4 good friends of mine are broken hearted due to their men cheating and i myself have recently broke up with my partner of 3 years after finding out he was playing too.i can honestly say all the men i know who are supposed to be in a serious relationship are playing their women.whats going on?none of us are ugly,far from it nor do we
nag unnessesarily
stop em going out
give em hard time 4 nothin
deny them sex-the more the better!
please,any men out there help us with this.have we been too nice to them or what?or are all men dawgs?or is it an age thing,were late 20's.
2006-12-05 00:41:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No sweetie, it not what you are doing, or your fault, it is just that you are a victum of the times and trends. You see ladies, today in the society that we live- our life styles, trends, and all- there is no advantage to keeping a long term relationship or being married. Darling, we don't live on the farm anymore, we don't struggle together anymore, we don't pray together, we don't nurture each other, we don't depend on each other for emotional support like we should. So, most men have figured out that it is easier to enjoy the good parts of a relationship without having to put up with all the other trials that goes along with it. I hate to put it this way ladies, but in lots of cases, the women are not worth the trouble to the men. Now that is not to say that this game can't be played both ways, and some women do that, it is just that it is not the natural nature of most women to be that way!
So, all I can say, is protect your feelings, and your heart and get whatever you can out of it and hope that one of your men will think that you are worth the trouble to keep you. If he don't feel it in his heart, there is nothing that you can do to change it. G
2006-12-05 01:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are virtually nil and that's coming from a man!
Here's a scenario to try on any man you you.
He's working away from home, staying in a hotel and a stunning female asks to share his bed for the night, she then says her best friend is going to join them too.
Nobody will ever know, she wants no further contact, etc ,etc.
I can't think of any man i know who would turn it down, married or single so there is a point where all men will cheat.
Things have changed a lot over the last 20 years and many women will do the same if roles are reversed, it's not just the domain of men anymore.
So should we all stop looking for this image of the perfect partner who will never ever cheat no matter what the circumstances?
Maybe should we accept that EVERYONE can be tempted at some point and so we should enter into a relationship not only knowing it could happen but to discuss it openly and make sure in ourselves that when temptation comes our way WE make sure we don't give in these feelings.
2006-12-05 00:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and you can't have me because I'm taken. You are looking in the wrong place. There are still decent guys out there. The bad ones give us nice ones the bad rep. It works the same way with nasty women - they ruin the rep for the nice ones. It isn't fair, but life isn't fair. Try using the E Harmony service, or something like that instead of trying to pick up some loser in a bar (if that's what you've been doing), or join a club that interests you and try to meet a mate there. Good luck!
2006-12-05 00:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's perspective, I want to let you know that you're only treating the symptoms but leaving the ailments untouched. If I'll ask you, how were those relationships built and upon what foundations were they built. See, picking up yourself in a movie or pub house, then without any hessitation, going straight to have a wonderful sex and tomorrow you're complaining that the relationship has hit a rock. I think people should devot more time to solidly building a relationship on love rather than passion or lust.
2006-12-05 00:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if what you say is true then it is their (men) loss, & your gain.
You know the answer to your question already! However given your circumstances who can blame you for asking it?
However hard it maybe to comprehend right now, you have to try & stay positive.
It now gives you an opportunity to try again, & find a man that deserves your love.
Give yourself time, don't rush into anything, & love will come round again.
2006-12-05 05:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its cause 90% of the women stock just wanna be shagged about, and don't really care to wait for that white moment of finding that extra special man who loves them with all their heart. Instead most people are more concerned with being with someone, even if its the wrong person.
2006-12-05 00:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Narky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have the same problem, well had, so i gave up on men, its so hard to find a man who will treat us right, this is why women go to women, not that i evea would, but im just saying thats all, i wish i had the answer, but the thing is, this is a man, they will never change, i think they can sometimes b worse then the wild animal
2006-12-05 00:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of this in the past. My old gf told me that her and her gf are all getting dogged and cheated on, it seems to happen in groups or at the same time.
I dont know because Ive never been the one to cheat. I think it is morals and how the man was raised as to weather he respects you or not.
that was terrible thing to do to you, I hope you can get over it as soon as possible.
good luck.
2006-12-05 00:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you might think that all men are bas****s after what you told us, but you and your friends have just been extremely unlucky.
Most guys are entirely trustworthy. Don't give up, I'm sure you will find someone soon.
2006-12-05 00:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam but iam spoken for sorry!!
i would never cheat as i would hate to be cheated on, my partner of 10 years is the same. its a respect thing. are we a rare couple
or just lucky?
2006-12-05 06:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋