i am happily married with kids, but i have just met this man who presses all the right buttons. wat do i do?

Answer 1

I totally disagree with the above responders who say, "If you were happily married, you wouldn't have any buttons to push." Nonsense. We are all human, and there is no spouse so perfect that we can't sometimes feel attracted to others. Let me rephrase that -- even if someone had a PERFECT spouse, it would still be normal and natural to find other attractions. So, the question is not whether or not you should be attracted to this man, because, the fact is, you are. The question is, what do you do about it? And this is a long way around to saying what some others have said in one word: nothing. Well, that's not precisely all you should do. Enjoy the attention, feel flattered and pretty and special. Use those feelings to feel sexy, and then, each day you feel that way, go home and give your husband the best lovin' of his life. In other words, use the fuel this man is providing to make your life better, your marriage stronger. We all enjoy feeling alive and desired, so make use of it while it lasts.

Answer 2

If you are happily married you would not know anything about another man pressing the right buttons. Perhaps what you need to do is go home to your husband and tell him that you feel like the two of you are stuck in a rut and you want to add some spice to your romance.

Once you get your marriage back up to par, then you will stay away from other men. Just make sure that you do not do anything with any other man that you would regret. Once you destroy the trust in your marriage, you destroy the marriage.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 3

Cease all communications and contact with that man. Make your kids the priority and think about the consequences of getting caught. Don't give your spouse grounds to have you declared unfit. If you want this man then end your marriage first. If you really don't want to do that then your answer is to stay true to your vows. The damage an affair can cause far outweighs the momentary enjoyment of it. It can take far longer to repair and often it isn't repairable. You are headed down a bumpy road if you don't nip this in the bud now. Your children will ultimately pay the price so don't delude yourself into believing that this wouldn't affect them. Your entire being will change. Your attitude etc... and your oh so very "happy marriage" will no longer be and they will pick up on that. Any man who would pursue a relationship with a married woman doesn't really respect her or her marriage and ultimately would show it in other ways as well.

Answer 4

Don't do it. Sit down and think about the worst case scenario consequences...if you can face the consequences, as expressed so eloquently by others, in the cold hard light of day then and only then should you even entertain the possibility.

My belief is that you are swept away by this man but dont really want to throw away everything you have. If indeed you are happily married then you have made vows to be faithful and true, despite whatever button-pushers may come along (fact).

It is easy to be swept away by feelings so I would suggest that if, in the cold hard light of day you think it would be disastrous for you and those you love to start anything with this man, then make a promise to yourself that you will avoid any situations that may lead to sometihng happening with this man. Be honest with yourself and certainly dont lead him on.

I wish you all the best, as while I have not cheated, I understand how easy it is to feel swept away and to not think about what you are doing before it is too late.

Answer 5

Remove the battery from your buttons, try to fill your time with your home and kids, don't do something you will regret later on, just keep the picture of your kids in your mind and always remember that you will end up with a broken heart, broken home and broken hearted kids.
I'm sure that you are happily married but sometimes boredom can affect you real well, try to do something exciting with your husband , light your fires again, this is all you need.
Good luck

Answer 6

One would assume that if your happily married you would be immune to poachers that would only totally wreck your life in all aspects. Attention from another can be very flattering, but leave it alone. All that glitters is not always gold. Stay with what you know to be right. Think about the outcome should you go against all good reason, the effect on your husband, your children, your family, your friends. Devastation in all directions I would assume. Will you do that to the people who love you?

Answer 7

A completely happily married woman already is having all her buttons pushed. There is probably something lacking which this other man fulfills, and it could be passion or excitement, which quite often leads to attractions.You are probably contented with your life, but comepletely happy? What do you think?

Answer 8

Walk as far away as you can, or you wont be happily married for long, you know your husband , but you dont really know this other man, dont ruin what you have for a thrill
What if he stops hitting the right buttons

Answer 9

Well you weigh the pros and cons, decide which is best? Think of what a separation or finding out the truth will do your kids.

Because it's a new relationship, it' s bound to be interesting but with time, you would realise that is no better than what you have with your family. Having said that you deserve to be happy, at the end of the day it's your call.

Answer 10

Leave the guy alone. Concentrate on why you are "happily" married and focus on your children. Then you will realize that you don't have time to be dealing with the guy whose pushing the buttons.