really shy and I still am reserved sometimes. I used to get upset when my mom wanted me to call restaurants to order take out! I finally decided that I wasn't going to be miserable anymore and forced myself to join clubs at school and volunteer. Once I opened up, things got easier. I can't get everone to like me, but everyone knows that I work hard and people respect that.
Good luck! I hope this will help you......
2006-12-05 01:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questions:
1. Do you like your job? If not, resign. I you do, you should show enthusiasm.
2. Do you have strong self esteem and sense of confidence? If you don't build it now. How? v be smart in so many ways. Talk with substance not just yak about insensible stuffs.
3. Stop paying attention to what others do. Its not your problem. Your problem is always HOW TO MINGLE. Learn to appreciate others' natural ways no matter what it is. Learn from them so you know how to deal with them. Stop being pessimistic, cynical or critical of anyone. Nobody is perfect not even you.
4. Know your weaknesses. Check your personality, is it boring? is it antagonistic? Is it hard to please? etc. If you have more negative attitudes and qualities than positive, turn every negative to positive.
5. Are you always cheerful and appreciative of others? If not, go kill yourself. There's no room for selfishness or self centeredness on earth.
6. Do you easily blow your top? If you do, get into rehab. Because being mean or easily get upset can only cause trouble and breaks good relationships.
7. Are you friendly? If not learn from people who gain freinds simply by being a good friend. Not a fair weather friend, ok.
8. Use your friends as your mirror to improve yourself.
9. Overcome your shyness by deciding to do it----> Right away. There's nothing to be shy about. No body is perfect.
10. Believe in yourself because no else will if you don't.
2006-12-05 09:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read books on a variety of subjects, read the newspaper and talk about what is current in the world, city, etc. Being shy is a nice thing- you just don't realize it yet. Practice being a little extroverted, put yourself in situations where extroverted people are and try to mimic their behavior. Don't be fake about it either- people can see right through someone who is naturally outgoing and someone who is faking it. I'm sure you're not shy and quiet around friends, family, etc.
2006-12-05 09:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get over thinking any one notices, most people are so self obsessed ,we would be supprised how little they notice any thing,
stay with the things you know or answer thier questions ,if you are talking about what they want they are just hearing that you are saying ,but if your setting a topic ,you arnt feeling sure about they pick up on it
your teaching they trust you to know they can respect that
its not about being liked its about teaching
teach them they cant help but like you
dont worry about the other teachers ,they are only teasing ,or testing .you know you know your stuff teach ,
how to handle those questioners is to say hello ,ask them little questions or advice then just listen ,they ,teachers love people who listen ,and more they love people who actually hear what they say
ask for advice on little worries ,and dont think about worry
if you get lost in what you were saying ask a question to test the pupils and to help you get back on track
so how do you get back on track ,jimmy?
2006-12-05 09:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was very introverted as a child.I got angry at myself and begin Reading positive thinking books.and lieing to myself and saying things to myself like I have an outgoing person. I have confidence I am sure of myself .Its a type of self hynosis.be yourself. your a fine person.dont doubt yourself.have faith.your a person with a lot of talents. go for it. Good luck
2006-12-05 09:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and get a part time job in a pub at weekends - this cured my shyness. Mo
2006-12-05 09:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by eddyf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax and just let it go...'cause you only get on shot when opportunitty comes once in a lifetime you can't miss your chance to blow...
the cure to shyness is confidence...just look at the mirror and tell yourself what you see, and what you would like to see...fight everyday for that vision!
have a nice day...and bone them all the way!
2006-12-05 09:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋